my husband cheated on my while i was in the usa he was in the uk went to a pub and f**ked up he did not tell me a friend but when i asked him he said it was true said she was hotter than me and blamed me for it my question what should i do cope leave i do not have an idea
2006-10-17 11:00:15 · 24 answers · asked by Hillary B 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Leave it to a man to blame his wife for his dirty deeds and to say she was hotter than you then I say your husband is a swine that his hot **** and he deserve eachother..sureilll
2006-10-17 11:06:10 · answer #1 · answered by COOKIE 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
And you want to stay with this dude? You should kick his sad butt out and don't worry my dear, the pain of ending your marriage will be much better than the pain of being in an miserable marriage and pretending to be the happy couple.
Most re-commitments to a marriage after something like this, tend to fail anyway, and your husband sure sounds like a pretty mean guy to me and someone that isn't really going to stop hurting you in the long run. Despite the situation that he may well regret this incident and wants to get back with you and recommit to his marriage, I do have my doubts as to its success.
I think your best cutting your losses and set yourself free to find someone that will really love, value and care for you, and not stay with someone who cheats on you. Is that real love for you if he can do that?
I'd say it's his loss - and your gain.
Goodluck
2006-10-17 18:34:07 · answer #2 · answered by snogger18 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First can you trust him anymore? Do you think you can forgive his mess up ? Will he do it again? How in the heck was it your fault you were not there. Honey you are not his keeper. He is responsible for his on actions not you. I can not tell you what you should do but that is a few of the things you need to think about before you decide because once the trust is gone there is nothing left. You will be afraid to leave him because he will say it's your fault and we all know better than that.
I wish you luck
2006-10-17 18:10:37 · answer #3 · answered by liza 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
my husband cheated on me before we married and we split and we met up for a drink and by this time id got all my confidence back and we got on so well we got married and he knows he made a mistake. I think its what your heart says hun but good luck whatever path you choose to take, but remember if something is meant to be then it will even if it is 10 years down the line.
2006-10-17 20:57:59 · answer #4 · answered by only me 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Only you can decide, I would leave ,because I have pride, strength of character, and if he thought someone was better than me I would be out of there. He will treat you bad, you are playing into his hands, act like a fool and he will treat you like one. Have some self respect, if you don't he will not respect you.
Maybe he will realise what he has lost when you are gone !!!!!!!!
2006-10-17 18:07:52 · answer #5 · answered by Dolly Blue 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If u love him,or r lonely or woteva, it'll b temptin 2stay 2try 2fix things.But if he's blamin u,he's not even truly sorry 4doin it.Try 2c it like this:if u stay wiv him,u're deprivin urself of REAL love.x
2006-10-17 18:09:58 · answer #6 · answered by viv friend 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Leave the insensitive male and go find yourself a real man to love. He obviously does not understand commitment, and probably thinks that the "hot one" would actually tolerate his crap for more than one night.
Some of my brethren are soooo stupid...
2006-10-17 18:11:50 · answer #7 · answered by zdrgnslyr 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Besides him telling you that, yes I slept with because she was hotter then you. Did he also mention how sorry he was and that it would never happen again, and that he loves you more then life itself. You should follow your heart.
2006-10-17 18:08:51 · answer #8 · answered by WhyNotMe 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You have 2 choices, stay with a man who treats you like crap and will do again or leave.
2006-10-21 05:40:01 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
He blamed you for his cheating? He will probably do it again and has probably done it before. If he won't agree to marriage counseling, your marriage is over.
2006-10-17 18:03:56 · answer #10 · answered by notyou311 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋