We get into arguments all the time over stupid things and he really worked up. He'll mutter things under his breath that really bother me. I think he wants me to hear them too. He mentions things like hurting me, or I'm stupid, he'll call my a cun t at the drop of a hat. The other day he wanted a bIowjob and I said no and he muttered (as I walked away) about divorcing me.
I'm almost 22 (Air Force) and he's 24 (civilian)I've also posted other things about him in past questions:
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http://answers.yahoo.com/question/index;_ylt=Ak5G9N5mrMcwC8Hbyj0eIp3sy6IX?qid=20061009234709AAZ1rsz
http://answers.yahoo.com/question/index;_ylt=AjfsVm_PaSlq.rASb.izM5Lsy6IX?qid=20061009233757AA3Ugds
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2006-10-17 10:26:33 · 23 answers · asked by ur a Dee Dee Dee 5 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
wow, I typed so fast that I made a LOT of errors! I couldn't type as fast as I was thinking... I'm really not an idiot. Sorry for the grammar
2006-10-17 10:27:56 · update #1
Sad, especially his bizarre and degrading request. While you shouldn't divorce him unless he's unfaithful, chances are that it could occur. Oh, wait a minute. Well, I guess if he divorces you, then the guilt would be upon him.
I don't really know what to recommend until then, but I hope you're not having sex with him.
A woman has to be so careful when getting married. It sounds like this one is a real loser.
2006-10-17 10:30:33 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
It sounds to me as if he doesn't respect you anymore. If he's become verbally abusive, then physical abuse isn't far behind. It all comes down to how much you're willing to put up with.
Maybe he does want out, but doesn't want the divorce to be his doing, so he'll just treat you like crap until you divorce him.
Reguardless, you don't deserve to be treated any less than human and you need to make a decision about your own happiness.
If you are truly in love, love is worth fighting for, but not at the cost of soul.
2006-10-17 17:31:55 · answer #2 · answered by princessslave 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
no you are not a idiot but it sounds like you are with one i had a relationship that was verbally abusive along with physical and all the ugly things he says you know are not true but it actually dose deep down and it will effect how you feel about yourself i would say either counseling or leave the fool i have been with a man for 14 years and not once have i been called a foul name or spoken to in any ugly way nor do we fight and let me tell you it is possible and wonderful to have
2006-10-17 17:55:54 · answer #3 · answered by PAULINA S 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Do you really need help here? This guy is psycho! Why do you women take this schit? You obviously must like this treatment. I mean even an one celled animal learns to move away from bad treatment...why can't you?
If you have no children with this guy then leave! You owe him nothing! YOu seem like a really wonderful person....go find someone who'll treat you decent.......but then maybe you don't want that? Try counseling for you to find out why you take this from your husband!
Good luck
2006-10-17 17:32:45 · answer #4 · answered by hoyhoydc 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
sounds like his true colors have started to show. Since you can't change him, then what I would do is change myself. I would start smiling more, complain less, start dressing nicer..every day of the week, make sure hair and clothes are perfect. When other men start taking interest, maybe he'll start being nicer. If not, then at least you'll be looking hot when "mr. right" comes along!!
2006-10-17 17:33:52 · answer #5 · answered by H-Bomb 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You didn't mention how you treat him. Giving head might be demeaning to some women. Does he go down on you? He might be suffering from depression or have some sort of substance abuse. Words don't seem to matter as much these days. I wouldn't give up on your marriage too easily. Maybe you need to go to IRAQ TDY for a while.
2006-10-17 17:47:07 · answer #6 · answered by bush_is_an_idot 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i wish when my ex husband had begun the name calling and verbal abuse i would have divorced him for the disrespect, but i stayed in the marriage, and said nothing, only to find out he had been cheating on me for a while.i finally divorced him, and 3 tears later all has turned out for the best in my life. no one deserves to be talked to like that, i think i stayed longer than i should have because i was in total denial that the man i loved could really be this way. but if a man will talk to his wife like that than believe he truly doesn't care, and he quite possibbly could be involved with another woman.
2006-10-17 19:06:39 · answer #7 · answered by jude 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well dear I don't think that someone who loves you would call you those names and whisper nasty things about you under your breathe. Leave and find someone who appreciates you - hopefully you do not have children. Your husband is bordering on being abusive - you are only 22 - it will get worse I guarantee it.
2006-10-17 17:29:49 · answer #8 · answered by skepticseeksmystic 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I think that he is the one with the problem. If I had a wife I wouldn`t talk to her like that and then want her to make me happy. What does he really think. You would be that dummy.The only dummy that would be here is the one that stays in that relationship.
2006-10-17 17:37:51 · answer #9 · answered by Step 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm not going to read the other questions... It's not necessary when it is obvious he has no respect for you.
If he can't open up about what is bothering him then your safety is at risk. If he threatens to hurt you then someday he probably will.
2006-10-17 17:35:33 · answer #10 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋