me and my husband have been married 4 months and have been together for 1 yr 8 mo. I recently found out that he has been seen his x since we have been together. I don't know what to do. When i found out i was ready to go. then he promised he would be good to give him time so that he could show me that he would change let about 2 weeks later i find out that he saw her again that day he left me with dinner and guest. I can't belive it. I have left everything for him i moved to IL from AZ for him and yet he has done this. im afraid that if i stay well i can say it myself he is goin to do it again but i don't know how to just leave WE have a house now, i started school again, new job everthing im so scared and hurt and the worst of all im alone. he was all i have here and then he gose and dose that to me. i don't know what to say to him what to do. I wish i could just tell him and go but i don't know how, ive written many letters but i fail to give them to him. He has done somuch.
2006-10-17 10:26:13 · 9 answers · asked by lost1985 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
This marriage is over He is a lying no good loser and is that how you want to live ..you say i have no where to go call your family a friend what you gave up does not matter to him how could you let a man treat you this way leave him he is wor thless there is a better life out there for you jobs are a dime a dozen work out the buying of the house or mr scum bag will be living there with his ex.there are schools all over the country,,,you are making excuses you are a women who is strong and you need to stand up for yourself..bless you sureillll
2006-10-17 10:38:48 · answer #1 · answered by COOKIE 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am so sorry that this has happened 2 u i can relate. i was going 2 say give him a chance everyone deserves a second chance but if he then went and seen her again well like u said u know that he is going 2 do it again.i could just tell u that u should leave but only u can make that decision.only u know how this will effect u,as u have said u have started a new job & are doing other things so for now maybe u should just take some time for urself 2 think things over.&should u decide 2 stay maybe thats not such a bad idea it could just be the thing u both need 2 sort things out.& if not well then make ur way home.what ever u decide GOOD LUCK.
2006-10-17 17:47:02 · answer #2 · answered by jackie c 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
it´s a very difficult situation. but don´t worry, there´s nothing in this world that doesn´t has a solution. First of all YES you should leave him, it wasn´t just a small or simple affair. He cheated on you before getting married and after. He´ll do this again and again for his entire life.
You are now at school and got a new job, guess what?! you´re not so in the beggining. You already took the first step. Move on and continue with your life........away from HIM.
2006-10-17 17:33:01 · answer #3 · answered by whothatBE 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Truthfully I think you should leave him. I know it's hard but it's better to leave now then have to go through this all over again. I've done that mistake and i've regretted it. I've wished that i would of just left in the first place then get hurt all over again. Maybe just try to find a room mate and finish your schooling. I know it's hard but concentrate on what you need to do (school) and start over.
2006-10-17 17:40:08 · answer #4 · answered by Chantal F 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm sorry that he had done this to you. I suggest you get out now. You don't deserve to be treated this way and I wouldnt take it any longer. See if you can perhaps transfer and go back home where your family and friends can give you the support you need. Forget the house, sell it if necessary, its not worth going through the disrespect that has been given to you. If you continue to let him treat you this way, then the only one to blame is yourself. I wish you the best sweetie, focus on taking care of you, and the best of luck.
2006-10-17 17:50:35 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
It depends how you feel about him if the only reason you won't leave him is because you have a house together then leave because then there is no way it is going to work but if you really like him then stay and try to make it work
2006-10-17 17:33:29 · answer #6 · answered by jark 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
ared look thats your house your new life is there. yall been married for only 4 months so you can leave and it wont bother you a bit. do you make some friends give him taste of his own medicine chill out dont stress have fun and when it become to much to handle then leave say bye bye peace out get lost gurl do you playa do you
2006-10-17 17:33:16 · answer #7 · answered by ghettomommy06 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Girl, get out now! he will never change! You need to give him a taste of his own medicine and move on! I am so sorry for you. just go now while the gettins good
2006-10-17 17:31:42 · answer #8 · answered by Shana H 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Dump that Chump. Call a lawyer ..look for "Free initial consultation" in your ph. book and see what one or two have to say. Also call your nearest "Woman's Shelter" and see what advice they offer if you are not financially able to move out on your own. Best of luck to you!!!
2006-10-17 17:38:37 · answer #9 · answered by Thankyou4givengmeaheadache 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋