It seems anytime my husband is in the mood for sex, it's a bl***ob until he's just about ready, then either he gets on top or I straddle him and then it's over!
He's never interested in foreplay to really get my lust and desire fired up and when he's done, I have to finish myself off manually.
Is there some technique that I can use to slow down his climax so that I at least have a chance to build mine?
2006-10-17 11:09:52 · 26 answers · asked by princessslave 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
you need to learn how to slow him down he is getting to excited an the nerves in his penis are very senative so when he gets inside you your warmth an tightness just make him exsplode,,, might think about getting him some cream to numb him down there to delay him from commin to quick go slow with him dont get him to fired up all at once,,, as for forplay show him or tell him what you want done an tell him no forplay no sex he will come around
2006-10-17 11:25:03 · answer #1 · answered by featherman_65018 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well my friend told me that when he had this "problem" he would flex that muscle that holds in your pee, everythime he felt like was gonna ejaculate he'd do this. It took him a while to get to where he is at and he states that he can last 45 min. b-4 cumming. I really hope you build the courage to talk to your hubby about this issue soon. It can be so annoying to be "left out" of the pleasure dome. The only technique u need now is patience- with ypur husband, he is the one that needs to put in work! I really hope he does all he can to please you. If he doesn't then well, sorry but he will be replaced, right? Tell him this see what happens.
2006-10-17 11:36:41 · answer #2 · answered by Tanyah 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Seems like you should stop always giving him oral sex until he's ready. Sounds like he's almost ready orgasm go by the time you begin sex....
Also, If he's not willing to provide you with foreplay to get you fired up, then stop being so generous by giving him oral sex every time. If he's not willing to satisfy you then you need to show him how it feels to be left unsatisfied.
Many women do have to stimulate themselves manually in order to achieve an orgasm; try doing this during sex. This is easy to do in many positions.
2006-10-17 11:18:33 · answer #3 · answered by JEMER 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The delay technique that you need is a husband that cares about your needs sexually.
In a marriage, one of the most challenging, yet necessary, forms of communication is communication about sex. Your husband won't know what you want unless you tell him. Maybe he thinks that you aren't that interested in sex.
For a lot of married couples that is one of the toughest conversations there is, but it is so worth it, because it's pretty rare that a man and a woman are on the same page sexually. Communication in the bedroom usually means for fun for everyone.
FP
2006-10-17 11:13:36 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You don't need to delay orgasm....you need a man who's not a selfish lover.
Go to the bookstore and get a book about premature ejaculation. There are hundreds of them.
Then show him some of the things you've found in the book and talk to him about this when you're far away from the bedroom, with all your clothes on, sitting on opposite sides of the room.
2006-10-17 11:14:43 · answer #5 · answered by daljack -a girl 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Its hard to change a routine isn't it?
You have to talk with him and help him understand your not getting the big "O" in the manner you desire.
Suggest this to him, making love to you until you have the big O and then you tell him to save his Big O for your mouth.
just a suggestion.
You might try reading some sex books
but you have to gently communicate in a loving way with out hurting each others feelings
2006-10-17 12:27:30 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
only start out with the bIowjob, but don't let him get so close to getting off. I don't know how long you have to do it for, but try just doing it for a minute or too...or just when he starts to breathe heavy, jump on, and finish that way.
I have to iniciate sex with a bIowjob too. He'd probably be happy if all I did was just that and never had sex. I know where you're coming from. I hardly ever get anything out of our sexual encounters either...from him anyways
2006-10-17 11:19:31 · answer #7 · answered by ur a Dee Dee Dee 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
be sexier by showing some affection.foreplay is a good thing,try some oral sex on him,if you know he is enjoying himself,this will help you get off as well.talk about what makes you feel good,tell him your pleasure spots and if you want,show him what makes you feel good.a woman can concentrate on her orgasm and can *** at the same time her man does.that's always nice.if he's just a dead beat and don't want to try new things,you may have to do yourself a favor and continue pleasing yourself,but i would tell him what really turns you on. good luck,lemme know how it goes,i'm scotty
2006-10-17 11:21:32 · answer #8 · answered by tlmesmthggd 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
They have a name for a guy like that. It's Minuteman. I wish my wife gave half thought in pleasing as you do to your guy. You need to talk to him and probably make him get you off at least once before there is any pleasure toward him. My wife has no complaints in that department about me. He sounds like a real weenie. Very selfish.
2006-10-17 11:45:55 · answer #9 · answered by dirkdiggler9999 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My suggestion is to try a natural delay eyaculation product like the Difresh Tauro. It will help you to control and delay your ejaculation. You can read more information in "Difresh Shop" in internet.
2014-07-29 03:21:05 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋