I want to be a prompt, responsible, reliable, non procrastanating, organized, cleanliness, person. Problem Is..I'm just the opposite. How do I get myself to change? I keep trying, and keep failing.
I don't like who I am.
2006-10-17 10:58:58 · 9 answers · asked by secret s 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
We all feel like this (the average person that is). Find someone who has some of these traits. Spend time with them. Try making daily check lists for yourself (to-do lists). I tried that with my husband for a few weeks. It was amazing! We were both cleaning the house and doing our chores and we were happier. ("when you do good, you feel good") Find a friend or someone you know to go to the gym with. That helps tons of issues. It makes you feel good because of the endorphins, it makes you look good too which in turn makes you feel better about yourself. If you don't have a gym buddy, try joining a weight loss group (personal trainers work too, but are very expensive!) This will help you put you around people with attitudes who want to improve themselves. Also, set your alarm on a watch or phone (whatever) and always show up early - to work on being prompt.
The times I felt the best about myself were the times that I was doing things good for myself. The best example was basic training- eventhough it's kind of forced on you. I also had a personal trainer before the military and I felt great about myself and I was doing better. Also when I used those check lists.
I keep mentioning losing weight- I'm not saying you're fat, I don't even know you. I'm not overweight myself, but it's a good method for helping anyone-overweight or not)
good luck
2006-10-17 11:15:18 · answer #1 · answered by ur a Dee Dee Dee 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
go get counseling for the negative self image. then, just get up off of your butt and JUST DO IT.
Gotta be somewhere by a certain time? Give yourself TWO hours. Get ready the first hour, and leave the house no later than ONE HOUR before the appointment time, and if there is time to spare, you can sit around at the location where you are supposed to be by that certain time.
Wanna be clean and organized? Clean the crap up, and don't RE-DIRTY it. When you cook something, CLEAN THE POTS IMMEDIATELY after. If you you are hopelessly lazy, buy paper plates and plastic eating utensils so that you can just throw it away after use.
Responsibility comes as you handle your business and get your priorities in order. You are the opposite because you allow yourself to be. Trying is just FAILING WITH HONORS.
Don't TRY it......DO IT.
2006-10-17 18:26:07 · answer #2 · answered by lilac b 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It sounds like you had wimps for parents since they allowed you to do as you pleased instead of molding you for the adult world. All the qualities that you've mentioned are typical of any human being in the raw. You can change and overcome, but you must be inspired to do so or you must hurt enough to do so. In life nothing worthwhile was ever handed down. You must learn to live an intentional life and go after what you want and need. Jlo, Brittney, and the others had to get up very early in the morning and work their butts off to get to where they are. You are worth it so get going! If not today then when?
Mr. M on "responsible."
2006-10-17 18:06:47 · answer #3 · answered by Humberto M 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I use to be the same way, but it just takes time and patience. You need to train yourself to do the opposite. It may take awhile though. Ask others whom are close to you to help you out. With their support you might be able to change. If you still feel like you can't do it, seek a professional councler, who well be able to help you in these matters. Remember that everything we do in life is a choice. You can do it :0
2006-10-17 18:06:56 · answer #4 · answered by chellie 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Try being repetitive in daily activities like putting things up when you are done with them... dont just do it occasionally, do it all the time and with everything. In time it will become second nature.
Make sure that the things you are putting up always have a place and see them get to that place each time you use them. i.e.; clothes, dishes, art things, hobby things.
As you make sure you put things up when you are done with them instead of saying I will do it later, makes it become easier as time goes on.
prompt, thats just a matter of timming. Set your watch and clock ahead ten minutes and forget about it. then you will be getting to where you need more promptly than before.
it will take time, no giving up...
2006-10-17 18:16:08 · answer #5 · answered by cowgirlduchess 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Try harder. Don't start the pity party for yourself. Instead of wasting all of that time on pitying yourself and all that crap, actually do something about it. You can be that, you just have to work to achieve it. Saying that won't help either. Its your fault your not that. Anyone can change themselves, its just a matter of how hard they try and if they're willing to change.
2006-10-17 18:03:55 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
the way i got all organizes is i let my girl get stuff organized and then i kept up on it. have someone organize stuff for you and then all you have to do is keep up on it you will see its so much easier and you will learn how to keep it up and how to orgainez stuff for your self
2006-10-17 18:04:10 · answer #7 · answered by jam 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
your bottom line said it all , you need counseling for depression. and medication for a better mood , then a better adittude should follow.
2006-10-17 18:03:34 · answer #8 · answered by kierstead 3 · 1⤊ 1⤋
do everything your told when your told to do it
2014-07-02 09:41:08 · answer #9 · answered by sling 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋