I've been happily married to my wife for a little over a year now. Recently (probably within the last several months), we have run out of things to talk about. I work a lot and so we talk to each other on the phone often. Lately, we end up talking about how we don't have anything much to talk about. We both really wish we had exciting things to talk to each other about. Now and then something will come up that we can talk about (usually work related), but otherwise it's just generic things like "how are you doing?". In our current circumstances, we don't have a whole lot of money (or time) to go out and do things. We're not broke, but we're not making enough to do things all the time. Basically, to sum things up, I really enjoy talking to my wife on the phone throughout the day since I work long hours, and she looks forward to talking to me also, but we are both sort of annoyed at the fact that we have nothing to talk about. What can we do???
2006-10-17 11:21:30 · 17 answers · asked by dsdxp 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Not to sound superior....but we've been married over 30 years and we never run out of stuff to laugh and talk about because we're also friends. We talk about...
our future
our daughter
our families
our jobs
politics
the world
money
the dog
sports
dinner
our exercise program
future vacations (for you when the money is right)
remembering past vacations
money
fun restaurants
sex
how we met
our friends
our neighbors
stupid television shows
our college experiences
I could go on & on & on & on. LOL
2006-10-17 11:29:02 · answer #1 · answered by daljack -a girl 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I would start by scheduling what free time you can to do something you both enjoy. It can be simple things like going to the park or taking a long drive, things that don't take much money. Get involved in what the other enjoys and you will soon find many things to talk about. You've just lost touch with one another due to the lack of time you have to spend together. Marriage is a J O B. Don't let anyone tell you otherwise! Make the effort and soon you will see it will be easy again!
2006-10-17 11:29:12 · answer #2 · answered by Lillie D 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Perhaps you can limit your calls to one a day, as nothing usually happens every hour on the hour to report and explore, also you do not need a lot of money to go to museums, open houses, botanical gardens,art galleries, bands playing in the park or at a silver collection at a church, I have had wonderful experiences of going to concerts in church bacements etc for not much more than the price of showing up, The more you guys see the more you will talk about including where to go next time. Open your mind and ther will be no end to talking
2006-10-17 11:34:14 · answer #3 · answered by rkilburn410 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First so what if you don't have a lot of money to go out a lot. Try each of you to think of things that you can do make a list of what they are that is each of you. Then when you are talking pick one of those things and try to decide how you can make it special. then you will have some time to talk over the plans on what they are. then do it then go to the next on the list. believe me it can be interesting.
2006-10-17 11:30:31 · answer #4 · answered by liza 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Maybe you can do things around the house together, like cooking, gardening, etc.............. and you won't have to worry about what you're gonna talk about, it'll just come. You're thinking about it too much.
Go thru a pix album, and talk about different memories you both have. Or play games together, and get that tension out of the air.
2006-10-17 11:33:21 · answer #5 · answered by candy- capped 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you need to take any of the spare time you both have and spend it together doing different things. Variety is the spice of life. Eventually you will find that you both are talking about the things you have done and the good times you have had and the good times to come. Good Luck
2006-10-17 11:26:52 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't worry about it in a few years you will not want to talk to her at all You are getting a good start just do your thing and talk to her when you have to and this thing will work out great.
2006-10-17 13:15:10 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I had this problem while in a long distance relationship when all you can do is talk. Talk about what you want for the future, what you would do if you won the lottery, or talk about politics and religion those can go on forever and never be solved.
2006-10-17 11:25:17 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
sounds like you talk too much! balance is key! Why not take a few days away from so much talking and then you are gonna miss each other and enough will have happened to share something new!
2006-10-17 11:27:44 · answer #9 · answered by Use my Yahoo! Avatar 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sometimes we just sit together in the same room and not say anything to each other for hours. Knowing she's there is enough.
2006-10-17 11:46:04 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋