Marriage & Divorce - 10 July 2006

My husband has had a serious gambling problem for the last 3 1/2 years. He has been abusive in the past. Recently he transfered to a ship.. after gambling away every penny we had leaving me and my daughter here with no way to pay our bills.. in Dec. he got demoted to 2nd class, and with his transfer to a ship his checks are now like 500.. not enough to cover rent or car insurance. Since our marriage in apr.01, I have only worked for 6 months. I also have several health issues and suffer from severe major depression. Any insight or advice on what I may or may not be entitled to is appreciated. I can't afford a lawyer and will have to file on my own. Thank You.

2006-07-10 09:17:57 · 24 answers · asked by needoutb42late 2

In the past two weeks i have dreamnt about my ex boyfriend from high school, and i think about him often, but i havent talked to him since last november, but i am in a committed relationship.

2006-07-10 09:10:25 · 22 answers · asked by Anonymous

Or can he only do a quitclaim deed AFTER a divorce?

2006-07-10 09:06:26 · 8 answers · asked by Yolani 2

My husband and I got back together in May after being seperated for almost one year. He had rented an apartment with a friend while we were seperated, but you don't know how hard it has been to try to get this friend out of the apartment now. He is lazy, smokes like crazy in his room, which puts me to doubt how bad that could be affecting my kid's health, and we have already talked to the lender and told him what's going on, (because there are more in the household than what there should be), and since the lender said that it was okay for him to continue to stay he just does not want to leave now. My husband says that what he is afraid of is not his friend, but the fact that his friend is just a stupid crybaby who would probably go tell the lender that he needs a home and blah blah blah and the lender is going to get tired of this and just terminate the contract and tell us all to leave. I have two boys and we just plainly need privacy and I hate his freaking smoking crap!

2006-07-10 09:04:58 · 16 answers · asked by Anonymous

I have been married for 15 years. The past year he has changed, I think. It could be me, or me being crazy. He seems so different. We do not touch, unless I touch him. His compliments are few and far in between. We never talk, when we do its never about anthing meaningful. I worry we are only staying together because of our children. (They are 14 and 9) We don't fight, we dont agure. He seems very happy when he has other people to talk with. I have told him all this, but he says I am overreacting, and nothing is wrong. I have only brought it up a couple of times. I dont want to nag.
Is he right, or am I right for worring?

2006-07-10 09:00:52 · 81 answers · asked by asku2c 1

My Husband has been acting really shady lately.. he is home with me all thru the week but sometimes on the weekends he likes to take off and go to bars to have his "cave" time alone, also we dont have sex as often as we used to? does anyone know the signs to watch out for?????

2006-07-10 08:59:02 · 10 answers · asked by Anonymous

isn't it just something you have to do to prove you love the person. In the back of your mind you think "if something goes wrong i can always get a divorce".


now gays want to get married when the bible says that it wrong.
why don't they just say they want a piece of paper stating that they have all legal right as a same sex couple?

2006-07-10 08:56:57 · 13 answers · asked by sweeiepie 1

We are still married and trying to work this situtation out. Am I considered this child's stepmother?

2006-07-10 08:54:22 · 15 answers · asked by tryinghard 2

I’m close friends with a girl who I liked, so I told her 3 weeks ago. She responded by saying that she just wanted to be friends. But over the course of the last 3 weeks she has kissed me many times and we have cuddled together intimately a lot. I would say we act as boyfriend and girlfriend.

She rings me 1st thing in the morning and last thing at night, and many times during the day. She wants to hang out together each day. She has told me everything about her! We talk for hours. She says she wants to meet my family.

She still says we are friends. Says she has gotten hurt by her last two boyfriends not long ago and is scared of giving her heart away again. She still talks a lot about her last boyfriend who hurt her badly – Basically used her and then suddenly stopped all contact with her without explanation!

Does she even like me? Am I being played for a fool and don’t see it? Help please I'm really confused!

2006-07-10 08:54:16 · 8 answers · asked by AskingQuestion 1

I'm getting married to a Catholic who most definatly does NOT "accept Jesus christ as her personal savior" and all that crap. My mother is a christian fundamentalist and therefore believes with fervor that the love of my life will be tortured in horrible unspeakable ways for all eternity in the eternal lake of fire. I don't really feel like having all that at such a happy occasion. I've gotten a lot of greif, however, from her and others for not inviting my mother to my own wedding. What would you do?

2006-07-10 08:51:19 · 13 answers · asked by ScottD_Arch 2

2006-07-10 08:48:28 · 3 answers · asked by i.might.b.crazy 2

I told him he should come home, he says it's not possible right now, he has a lot of stuff to work out. What do I do? Wait? Move on? How do I do either? I'm stuck in this state of suspended animation. I can't let go and don't know how to get through to him. Help Please!!

2006-07-10 08:41:54 · 33 answers · asked by newfunksoldier 2

We have been married a year and his mom has been a real b*** all along. She was late to our wedding; sat in the back, makes rude comments every chance she gets. I have promised my husband to forgive her and try to be civil. His birthday is in 2 weeks and I’m having dinner at my house. I know the right thing to do is invite her but I just can’t stand her! Any ideas?

2006-07-10 08:37:20 · 22 answers · asked by Anonymous

Hi everyone, i have been married for 9mo. now and everything was GREAT in the first 4mo. but now its awful, NO sex, but we work together so i know where he's at during the day at night he stay's home so i don't think theres a way to cheat. See he plays ALOT and when he plays its really rough, i know he does not want to hurt me, but he does sometimes. (exp: he pins me down and i cant move) and he knows that pissin me off!! but yet he always wants to play... when i tell him to stop he DOSEN'T.. and it makes me so mad that i leave, and it doesn't bother him. hes more worried about his porno's then me. he doesn't look at girls he stares at them in front of me and then says im jealous, i just feel like i am not what he really wants in a women, and i feel like i'm not being me, i mean he married me for me right? If that is the truth then why is he not in love with me anymore? he used to be soooo good to me now i'll be lucky to get even a look from him.. ITS DRIVING ME CRAZY!!!! HELP ME.....

2006-07-10 08:35:56 · 36 answers · asked by Anonymous

He was writing her, telling her about our sex life. I read a few and he is not interested in her, at least not according to his e-mails. He said he just likes to share his experiences with her. He used to do this with me. I am furious that she knows our sex life, that is personal. I am not worried about him cheating or leaving because we have a great life and sex life. But what do I do about him spilling our personal lives? I have already confronted them both BTW.

2006-07-10 08:34:22 · 9 answers · asked by downsouthcpl2932 2

1.If your wife or girlfriend cheated on you would you forgive her. What if it was with a family member.
2.Would you ever cheat on your girlfriend or wife if you could get away with it.

2006-07-10 08:29:46 · 28 answers · asked by Anonymous

He says he likes to watch all people. No proof he has ever cheated. he says I have nothing to worry about. I was never insecure before this.

2006-07-10 08:28:53 · 6 answers · asked by rmnbanrga 1

2006-07-10 08:20:48 · 21 answers · asked by Anonymous

something romantic

2006-07-10 08:14:38 · 12 answers · asked by babygurlmami 1

My wife and I decided to get divorced about 7 weeks ago, due to irreconcilable differences. I had been promising to have a CD-player put in her car for the last year and a half to replace her tapedeck, but never followed through. She went out of town for a couple of weeks before she moved out, and I decided to have the CD-player put in her car. I didn't ask her, I just did it. I wanted her to enjoy the CD-player and to feel I did everything I promised to. I also had more time and money than I've had in a year and a half. When she came back, I told her I put the CD-player in, and she flipped, saying that now her car will be more likely to be broken into. She got real nasty about it and has been buggin me about how I need to fix this problem I've created by coming to get her car at work, taking it to the installation center, and having her old deck put back in, and bringing her car back. She said I put the deck in to make my self feel better, so it's not a gift...etc, etc....

2006-07-10 08:10:48 · 27 answers · asked by Anonymous

He went to AA, anger management and promises to never do it again.

2006-07-10 08:10:21 · 29 answers · asked by Anonymous

I have repeatedly told my fiance to stop watching porn, because I think it is sick and just because he is not physically cheating, the people in porn are real people that he is lusting over and it hurts me. He says he isn't doing it, but everyday I wake up and he has erased the history from the previous night on the computer. So not only is he disrespecting my wishes, but he is also disrespecting my intelligence and lying to me. I am so pissed!

2006-07-10 08:07:50 · 19 answers · asked by Anonymous

2006-07-10 08:06:20 · 3 answers · asked by deb42278 2

2006-07-10 08:00:23 · 17 answers · asked by Anonymous

For the past 2 months, I have witnessed my husband sending emails to two girls, flirting online, arranging meetings, and even calling on the phone. When I confronted him with my findings, he said that he was just trying to get some business (he is a freelance wedding photographer). Anyway, I haven't felt interested in doing things with him and I am so upset by what he has done that I don't think I can forgive him. This isn't the first time he has done this. Am I overreacting about leaving him???

2006-07-10 07:59:50 · 17 answers · asked by Pen 1

have you ever cheated?....what's wrong about cheating. I see nothing wrong with it and still some people tryin to be full of moral advise to us all

2006-07-10 07:59:18 · 7 answers · asked by Anonymous

You're all going to think I'm crazy but.. my wife and I have known (dated/married) one another for 11 years. We never had true intercourse until two years after we were married (by then we had been together 9 years). I had happily waited because I thought it was in her head that she had to wait until marriage. Now that we have finally had sex, I am rather upset with how bad she is at it. It's not much fun as she complains that it hurts when I move to quickly. There are only two positions allowed, and I'm not content with that. I am much more sexual than she is, and I feel a great need for more variety in the bedroom.

What do you all think? Is this bad sex life a good reason for divorce? We have no children, but own a house together. I have been looking elsewhere to fill this void.

2006-07-10 07:58:58 · 54 answers · asked by a_red_wine_guy 2

2006-07-10 07:53:54 · 45 answers · asked by Anonymous

People around the world want to know the secret of any succeful marriage !

2006-07-10 07:47:15 · 10 answers · asked by citizen high 6

10 years ago when business was good, I had an annual income of 100K per year. Since then business has dropped off and currently I am living of my savings. I pay child support as ordered usally before the due date. Now my ex wants more support based on what I made 10 years ago. She says it is what I could potentially earn. I can barely pay her now. What can I do?

2006-07-10 07:41:12 · 13 answers · asked by CHRISTIAN B 1