I'm getting married to a Catholic who most definatly does NOT "accept Jesus christ as her personal savior" and all that crap. My mother is a christian fundamentalist and therefore believes with fervor that the love of my life will be tortured in horrible unspeakable ways for all eternity in the eternal lake of fire. I don't really feel like having all that at such a happy occasion. I've gotten a lot of greif, however, from her and others for not inviting my mother to my own wedding. What would you do?
2006-07-10 08:51:19 · 13 answers · asked by ScottD_Arch 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
I wonder if your mom even wants to go? It's your wedding, your decision. If it were me, I would not have her there. The wedding is not about her but if she was there she would make it about her. A wedding is a celebration of the union between two people. Why have someone there that is not happy for you? Too bad, she already made your decision for you.
2006-07-10 08:57:34 · answer #1 · answered by theletterQ 2 · 7⤊ 1⤋
Although it seems like you and your mother may have your differences she is still your mother and nothing can change that. If you don't invite her 2 the wedding then that is just something else she can argue with you about. If I were in your situation I would invite her anyway because then I know I have done everything in my power to keep some peace in the family. This is one of the biggest days of your life. If you don't invite her, years down the road you may regret it...big time.
Congradulations on your upcomming marriage. Best of luck with whatever decision you may choose. =)
2006-07-10 15:58:41 · answer #2 · answered by sprinkles3225 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Of course you should invite your mother. And the catholic girl has already accepted Jesus as the way, the truth and the light.
Good choice on choosing a catholic girl! God Bless!
2006-07-10 16:10:34 · answer #3 · answered by ? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Invite her to the wedding but explain to her this is a happy occasion and if she can not behave nicely at the wedding ceremony may be she should stay at home. But not throw this at her but because you love her would love for her to be there. If she loves you she will come and behave. I know you love this girl but your mother is looking at that you should not be unevenly yoke with a non-believer but after all it's your choice and obviously you do not share your mother beliefs. So, good luck.
2006-07-10 15:57:16 · answer #4 · answered by kitcat 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
it sounds like you may not accept Jesus as your savior either. How can she ba a Catholic? You should invite your mom and let her decide whether or not she wants to come. Don't make the decision for her.
2006-07-10 16:06:04 · answer #5 · answered by Keke 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would invite her. But also, I would talk to her before hand and let her know that if she chooses to come it will be in support of your union, and if she chooses to come she will be aknowledging her acceptance of your new wife. Now, Also make it perfectly clear that you will not tolerate any bad talking to or about your new wife. If your mother has half a brain she will realize to zip it if she wants any contact with you after you are married.
2006-07-10 15:57:52 · answer #6 · answered by Sharlala 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I believe you should at least invite her. You may in the end hate yourself if you don't. This way the decision is on her on whether to come or not. Then there will not be more problems in the future on why she was not invited.
2006-07-10 15:57:06 · answer #7 · answered by sweetcountrychick 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you should invite her, but make it clear that you will have her escorted out if she starts trouble.
I find it odd that she is only taking shots at your fiancee and that she isn't making comments to you about being unequally yoked. Maybe there is something else going on with her...maybe you should talk to her and find out what is really bothering her. It doesn't sound to me like it is just that your fiancee is Catholic.
2006-07-10 16:37:12 · answer #8 · answered by PATTY H 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Scott
yes you should invite her we only have one mother. invite her if she decides not to come it's her decision. You did your part and be happy with that if your mom is such a christian then she knows not to interfere in Gods work tell her Mom if that is what you believe leave it in Gods hands he knows how to do his work.
just be their for me.
Good luck and God Bless you and your Fiancee
2006-07-10 16:07:25 · answer #9 · answered by Elida S 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Invite her but make it clear that if she is to show up it will be considered her consent to support the marriage.(she may not show)
Make sure the priest doesnt ask "are there are any objections?"
Best of luck to you! And best wishes!
2006-07-10 20:37:06 · answer #10 · answered by AccountableLady 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋