My husband and I got back together in May after being seperated for almost one year. He had rented an apartment with a friend while we were seperated, but you don't know how hard it has been to try to get this friend out of the apartment now. He is lazy, smokes like crazy in his room, which puts me to doubt how bad that could be affecting my kid's health, and we have already talked to the lender and told him what's going on, (because there are more in the household than what there should be), and since the lender said that it was okay for him to continue to stay he just does not want to leave now. My husband says that what he is afraid of is not his friend, but the fact that his friend is just a stupid crybaby who would probably go tell the lender that he needs a home and blah blah blah and the lender is going to get tired of this and just terminate the contract and tell us all to leave. I have two boys and we just plainly need privacy and I hate his freaking smoking crap!
2006-07-10 09:04:58 · 16 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
XXXXXXXXXXXXXXX looks like you're stuck with this loser. If he cared in the first place he would have given your family the privacy you all needed when you moved back in. You husband needs to wake up and tell his friend it's time to hit the pavement. Good luck hun. XXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXX
2006-07-10 09:09:50 · answer #1 · answered by asoldierswife 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If in fact your husband and this guy are friends, he should understand that now that you are back he needs to move on with his life. He needs to be the better man and just move out. You or your husband and kids should not move or even think about moving. This guy is bad for your relationship and being a friend he should see that, if he does not then he is no friend and I will kick him out and let the lender know that I gave him all the opportunity to move.
2006-07-10 16:14:12 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You moved in with him, knowing this other person was there and you couldn't figure out that this person was a problem before you moved back in with your husband. If he really wanted you back he would get rid of this guy one way or another. Are you all being nice to this person? I think it would be the best thing to loose your contract, or just move out and skip town. How could you let your husband put your children at risk by letting this person smoke in the house? This sounds like a game or something that someone is playing. Get back to reality and kick out this guy, get your life back with your husband and start over. I wouldn't have gone back until this guy was out. Why go back to someone you had problems with and still do? Has anything changed?
2006-07-10 16:12:38 · answer #3 · answered by Lana 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Save your monty and move out. If the apartment is in his name at all. If he and your husband have co-signed on the lease then find someone to take over your husbands side or just give your notice. You are the woman of the house you should be able to set the rules about smoking around your children. I would not care if he is a crybaby I would find a home without him. Good luck>
2006-07-10 16:10:01 · answer #4 · answered by JENNLUPE 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ask the lender if there is a place that he could set up for your family minus the smoker that you can afford.
The lender might be able to set your family up and have a place for the smoker.
Do what you got to do in order to get the kids away from the smoke. not only does it stink and cause health problems for your kids, it sets a very bad example.
GOOD LUCK ON THE MARRIAGE.
2006-07-10 16:12:16 · answer #5 · answered by railcar_exp 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
IHe is a legal tenant of the apartment as stated on the lease contract, therfore, then he has the same rights as your husband to stay (and more than you) and there is nothing legally that you can do about it.
Look for another place for the four of you and inform the landlord that your husband wil not be longer part of the lease and it will be the other renter full responsability to pay rent (normally your husband would have to pay rent until he finds another roommate)
Good luck
2006-07-10 16:21:39 · answer #6 · answered by Blunt 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
umm...YOU cant come into HIS home and ask him to leave. You and your husband and your kids need to find another place to live and let dude with the cancer sticks worry about finding another roomate to help him pay the rent....
I'm so confused....How can you make him move out of HIS apartment because u decided to move yourself and your kids in. Lady, you were not on the lease to begin with, so if anyone should be leaving it should be you.
2006-07-10 16:07:49 · answer #7 · answered by Tracy C 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It is selfish to ask him to move. I know your kids health is really important, then prohibit him to smoke in the house, if he doesn't hear you nor respect that then make his life impossible i know it sounds childish but is for your kids health.
2006-07-10 16:10:27 · answer #8 · answered by Ximena C 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if your lender will tell you all to get out, then screw your lender and get out anyway! Other than that, evict him through the court system....It's your best bet.
2006-07-10 16:14:03 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
um, evict him. has he signed a lease of any sort? If he is not on any kind of agreement, you can evict him civilly. as long as there is nothing in written document! good luck and you are a good mom for caring about the smoking!
2006-07-10 16:07:15 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋