what does it mean when you dream about your ex?

Question

In the past two weeks i have dreamnt about my ex boyfriend from high school, and i think about him often, but i havent talked to him since last november, but i am in a committed relationship.

i dreamed that we were back together

Answer 1

Hooked on Your Ex?
Signs you're trying to keep a dead relationship alive

by Bob Maschi
Published: 07/07/2006

Sometimes, old romances are harder to get out of your head than a theme park song (like, It's a Small World, After All). Much harder. In fact, people have been known to linger emotionally in past relationships for months -- or even years! Some go so far as to convince themselves that they are no longer hooked on the old lover, though their friends and family can tell otherwise.

It's a familiar situation. After all, almost everyone has had a relationship end when they didn't want it to, and letting go is no easy task. Particularly if you don't realize you're hanging on.

Here are some signs that you're stuck on a dead relationship:

Let's start with the obvious. Nicely framed photographs of the old flame, a lock of hair and a pile of movie-ticket stubs all displayed neatly on a night table like a Wiccan altar for instance, suggests that you haven't been able to cut the cord. Don't have a shrine per say, but think that candid shot of your last trip together on the fridge doesn't count? Wrong.

Calling someone by your ex's name can be another clear clue (and a supremely embarrassing one in the bedroom and out). Sometimes this is just habit. Other times, it's a Freudian Slip - and a valuable look into what (or who) is on your mind!

And, while we're on the obvious, jealousy regarding your ex probably means you haven't let go. If the thought of them being in another relationship bothers you, then you're still hooked - at least more than you want to be. A relationship that has ended means that the two people involved no longer have any business in each others' personal affairs, no matter how hard that sounds.

More often, the hints that you haven't been able to move on are far more subtle. So subtle, that you may not even recognize them yourself!

For starters, people often blame a breakup entirely on themselves - even though it takes two people to tango. Some might blame their physical appearance, thinking that they weren't attractive enough to maintain the romance. They convince themselves that the outcome would have been so much better if they were slimmer, had a better hairstyle or wore trendier clothes. Others take this even further in a subtle attempt to reignite the romance -- they try to drastically improve their looks -- solely to show the ex "what they're missing" and without thoughts of feeling better about themselves and/or attracting someone new. Face it. True love can see beyond some blemishes, a few extra pounds or even a bad hair day!

Another sure sign you're holding on? A lot of people who are still stuck on an ex continue to engage in habits and hobbies that were familiar to the relationship, even though they have very little personal interest in them. Going to familiar places, like your regular restaurants, or even hanging out more often than usual with mutual friends can be an omen that you haven't made peace with your past.

On the other hand, going to the opposite extremes can be one of the most blatant (but often unrecognized) signs you're caught in the grip of a failed relationship. Tearing your ex's image out of your entire photo collection or burning every last gift and memento in an angry rage are signs something's not quite right. Likewise, displaying an overwhelming hostility toward your ex may mean you still place a tremendous amount of importance on that person. While anger and hurt are all normal reactions, consider that hostility is neither healthy nor attractive (and certainly doesn't do anything for the people you may start to date).

When a relationship ends, it's normal to hurt. And everyone requires time to heal. But in the interest of saving yourself too much heartache (or at least healing yourself as fully and healthily as possible), do your best not to live in the pain for too long. Pack up the pictures and other reminders of the romance and store them away. Even if you aren't interested in a new partner, try to go out and mingle with others who share your interests. Know when to call upon your friends (for counsel or for fun). Learn to appreciate yourself as an individual, rather than as half of a pair. As time goes on, you'll find that the memories fade and new, even better, opportunities will present themselves.

While a period of mourning accompanies the end of most relationships, dwelling on the past can become obsessive and damaging. Only you know when you've crossed that line.

Answer 2

I think this is your mind toying with your emotions. Maybe you feel like you didn't do enough to stay with her, or you don't know why things ended with her. Orange juice stimulates your brain, so does dairy. If you have them before bed you are more likely to dream. Also staying somewhere different than your bed can cause dreams. This dream symbolises your many ways in which you could be with your ex girlfriend. Think about why you are dreaming of her. Do you love her? Do you miss her? Are you guilty? Think about it. And lay off the OJ after 7 pm =) Sweet Dreams, x

Answer 3

It doesn't mean anything unless you act on it. People have dreams all the time of different people that have passed through their lives. A part of you will always care about your ex, but it doesn't necessarily mean that you and your current love are soon going to be history.

Tell yourself that you're happy and you won't allow yourself to be drawn into these silly thoughts of someone from your past.

Answer 4

don't think too much of it. I have dreams of people and ex's included as well as dreams about people I don't even know. I'm egtting married i a month,and I assure you, it's simply your brain, and maybe some of your heart, and nothing else. It doesn't mean anything negative about this current relationship. But feel free to look it up on a dream interpreting type site...

Answer 5

Dreams sometime have meaning and sometimes they just happen-maybe he is on your subconscious mind or perhaps he is thinking about you! You could be dreaming about him because you spent time together in the past! Some times I have dreams that happen and some good ones I would like to repeat!

Answer 6

Sounds like the relationship you are currently in isn't too committed. You still have feelings for the ex.

Answer 7

He might be trying to get in touch with you telephatically. I know that sounds weird but our dreams are very interesting. I had a dream about one of my ex boyfriends the day his father passed away. In it, we were both working in the same office and we came out of our rooms and faced each other. Ironically, we hadn't seen each other in 6 months (we had broken up then) but I promised myself I would go to his dad's wake because at the time of our breakup, his dad was diagnosed with pancreatic cancer. It was so weird that I had that dream - but with you, take it to mean your ex may be thinking about you, or wanting to get in touch but not sure how.

Answer 8

Just having a dream doesnt mean a lot. It all depends on what you dreamed about, and if your currently happy in your current relationship now. Need more info to help you out.

Answer 9

Dreams are dreams you probably just dreamt about them cause you've seen them or you havent seen them in a while or you just know them or maybe it's a sign that they still have feelings for you you never know but in this case you'll know soon just wait it's a possibility that it could be just a dream.

Answer 10

Unconsciously your don't want your current to be your ex-relationship. So you are dreaming that as a result of warning message.

Sometimes mind is playing trick on us. In this case, you are reminding yourself..

Good luck!