Marriage & Divorce - 10 July 2006

I am 21 years old and about to turn 22. I have been with my boyfriend for 3 and a half years. It will be 4 in december. I am in college and i want to at least be engaged when i graduate or right after getting my bachlors degree and that will be in about 2 yrs. He wants the same thing but he plans to get his masters and/or even his doc. He needs about 3 yrs to graduate with a bachlors and master is an additional 2 yrs. A doc is about 3 yrs. so thats 8 yrs. He tells me that he isnt even thinking about marriage right now. Which is understandable because we are still in school. He alos told me that someone he looks up to told him that if he wants to pursue a doc, not to get married or have kids til afterwards cause they will hold you back. But i am a bit scared cause i am getting at that age where i want to be secure (at least be engaged) and dont want to waste my time on something that isnt going anywhere. Its heartbreaking.

2006-07-10 23:58:11 · 15 answers · asked by Flor*de*lisa 2

responding domestic violance restraning order and neveronce have they had a problem in 3 1/2 y.

2006-07-10 23:58:01 · 22 answers · asked by trinkyre30 1

My wife divorced me after 10yrs,we have 2 kids, she was always good to me and always did the right thing,about a year ago i came back from being gone on a job for a month and she gave me divorce papers and also had moved someone elese in, I did'nt fight the divorce it was final in 90 days i never thought she would follow through. I just can't belive this is the same person i had married. I can't get over the thought of someone just never looking back like we never existed.I had no signs this was going to happen when i was away working she told me i am so proud of you i love you so much,I just can't understand why.She says she was young when we married and she loves me but is not in love with me. i know i need to be ok with it but i am not. I have'nt even dated yet,well i tried but could not do it. She tells me i am a good guy and i will find someone she tells me happiness is a choice and i should choose to be happy.I feel like my life is over i never expected to be here.How do i be ok

2006-07-10 23:57:41 · 11 answers · asked by harley6455 2

My husband is 32 and we are expecting our 2nd child in 3 months. The only problem is that I can't get him to stop being focused on himself. He would rather buy a nice stereo system for his truck than buy baby items. We are going in serious debt because of his wants. How do I explain to him that our baby can not sleep in a speaker box. Any help would be appreciated!

2006-07-10 23:43:49 · 19 answers · asked by Anonymous

I need some advice:My husband & I have been married a little over a year, and were together for a year before that. I truly love him but my actions throughout our time together has started to destroy us. While dating, a couple times I tried to leave him but he begged me back.I've had depression problems and I have mood swings as well. Because of this I am rarely in the mood for sex.I pick a fight for everything.The worse part of all this is that I have been verbally and physically abusive with him..and yes I am a woman.Because we are in the Army we have been seperated for the past 10 months because of deployment and only seeneach other 2 weeks during leave.Even though I had promised to change, I ruined our time together by abusing him again.We fight even when we chat and he cant take in anymore, especially him being at war.He's thinking about divorcing me.I love him to death and dont want to lose him, I have tried to change but I just cant seem to. What can I do to change and save us?

2006-07-10 23:43:03 · 18 answers · asked by Anonymous

ok i came out of a long relationship 5 mth ago it was 8 years and 3 kids, i still love her but she says she does not feel the same, anyways after asking her over and over again to try again i gave up about 2 mth ago, since then i have sorted myself out new job, still take kids religiously working out alot and really planning for the future, however i still love my ex to bits so i do still talk to her when i go for the kids the annoying thing is though her and her father keep telling me to move on!
havent i already?
what am i to do find someone else who i dont want just to say i have moved on?
i dont want another relationship and what is the harm in waiting for her and see what time brings?
its not as if im asking her to get back with me anymore.
why do they keep saying move on!
i have god dam it as much as i can lol

2006-07-10 23:40:37 · 18 answers · asked by Anonymous

I'm married for almost one year. we are having a very good relationshp and i love and like her a lot. the last year was just like a never ending dream for me. and next week is our first anniversary. can any one suggest what should be the perfect gift for her on that occassion. I would prefer answers from ladies, but any great ideas from any one else is also wecome.

2006-07-10 23:25:45 · 16 answers · asked by Anonymous

me and my g/f of 7 and a half years broke up 5 mths ago, we have 3 children 2 of which are stepchildren and 1 is my daughter. we both know why it ended and we have both been through all the stages ect... of braking up. i still love her but she says she does not feel that way for me anymore, but when we talk she still has alot of "what if" "i dont knows" in her words. she is still at parents now as am i but now she is talking about getting her own place.
she keeps telling me to move on, and she does not want me to wait around incase she still feels the same in 1 or 2 years. she says there is no one else and she does not ever want to love anyone ever again and does not want another relationship.
now my question is - if there was someone else fine i go and move on. but surely isnt it worth the wait with the kids involved if i still love her?
whats the chances of people who say they dont want relationships changing there mind down the line?
and how long does it take? we get on now ok.

2006-07-10 23:25:20 · 13 answers · asked by Anonymous

2006-07-10 23:22:12 · 14 answers · asked by Scott C 2

Why do men who are outgoing and have a high sex drive marry quiet and extremely conservative women?

2006-07-10 23:16:14 · 7 answers · asked by ? 2

we don't have kids, and i get scared when she ties me up. we don't use a safeword. what do you think? i mean i get scared but right about the time i'm going to cry for help....i pop. what should i do?

2006-07-10 23:14:02 · 5 answers · asked by blinky doodles 4

Need to know the legal percentage that is required to be paid from my monthly salary to my spouse and two children. I currently pay £615 per month for mortgage and insurance from a monthly take home amount of £1,300.

I do not want to incurr solicitors costs for this question prior to informing my spouse that I cannot afford to pay the whole mortgage.

Also do I need to continue to pay 50% of the mortgage to protect my interest in the property?

I have been separated for just over a year but not divorced and are experiencing financial difficulties.

2006-07-10 23:11:22 · 7 answers · asked by Fred 1

.....After we got married she basically came right out and said that she doesnt like oral sex and the same interesting type of positions I like in bed. She married me for the kids and figured I would just get over the fact that she wans't into the type of sex I liked (which is straight and not over kinky) I am incredibly unhappy and she could care less about being a partner in bed who can make me happy....What to do?

2006-07-10 22:59:42 · 8 answers · asked by dharmabear 3

I have been married for 10 years. I am 31 and my husband is 42. Up until about 3 months ago we had a very healthy sex life. Granted we have been going through some tough times with our relationship. But one day he just quit having sex with me. I would try and come on to him and he would ignore me. I would do special things for him and he didn't care. I can be in the middle of a sentence and he will just walk away from me like I wasn't even talking to him. I know that it isn't my looks, I work out at the gym 5 times a week, I have great personal hygenie, and take pride in my apperance. I am not foo foo or anything just dressed nicely. He doesn't seem to have any respect for me anymore, Or really want anything to do with me unless he needs something. We have had marital problems off and on for the last two years, but he was still at least some what respectful of me until about 3 months ago? What in the world could be going through his head?

2006-07-10 22:56:04 · 15 answers · asked by Carrie C 3

He's charming, but he keeps bouncing my checks.

2006-07-10 22:47:07 · 7 answers · asked by klunk 3

do they just listen to you?
do they have questionaires for you?
do they give you some directions?

how does it work?

2006-07-10 22:13:20 · 10 answers · asked by rekha c 3

My wife is German, she left for Germany took the kids and left. I have no contacts except her e-mail address, and she doesn't respond to that anymore. I'm a soldier in Iraq, and I'm deployed right now. She told me we were going to meet up in Germany when I get out of the Army in January. However, right now she left about a week and a half ago and I haven't heard from her yet at all. I've been married for 5 years. I really been a good husband. She's homesick really bad and misses Germany. I told her I would live there with her. However, no response yet to my e-mails. Does anybody think she's left for good and I'm never going to see her again or my kids? Do you think she'll eventually contact me soon enough, and I have nothing to worry about?

2006-07-10 22:04:54 · 17 answers · asked by Anonymous

2006-07-10 22:04:02 · 9 answers · asked by paul r 1

I'm a lecturer. Married with one child. I'm falling in love with my student. What do you think?

2006-07-10 22:02:05 · 15 answers · asked by Orsca 2

We have custody of all our children, the mother, who walked out on my husband and her 3 kids, now wants custody of the children. She filed for a custody change a year ago and has postponed it several times. The guardian ad litum says that they should live with her because that is what they want. The children are 13 and 8. There is no abuse or any reason to change custody, just the children's wishes. The guardian ad litum has never even investigated why they want to live with her or allegations that we have about her care of them. She has lied to them and gotten the children to lie about us as well. If we can't afford the attorney anymore can he stop representing us or does he have an obilgation to continue with our case? We owe one attorney $1000 and our attorney $5000. What are our rights? What if we fire him and hire another attorney?

2006-07-10 21:32:56 · 14 answers · asked by lilone 1

2006-07-10 21:31:44 · 14 answers · asked by snappy 1

Mine is the orthodox one. By the way anyone tried kamsutra positions out there??????

2006-07-10 21:31:27 · 3 answers · asked by triggerhappy 2

Hubby wants another man in our bed - I am fairly easy going, would I enjoy it?

2006-07-10 21:23:27 · 14 answers · asked by easyalice 1

2006-07-10 21:19:30 · 27 answers · asked by paul r 1

My husband is constantly on my case about EVERYTHING! Always questioning my parenting of our 2 year old daughter (I'm a stay at home mom), I'm 7 months pregnant now and never feel good plus I have been fighting depression over personal loss issues for almost 5 years as it is, but I keep up with our daughter somehow & do all the housework & cooking. He gripes about the house, my cooking, my being on the computer when I cant sleep, what shampoo I use on our 2 year old during her baths, how hot or cold I have the house when he isnt even here; just everything! I'm sooo stressed out I just wanna scream, I cry at the drop of a dime and unless I have on a happy face 24/7 he gets mad & actually has to ask me whats wrong... I cant hardly sleep at night but he expects me to just close my eyes & poof I'll be asleep. Tonight he had the gall to say to me "How the f*ck you gonna handle 2 kids when you cant even handle one?!", he says this type of thing every single day.. how do you cope?

2006-07-10 21:19:03 · 6 answers · asked by Anonymous

your parents (or both of yours) object to the marriage - they are absolutely, stubbornly firm about it & are not willing to listen to you anymore. What will you do?

2006-07-10 20:53:51 · 23 answers · asked by Anonymous

2006-07-10 20:51:40 · 8 answers · asked by Aby 3

2006-07-10 20:40:25 · 5 answers · asked by king 2

he treats my sons like they dont belong here and he barely talks to me. and when we do talk he twists the things i say around am i doing the rite thing?

2006-07-10 20:39:19 · 8 answers · asked by dreamdragon 1

But i have no idea what its suppost to say do you know any websites that give you an idea of what to say in it?

~Thanks~

2006-07-10 20:33:43 · 4 answers · asked by *~*ME*~* 2