he treats my sons like they dont belong here and he barely talks to me. and when we do talk he twists the things i say around am i doing the rite thing?
2006-07-10 20:39:19 · 8 answers · asked by dreamdragon 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Hi , Im real sorry your husband treats you like this, before you make your mind up to leave him and I write to you as a man whoose wife has left him and I didnt see it coming, I would advise you to sit down with him and talk truefully to him about how deeply this is hurting you and if nothing improves fast then you will leave him with the kids, If he is any sort of man he will listen to you and try to mend his marriage ,tell him about my situation , at least you are telling him how you feel and not just walking out with no warning ,cos if or when you do walk I can definiatly say his world will crash as mine did no matter how much of a man he percieves himself to be, I 100% think you deserve better treated than as you have said he is treating u but your marriage is worth fighting for ,once you leave it is finished no matter if you go back its not the same . Try to talk ,if that is no good then yes, walk, but dont look back because all your heartache is twice as bad revisited. Good luck with this ,be happy for yourself and the kids ,remember to put yourself 1st once in a while!. x Paul
2006-07-10 20:56:31 · answer #1 · answered by paul r 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I agree wiht Paul R....try to get to the bottom of it. If he seems to have a run around with you or ignores the topic there has to be a more serious underlying problem going on that has nothing to do with you. How long have you been married and why would he treat you children with such disrespect. Are they his biological children or is he acting as? I am in a relationship now that Is similar when it comes to talking and getting down to the nitty gritty. I was single for 4 years because I didnt want to be hurt again and had a child with my previous engagement, I get might defensive if my boyfriend trys to intervine with my child and dont know how to respond which then causes us problems.But all in all it is great. Try see what is bothering you husband. Maybe there is stresses and he is taking them out on you or maybe hes juts being no good. Me personally would never ever second guess my female intuition to get out because your children come first and foremost. Good luck hun!
2006-07-11 04:38:26 · answer #2 · answered by Princessa 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If he's mistreating your sons, then he isn't worth the space he's taking up in your life!!!
Get out now and find someone that will treat you and your sons with love and respect. You deserve better than this dude!!
Good Luck!
Aloha!
2006-07-11 03:53:01 · answer #3 · answered by gabriel_demus 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
GET OVER IT AND GET A NEW LIFE 4 YOURSELF,DONT GET INTO AN OTHER RELATIONSHIP LIKE THE SAME.TRY A DIFFERANT TYPE OF PERSONALLITY IN A MAN,DONT CHOOSE THE SAME TYPE OF MAN.WERE NOT ALL FU----UP.
2006-07-11 09:24:33 · answer #4 · answered by lickit4u 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This sounds so horrible! How did you end up marrying this guy in the first place? Do you have ANYTHING in common with him?
How did this happen?
2006-07-11 03:44:27 · answer #5 · answered by Wayne A 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Try councilling 1st if it doesn't work split give your kids a good life
2006-07-11 07:46:59 · answer #6 · answered by pig m 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just do what is best for your kids and yourself. Don't question if its right. You have to worry about your children and your health.
2006-07-11 03:53:45 · answer #7 · answered by low1sk8er 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
he sounds like an ***, its hard to tell somebody to end their marriage...., if hes mean to the kids i would tell him to stop it or else your leaving, give him an opportunity to change, communicate to him you wont tolerate abuse of any kind, if he doesnt care about TRYING, i would get rid of him, good luck!
2006-07-11 03:59:43 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋