.....After we got married she basically came right out and said that she doesnt like oral sex and the same interesting type of positions I like in bed. She married me for the kids and figured I would just get over the fact that she wans't into the type of sex I liked (which is straight and not over kinky) I am incredibly unhappy and she could care less about being a partner in bed who can make me happy....What to do?
2006-07-10 22:59:42 · 8 answers · asked by dharmabear 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Listen Needy....I didn't marry her for SEX! BUT having said that ....SEX is important isn't it? Can you not assume I am a pig just because I like creative sex? Sounds to me like you are reading into this a little more in the fmeinist mode. I am a great dad and husband but I already told you she came right out and told me she decieved me! I am in a true dilema here.
2006-07-10 23:16:20 · update #1
Stay if you can handle it, otherwise don't. It is a deal breaker... hopefully everything works out. Good luck.
2006-07-10 23:11:56 · answer #1 · answered by heidielizabeth69 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Did you marry her just for a sex partner or because you loved her? Maybe that isn't her style of sex but is that a reason to be unhappy cuz if it is then you only wanted a partner for sex...should have never married her till you knew for sure she liked what you did in the bed
2006-07-11 06:09:32 · answer #2 · answered by Texas_at_its_best 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This is a tough question and I really feel for you. I suggest going to a marriage counselor. If she will not do this talk to her and maybe compromise with her. Only ask for oral sex 1 time per month instead of all the time. I really don't understand why she does not like oral how could she not like it????? Let her know that you are very unhappy and tell her that you would like her to compromise. GOOD LUCK
2006-07-11 06:07:18 · answer #3 · answered by kelsey 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
So what did she lie about? Did you ever ASK her if she enjoyed oral sex? Did you ever ASK her if she enjoyed the positions? If not then you don't have a leg (pun intended) to stand on. If you didn't bother to talk about these things BEFORE you were married then you're just S.O.L. That is why it is so important for couples to communicate before they get married...
2006-07-19 03:28:06 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like irreconcilable differences to me. It's not fair, but it's going to cost you if you divorce her - it would be difficult to prove that she lied to you without some kind of evidence. You could always get some on the side, but if she caught you, she could divorce you and still get most of your stuff.
Best thing: control all the money and give her an allowance. From this point on, never put her name on anything.
2006-07-11 09:50:48 · answer #5 · answered by rb42redsuns 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Bring this up in court as soon as possible and get the marriage annulled. Annulment is when you get married and the other person lied to get you to marry them. That way if they are not your kids you wont be responsible for them. or have to pay her alimony. But you have to do it fast. Get a good lawyer.
2006-07-11 06:06:41 · answer #6 · answered by Pete 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you do not have to remain in a marriage that makes you unhappy. but what you should ask yourself is - is sex your no. 1 priority in a marriage? if yes then get the marriage anulled. if not then evaluate whether or not she makes you happy in other areas of your life. hope this helps you.
2006-07-11 06:15:35 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
try to take her to a doctor....and if not.......god bless you my friend.
2006-07-11 06:11:13 · answer #8 · answered by sri_pondy 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋