My wife is German, she left for Germany took the kids and left. I have no contacts except her e-mail address, and she doesn't respond to that anymore. I'm a soldier in Iraq, and I'm deployed right now. She told me we were going to meet up in Germany when I get out of the Army in January. However, right now she left about a week and a half ago and I haven't heard from her yet at all. I've been married for 5 years. I really been a good husband. She's homesick really bad and misses Germany. I told her I would live there with her. However, no response yet to my e-mails. Does anybody think she's left for good and I'm never going to see her again or my kids? Do you think she'll eventually contact me soon enough, and I have nothing to worry about?
2006-07-10 22:04:54 · 17 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Give her some time. She may not have access to email yet.
2006-07-10 22:10:20 · answer #1 · answered by lindakflowers 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Stay safe in Iraq. If the only way to contact her is via email and she knows that's the only way to get a message to her and she's not responding, I'd keep writing to that address and I'd be concerned. I'd also contact any people where you guys lived before she moved. Maybe she gave them information. And if she's homesick for Germany and is a German chick, you know she took her kids and went home to Germany. Hunt her family down. They will know where she is. I'd also speak to your command and let them know what you are dealing with. Perhaps they will have some other options for you to try. But for real, get home safe from Iraq and good luck getting in touch with your family. I pray you find them and all is well. I'm a military wife, too.
2006-07-10 22:53:26 · answer #2 · answered by 30somethingfemale 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think it will be alright. I would contact your Rear D and ask them to locate her. Remember, she will most likely need to use her military benefits at some point. They should be able to track if she has used any of the health services on base. She will have to change locations with DEERS as well. She may just be in an area where she cannot be reached at this time. Plus, 1st ID is in the process of leaving Germany forr Fort Riley so I hear that the areas of Germany where they are at is in somewhat of a shutdown mode fo the time being. I am not sure if this affects her but it may be possibility. Remember to contact Rear D. That is what they are there for.
2006-07-11 01:15:20 · answer #3 · answered by accountant 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First of all don't make yourself crazy when you can't change things from where you're at, When you can have free run of your time things change. Contact the American embassy in Germany see if they might be able to assist you. Is your child an American, custody needs to be established. Relatives in Germany do you know the address of her parents, etc. Start putting things in writing, get the ball rolling so when your able go you know where and what your going too. Good luck, I'm praying for you!
2006-07-10 22:23:25 · answer #4 · answered by want2flybye 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You can get a private detective to find out where she is, but you know she will probably be with her family there if she is homesick.
I don't know if she will come back but being in the EU makes the rules a bit easier to know where she is and track her down.
Perhaps she needs a bit of time, but can you not get some sort of special leave? Don't leave it too long. She too must be hurting, and I can see that you are.
There are ways of finding out where the email address is coming from, ask a question on this site and someone will help you.
Try wooing her when you find out where she is, tell her how important she is to you, make her feel special.
DO NOT ROW with her, even if you feel angry, that will make her withdraw more.
I really hope that this situation resolves itself.
2006-07-10 22:17:09 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
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2016-12-01 01:19:22 · answer #6 · answered by ? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You actually have a very simple situation,
You are being called upon to be a man and put your life on the line.
She needs to grow up and do her part, I don't care how homesick you are its not quite the same as spending a year as a walking target.
The easy part, you shouldn't have once ounce of guilt for dumping a selfish child. Your wife needs to be a grown up now. If she's not doing her part its good ridance to her.
2006-07-10 22:25:59 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Give her little time, she was homesick and wanted to go to Germany besides she had no other option under the current circumstances while you are away. She will surely come back when you announce that you are back to your place or you can even plan a trip to Germany itself!
2006-07-10 23:13:55 · answer #8 · answered by AreAce 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't worry about it either way. Seriously, if theres nothing you can do right now, no sense worrying too much.
What would help is if you had any family that was willing to help you out and locate her for you. At least you'll have a peace of mind that she and the kids are safe.
Good luck.
2006-07-10 22:42:55 · answer #9 · answered by BlueChimera 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ye, nothing to worry about, take care of yourself there and you'll eventually be together again.
2006-07-10 22:14:01 · answer #10 · answered by lovebug2004 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋