I have been married for 10 years. I am 31 and my husband is 42. Up until about 3 months ago we had a very healthy sex life. Granted we have been going through some tough times with our relationship. But one day he just quit having sex with me. I would try and come on to him and he would ignore me. I would do special things for him and he didn't care. I can be in the middle of a sentence and he will just walk away from me like I wasn't even talking to him. I know that it isn't my looks, I work out at the gym 5 times a week, I have great personal hygenie, and take pride in my apperance. I am not foo foo or anything just dressed nicely. He doesn't seem to have any respect for me anymore, Or really want anything to do with me unless he needs something. We have had marital problems off and on for the last two years, but he was still at least some what respectful of me until about 3 months ago? What in the world could be going through his head?
2006-07-10 22:56:04 · 15 answers · asked by Carrie C 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Ok, I have to add that I HAVE asked him, nicely and then not so nicely. And yes he always accuses me of cheating on him. Although I never give him any reason to think that. And yes I wondered if he could be cheating on me since he always accuses me of it.
2006-07-10 23:25:28 · update #1
I talked him into going to marriage counseling about 2 yrs ago. He only went 1 time, I continued to go until I couldn't afford to anymore. And NO I have never cheated on him. My dad taught me better than that. I have tried to initiate conversation about our marriage and what it is lacking. In the middle of our conversation his cell phone rings and he is out of the room. He is ALWAYS on that stupid phone, and yes I have checked his phone and even the bill. There was a time when he was calling a women a lot and I flippedout on her and told her husband what was going on and then confronted my husband with the phone bill.
2006-07-11 00:33:07 · update #2
Its hard to answer this Q, but if its not an other women, maybe its control problem. Maybe way back some thing went wrong and he thinks that he has lost control. If he thinks that you, have lost respect for him, he will want nothing to do with you. So if you can think back, in you mind and think of a problem that the time, it happened it had to do with him making a decision, that you went against his decision. It could have been a simple thing as money, sex, time of having sex.. things of that nature.. good luck in your search.
2006-07-10 23:29:32 · answer #1 · answered by meatball288001 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hi there,
I went Thur the same thing with my ex-wife. Every day she accused me of cheating. I never put myself in a position where I was tempted. It turned out that she was the one cheating on me. She had three affairs in 18 yrs on marriage. The last one was with her FIRST COUSIN. So you need to start looking for signs around the house and in his car. You will find them,they are there. Sorry to be the one to tell you this but you will be better off knowing than not knowing.
2006-07-11 06:44:45 · answer #2 · answered by the_saint1963 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Funny, with all these answers about him cheating on you. You didn't deny cheating on him, are you? Looks like you need to come clean too. All these answers doesn't mean he's cheating on you. Yeah, that's right base your marriage on what all these freaks are telling you. Try talking to him instead of assuming. I am marred for 12 years and we have been thru a lot. Now we are happy cause we talked everything out. I have even had some fun out of it, we both have. Buck up and talk. Ange
2006-07-11 06:49:59 · answer #3 · answered by sapahaw 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
sounds trite... but ask him. Sometimes things aren't always what they seem. Since nobody else is there and can see what's going on, the best thing to do is ask him. See what can be done to fix what's going wrong between the two of you. It could be ANYTHING.... maybe the way he takes it how you respond to him... Good luck.
2006-07-11 06:15:53 · answer #4 · answered by heidielizabeth69 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
ok thoes are the perfect signs of a cheating man...i had the same problem...then found out my ex was cheating on me!! u need to look further into the relationship...call cheaters the tv program
2006-07-11 06:01:27 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am a married man. He's cheating. He's not even good at it either. Why don't you catch him? I'll tell you how. Look on his cell phone or put a keystroke recording program on oyur computer. Good luck.
2006-07-11 06:27:57 · answer #6 · answered by dharmabear 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
this happened in my marriage of 23 years after the 17th one we went years without having sex although we slept in the same bed. I would try to wear something at night to get his attention but he would turn over and go to sleep. i would talk to him all he would say is im very much attracted to you but that was it.. he would get on the phone go outside to talk . it only got worse finally it all came to a head in aug. he decided we would separate but live in the same house. i tried that one day i was at work and he brought a woman in from up north. he traveled alot and sometimes was gone for 3 months at the time (up North) .. this lady was brought into my house around my kids as he gave her a tour of our home. then he tried to claim they were only friends. he went all over my neighborhood telling people i had cheated. then all his employees told me just to sit back and watch it would all come out. so i did and the lady from ny came into my hom e. from that he started going out to strip joints , clubbing, concerts he never would have taken me to those places. one night he went to a concert i woke up the next morning car was in the yard and his date that i went to school with wrote all over his windows pour brown sugar on me they had went to some metallica concert. if only got worse so my kids and i packed up and moved out. sometimes i think men like that just have women on the side ...t hink about it something is going on.
2006-07-11 07:55:17 · answer #7 · answered by caroline 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It sounds like you've nagged him to the point where he's getting ready to take you for a boat ride like Scott from Modesto did.
2006-07-11 12:27:21 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I know how you feel, I’m in the same situation,
No matter what I do, I get no responce.
Been married for almost 20 years,
Signed
Bored
Lonely
Sexless
Write me
2006-07-11 11:11:22 · answer #9 · answered by Juggernaut 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ask him,communication is th key!!!!!!!!Will he answer you honestly. Some mens drive begin to slow down around that age. Tell him that you are concerned and that you feel alone and unwanted. That should get his attention.
2006-07-11 06:08:54 · answer #10 · answered by seaking 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋