How does a marriage counsellor help couples?

Question

do they just listen to you?
do they have questionaires for you?
do they give you some directions?

how does it work?

Answer 1

We listen to both sides, we remain neutral but aware of "tactical" behaviors, there are questionaires and other tools that are utilized as dictated by the couples need and problem. Most of the time the couple seeking solutions to their problem have the answers, they just need help realizing what they are.

Answer 2

My husband and I have been to a couple of marriage counselors. Yes, they do listen. There was a couple of times where we filled out questionaires, and yes they do give you guidance. Another thing I liked about going to marital counseling is the assignments they would give to work on through the week. I am not sure if they all do that or not, but both of the ones we went to did. If you are seeing a psychologist that is also a marital therapist it helps, that way if there is anything mental like depression going on, they can help you there too. Hope this helps.

Answer 3

First a marriage counselor helps both people to more clearly listen to each other. Over time we lose the ability to hear exactly what the other is saying. She might say " I really wanted to but that food you like but it was so expensive" and he hears "why don't you make more $". Secondly a good counselor will see more clearly than either person what the actual problems are. It's as if you are lost in the woods and he is in a helicopter over head and can guide you out. Finally, Nobody can help you if EITHER of you don't want help.
In this case it is better to admit that you tried and try to part in a more human way, especially if there are children involved. In truth men and women are not designed to be together long term without lots of work. It's mostly about communication and putting g your needs second as best you can.

Answer 4

Wherever there are gaps, bridges are required to cover them..... Similarly there can be communication gaps in a marital relation and counsellors acts as bridges.....
They just make you sit together and listen to both of you, talk to both of you and make you talk to each other....
Mostly the problem are due to non-communication and are thus solved through marriage counselors. They just make you think about what you are doing and why you are doing it.... And make you realise that there is another way out, that all is not over yet.
Its just like a neutral third party opinion but they get paid for the service.

Answer 5

They do listen and they will ask many questions and if you are willing they will offer direction and advice. Their most important function is as an impartial mediator. A good one is someone who is interested in saving the marriage if that is what both parties really want. the couple must be open to suggestions and be able to put real effort into the mending of their relationship.

Answer 6

They really can't help couples unless the couples really want to be helped. Both have to be honest with the counsellor and both have to be willing to take new directions.

Answer 7

They do listen to you and give you questionnaires to fill and offer guidance and a clear vision into things you have never seen before in the relationship... he can see whythe relationship went wrong without being biased to any of the partners. but the most important factors is having the couple fully committed to making it work. if one of them is not committed, then it won't work

Answer 8

YOU AND YOUR OTHER HALF WILL GO TO FIND OUT WHERE THE ROOTS OF THE PROBLEM ARE,YOU WILL BE GUIDED THROUGH,THE DR>BEING THE REFEREE,YOU AND YOUR OTHER WILL DO THE WORK AND TRY TO RESOLVE YOUR DIFFERANCES.DONT GO IN WITH A NEG.ATT:AND YOU WILL LEARN.(BE HONEST)or YOU WILL ONLY HURT YOURSELF.GOOD-LUCK.DM

Answer 9

I dont believe in marriage...

Answer 10

of course they help