I need some advice:My husband & I have been married a little over a year, and were together for a year before that. I truly love him but my actions throughout our time together has started to destroy us. While dating, a couple times I tried to leave him but he begged me back.I've had depression problems and I have mood swings as well. Because of this I am rarely in the mood for sex.I pick a fight for everything.The worse part of all this is that I have been verbally and physically abusive with him..and yes I am a woman.Because we are in the Army we have been seperated for the past 10 months because of deployment and only seeneach other 2 weeks during leave.Even though I had promised to change, I ruined our time together by abusing him again.We fight even when we chat and he cant take in anymore, especially him being at war.He's thinking about divorcing me.I love him to death and dont want to lose him, I have tried to change but I just cant seem to. What can I do to change and save us?
2006-07-10 23:43:03 · 18 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
you better learn to zip it real quick, the tongue is referred to as
a "weapon" in the bible, words hurt very much, stop it , soon or else he probably will leave, pray for yourself your not unhelpable,
God can change you if you'll ask him to do it....read the book of titus ..www.biblegateway.com.,,,your human, give yourself a break, but stop being mean,,maybe you need some medication, depression is a disease you may need help,,i'm sure uncle sam
gives you insurance? utilize your resources my dear, stop being a victim, be a VICTOR!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
2006-07-11 00:00:04 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
sounds like u need some meds and learn to work with your control issues the military life is suppose to make u strong yes and independent and train u to fight but not with each other take it out on the enemey not the ones u love. We are at war and it should not be with each other. And if u r active I know u have to see military doctors and sometimes that can be difficult but u have to see one and explain your moods and get something for that before your moods not only ruin your marriage but can end up getting u discharged if not controled. Good luck.
2006-07-11 07:01:57 · answer #2 · answered by hubbys2ndbest2000 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You say you have mood swings, and depression has been a problem. There are many reasons for this to happen to you. Try changing your diet and take mineral supplements.
And are you like this with all men or just him.
Also being away from him for so long does not help a young relationship.
2006-07-11 07:13:17 · answer #3 · answered by Scott C 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need help, dear one. Therapy is definitely in order. I am pleased you at least see the horrible treatment you inflict upon the man "you love to death". You are not going to magically change.
Only you can make the decision to get the help you need. If your husband had posed this, I would suggest he leave you. No one deserves such abuse in what should be a loving, close relationship.
I pray for you both.
2006-07-11 06:52:33 · answer #4 · answered by rrrevils 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to seek outside help for your depression, A counsler can assist you with the mood swings. If you really love him as you say then you will get the help you need. "One can lead a horse to water but you cant make him drink". You will change only when you truly want to and not till then. GET THE HELP YOU NEED FIRST, then worry about your marriage. Your husband will be there to support you if you really want this.
2006-07-11 06:50:14 · answer #5 · answered by the_saint1963 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if you really love him, then talk your heart out to him, moreover if your love is true things will get settled some day. But dear, you cetainly need some help to keep your swinging moods balanced.Nobody tolerates abuses, your partner seems to be a good person, go and ask him to forgive you.
2006-07-11 07:06:22 · answer #6 · answered by pawinda 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
at least you know there is a problem thats step 1 after that get help military your going through alot right now take it easy and there are meds to help you if you dont object to taking pills a good man is hard to find work on it and try to change no one wants to deal with that .good luck.I wish you the best
2006-07-11 07:04:07 · answer #7 · answered by nicole l 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like you may have a hormone imbalance...can you go see a doctor about it? Good luck....and keep in mind, if he is at war, that you may not have tomorrow with him.....think of how much you would regret fighting (even if over the phone) with him if he was killed tomorrow. Good luck.
2006-07-11 07:36:00 · answer #8 · answered by bluez 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You're testing him. How much can he take before he leaves? Have you had other men in your life leave you, a father perhaps or previous b/f? If you dont change, i'm 100% sure he will leave.
2006-07-11 07:25:17 · answer #9 · answered by bill6866 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
See a psychiatrist
2006-07-11 06:45:33 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋