For the past 2 months, I have witnessed my husband sending emails to two girls, flirting online, arranging meetings, and even calling on the phone. When I confronted him with my findings, he said that he was just trying to get some business (he is a freelance wedding photographer). Anyway, I haven't felt interested in doing things with him and I am so upset by what he has done that I don't think I can forgive him. This isn't the first time he has done this. Am I overreacting about leaving him???
2006-07-10 07:59:50 · 17 answers · asked by Pen 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Well I talked to the girl and she said they were going to meet and he said he loved her, etc. But then she called his cell telling him to tell me to stop calling her, but I never called her! But, after all of this, I just don't feel the way I should anymore and he is my one and only and we have been married for 7 years. He hasn't cheated as far as I know, but he has done this type of emailing before - even with his ex! He would talk about the old times with her, etc. Just some more details!
2006-07-10 08:24:53 · update #1
Well, during all of this, I met this wonderful person and I think it may go somewhere. I want to separate from my husband but he wants to work on it. He says it isn't fair and that I should give him a chance but I don't really want to. Am I being selfish?
2006-07-14 05:56:43 · update #2
Be sure you got the facts before you act. cheating is a absolute deal breaker for me. As is lying if he's cheated he;s lied . Just be 100% sure you got the right facts. if he's cheated I'd start making steps
2006-07-10 08:05:47 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why does flirting have to be involved in business. So, he is a wedding photographer, but there is flirting and then there is being friendly. Getting single women's numbers and arrangging to meet single women won't have anything to do with his line of work. Unless, he doing other kinds of photographery. These two girls were they potential clients? Have you seen any edivence that aren't? Some woman are very flattered to be flirted with and your husband maybe thinking he is doing this to get the job to put food on your table. Just like some woman going in to interview with a man and wearing a short skirt, and making sure the make up is perfect. You said you caught him before, what did you catch him at? I think my biggest question is why don't you feel like doing anything with him? Is it because of his behavior or something on your part. This could all be a big act, just like a used car salesman telling you that you have the prettiest eyes he has ever seen. By the way, he proably told the last woman he approached the same thing. Talk to him about it, and be honest with him, tell him makes you to believe he is cheating on you. Could he back off some, and hopefully he will. If you are looking for an excuse to leave, then this is it. It boils down to want you are willing to put up with and what you won't. But, if you love him give him a chance to tone it down to respectful level. good luck!
2006-07-10 08:19:18 · answer #2 · answered by totallylost 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Absolutely not, he may not feel like hes doing anything wrong, but that can't change the way you feel about it. He may only be trying to get business, but he could be doing it w/out all the extra flirting & what not. It's outrageous that he does it right in front of your face, he probably knows that will make you ? whether hes really being unfaithful!
Go for the door Girl, I know that would be hard I've been married almost 7 myself, but if started acting that way, I would know he lost his respect for me!!
2006-07-10 08:06:00 · answer #3 · answered by North of Heaven 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am a married man, my wife & i have been married for alittlte over 8 wonderful years,we both think that chat to people that is not family or close freinds on the web is CHEATING.We are very careful about who gets our stuff on the web.if you let this go on then you are a fool & youre husbands little puppet.you better leave or get used to it
2006-07-10 09:21:26 · answer #4 · answered by Clydesdale 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
A B S O L U T L E Y not !
You should be with a soul mate that complements you an him you !
Who cant take there eys of each other .
Who want to spend every living moment with each other .
Who care for each others feelings.
Who wouldn't dream of hurting each others feelings .
Who want each other to be happy.
Who's personality's compliment each others
Who can freely communicate anything .
hmm tired an laziness is kicking in ; and cant think of anymore reasons why you should be wasting you time, youth, energy, an love on someone who doesn't appreciate you .
2006-07-10 08:15:30 · answer #5 · answered by cingular11111 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well is he lying about that? email them yourself and find out. but you said it isn't the first time so perhaps its better if you just go, obviously this isn't working for you so let him go flirt all he wants while you search for a real husband. once they've done it once even the slightest hint of doing it again is enough to tell you that they just are that way, and it wasn't a one time thing that just 'happened'.
2006-07-10 08:06:25 · answer #6 · answered by dappersmom 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's considered cheating cause he's cheating emotionally. Of course, it's quite possible that he has already cheated. Read the emails, print them out, and take them to a divorce attorney.
2006-07-10 08:09:29 · answer #7 · answered by sglesxyldy 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Are you saying that he has cheated before or are you just insecure?
You can read the emails and make up your ow mind if they are work related or not. Try talking to him first before you make a decision.
2006-07-10 08:04:22 · answer #8 · answered by Brown Eyed Girl 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sweetie, wake up and smell the roses. Either talk to him or move on as harsh as that sounds. And if he is cheating, why? What is your relationship lacking? AND if this isnt the first time, then you really need to rethink this marriage....
Good Luck....My blessings to you.
2006-07-10 08:05:39 · answer #9 · answered by Cloe 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are not overreacting. Why would he flirt with bride's to be? Think about it. He is looking to cheat on you if he hasn't already.
2006-07-10 08:04:45 · answer #10 · answered by cawecm 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋