Am I being made an idiot out of or does she actually like me?

Question

I’m close friends with a girl who I liked, so I told her 3 weeks ago. She responded by saying that she just wanted to be friends. But over the course of the last 3 weeks she has kissed me many times and we have cuddled together intimately a lot. I would say we act as boyfriend and girlfriend.

She rings me 1st thing in the morning and last thing at night, and many times during the day. She wants to hang out together each day. She has told me everything about her! We talk for hours. She says she wants to meet my family.

She still says we are friends. Says she has gotten hurt by her last two boyfriends not long ago and is scared of giving her heart away again. She still talks a lot about her last boyfriend who hurt her badly – Basically used her and then suddenly stopped all contact with her without explanation!

Does she even like me? Am I being played for a fool and don’t see it? Help please I'm really confused!

Answer 1

Sometimes the direct approach is best, just ask. But if that seems too bold for your liking, look for the following signs. Pay attention to your conversations with the person in question.
1) Does this person show a special interest in having a conversation with you and, once started, make an effort to keep that conversation going?
2) Has this person taken a sudden interest in your life and hobbies? This is a sure sign that he or she is interested in something.
3) Other elements of body language include frequent eye contact, holding your gaze and looking down before looking away.
4) Does the person you're wondering about just plain smile at you a lot?
Just remember, take each moment like it will be the last. This I feel will be a good start for you in knowing. Good Luck!!!!!!!

Answer 2

She gave you the answer, guy. Both in what she said, and what she does.
She's insecure because of previous hurt. She touches base with you, morning, noon and night, just to make sure you're there. It's a security issue.
She tells you "everything"? No she doesn't. Her deepest feelings she's guarding well. It's a security issue.
She tells you she's been hurt before, repeatedly, and she's scared to share her heart again. Sounds pretty consistent with her behavior, doesn't it?
She gets physically close to you... touching, cuddling, kissing... Once again, it's a security issue. She wants to be held, and to give you enough in return to keep you holding her.

You're not being played for a fool. It sounds like honesty to me. But you are being used to meet her security needs. If you're happy with that, enjoy it. Push for more, you'll threaten her... and push her away.

Once she feels secure with you, one of two things will happen. If she sees you as more than a friend, she'll open up and draw you closer. If not, once her needs are met she'll thank you and drift away....

Answer 3

She either likes stringing guys along until she gets bored and then moves on, or she is confused about the thoughts in her head and the words coming out of her mouth. It could also be, she is just so attention starved, and the fact that you have made your feelings known to her, now she's going to get that attention no matter what the cost of your feelings is. Basically she is being selfish. If she meant what she said about not wanting to get her heart broken again, I don't think she'd be jumping at the chance at kissing or making out with someone as that's part of giving your heart away. it's a sign of AFFECTION.

I think she's still hung up on her old boyfriend, and it's possible she thinks that in the back of her somewhat twisted female brain(we get that way sometimes, especially during puberty or after too many margaritas when we are older) that he may still come back for her, and that's what she is hoping. Even if she does have any remote feelings for you beyond friendship, she isn't being very selfless in her actions by toying with your mind and body as if it's not a big deal. She's saying one thing and doing another. In my opinion, I think it would be best if you steer clear of this girl, as far as any type of "beyond friendship" activities go, and just stick to talking to her on the phone and maybe meeting her for a burger and fries someplace... with other friends around.

If she wants to be alone with you or kiss and make out, tell her your sorry, but you don't think it's such a good idea. If she IS a true friend, she will back off and respect your feelings without any sort of a guilt trip. If she tries a guilt trip, then run as fast as you can and don't look back. There are plenty of other girls out there who are probably dying to go out with you, but you are so hung up on this girl, that you just dont' see it. sometimes we get so self-absorbed in one situation in our lives, that we don't realize what is going on in the rest of the world.

I hope you find some peace with your feelings for this girl, and move on in your life. You can still be friends, provided she respects the borderlines of your friendship. If she cannot respect them, she isn't a true friend and you need to let her go.

Answer 4

No, she likes you. She's just afaid of letting herself get used and hurt again. If you really like her don't give up, the scars from the past will fade but never go away.

Answer 5

Slow down Nelly. Where's the fire? Sounds like things are going ok.
If you like her, take your time. Let things unfold naturally and dont try to push.

Answer 6

Sounds like she is in love with you. Give her time and a little romance and see where this goes.

Answer 7

it hard to say u maybe just rebound guy.......... but i do think from what u say that she wants more then friendship. she uses that just in case
something happens she can tell herself we're just friends but deep down inside she feel another way about you

Answer 8

I think she likes you