Family - December 2007

My father was an abuser when I was little. I went to live with my mother when I was 12. I didn't speak to him for 25 years, except for when my grandfather (his dad) past away. I initiated the conversation of course. My father has a habit of holding grudges, rages, and he's still stewing about his and my mother's relationship over 30 years ago. He's currently married to someone who puts up with his crap. But he continues to stew about the past and cannot let it go. I recently reconnected with him, and it went well for a while. Him and my step mother both told me that he can now hear my mother's name, and look at her pictures without getting ragingly mad. So I trusted that. It went alright for a while. Until this Thanksgiving. Some of you may have read my "Thanksgiving blowout" question on this forum. Since Thanksgiving, he is being so juvenile. We talked things out, and we were fine. They forgot to take their gifts home, so I sent it to them. I only put my step mother's name on.......

2007-12-30 04:44:16 · 14 answers · asked by lady_bella 6

This is just a really random question.My mothers ,mothers ,sisters,hubands ,mother is 110.I just wonderd if anyone knew anyone near that old.

2007-12-30 04:37:50 · 14 answers · asked by Alexandra 1

Who's gonna stop me?

2007-12-30 03:46:54 · 10 answers · asked by midnite rainbow 5

all the financial, health, and other problems aside, will you agree to have 8 kids?

PS "the person you love most" obviously means your spouse or girlfriend/boyfriend

2007-12-30 03:00:32 · 9 answers · asked by Anonymous

you see i'm muslim and i go to a private school.i can't be myself around him.i want to act,sing,dance.my mom is christian and i love her with all my heart.he thinks singing is dead end no security.but my happiest moments are when i sing.i want to tell him i want to go to a performing arts high school.and i told him but he said 'so u don't want to learn ur religion'.i already know my religion and the education is so low in12th grade they're taking wuthering heights by emily bronte.i'm reading that now and i'm in 8th grade.i have an IQ of 125.5 that's high for my age.all i want to do is be myself and i can't and the only way i can is to sing.i'm at lost for words.

2007-12-30 01:36:40 · 9 answers · asked by songbird12 2

my girlfriend mom wants to move to Atlanta and after me and her daughter been together for two years she invited me to come along but i need her to put me in school and take me to the doctor and she needs to get gaurdianship and we only have two weeks until the big move. Will a notorized letter work because i will be an adult in two years and at the age of 16 i can decide who and where i want to live

2007-12-30 01:33:40 · 6 answers · asked by da confused 1 1

is it possible to do a dna test with my brother and i and find out if we share the same father?

2007-12-30 01:32:15 · 6 answers · asked by Anonymous

I am having some family problems. I don't get along with any of my family members. At first I was getting along with my dad but it got worst. Parents been divorced. I am trying to go back to college and I don't know how long I can stand living with my father. Would you move out? I can't even get a good night sleep for a whole month.

2007-12-30 00:57:29 · 4 answers · asked by Anonymous

I just found out my future brother-in-law's fiancee is pregnant. First I was irritated that they're even a couple still - they broke up for a year and they do not have what I would call a "solid" relationship. As a matter of fact about 3-4 months ago she OD'd herself after a fight (and not on purpose, just out of stupidity!) I just found out a week ago that she had a miscarriage, but then find out this week that was wrong and she is, in fact, pregnant. Apparently they have been trying even though they are not married, and she wasn't even living with him at the time when they decided to try starting (she had moved out). She's a smoker and a drinker, and it seemed like she had no problem finding out she had miscarried since she had several beers at the X-mas party.....

I'm irritated because I don't think this is a good thing, and yes I know it's not my business and I have no control over it, but it still bugs me....

2007-12-30 00:55:53 · 5 answers · asked by Anonymous

my ears stick out, and i really don't like it, i always have my hair down, but i want it up.
i'm 15, and i'll be 16 in june, i heard you can get it done for free if you're under 16 :]
i havn't even mentioned it to my dad, because if i do, he'll say 'stop being so stupid', he doesn't understand.
i know he will say no, but i really want it done, i've always hated my ears ever since i was real young.
i don't know what to do. grr.

2007-12-30 00:35:06 · 5 answers · asked by Anonymous

I remember when I was 8, my former foster dad got arrested, & I weeped all day. I'm 24 now. He died when I was 9. I really loved him.

2007-12-30 00:16:47 · 8 answers · asked by Anonymous

we had all are clothes on but he grab him by the neck and slammed his head into the front door and tossed him out in the snow.

2007-12-29 23:47:52 · 18 answers · asked by kelly S 2

i found a nice friend & parental figure on the internet. he's even better than my own dad. he tries to guide me, he tries to educate me, he tries to discipline me...in essence, i wish he were my dad!

2007-12-29 23:33:59 · 5 answers · asked by whatever w 1

2007-12-29 23:29:47 · 32 answers · asked by Anonymous

OK so as some of you might have seen the movie Juno,
its all about a girl who gets pregnant when shes 16 and such

so anyway
i saw it with my parents
and now my mom thinks that
im gonna get all like pregnant
im no where NEAR being 16!
and the whole thing sounds just..
i just wouldnt do that. I mean i am
already a teen.. so yea.

what should I do?

2007-12-29 20:02:59 · 2 answers · asked by Anonymous

i am the only girl in the fam. so I want a new sister but my parents think its too much work do u think adoption is a choice? Or wat if mom starts to like her more than me ? But me and mom are real close. what should i do?

2007-12-29 19:21:25 · 10 answers · asked by Ana ;; 2

I am a single, straight, 28 year old male that lives at home with his parents and other adult siblings. I am very successful in my career and I am highly educated as well, so it's not like I am a lazy person as some may want to believe when they hear I choose to live at home. My parents actively encourage their kids to live at home as long as they would like and rent free of course. What I don't understand is the jealousy people have of my living arrangements. If they are so jealous, most of them, I am sure, could make arrangments to move back home. I am the brunt of many nasty comments/jokes like this due to many forms of jealousy. It is worth noting that these arrangements did not come easy. I had to cultivate this great relationship with my family over a number of years. So it's not like anything was doled out to me. Plus, this is the least our parents can do considering all the years of joy we have given them in the past. They get a kick out of that when I tell them that.

2007-12-29 19:20:43 · 12 answers · asked by Anonymous

I used to be close to my mum...but since my dad passed away and with a few quarrel incidents with my mum over the buying of a new house...i became distance fm her. I find it very irritating to talk to her..she got the habit of threatening to commit suicide, leaving home...i'm so tired staying with her..i hired a part-time mate to help out with the housework but she dislikes the maid and drove her off. I do feel guilty at times and sympathise with her...but i just cant help it...apart from providing her with material needs, i'm not talking to her at all. I'm so unfilial right...but i really cant help it...i feel like moving out to stay on my own, but worry she will think i abandon her and try to commit suicide again...wat shld i do?

2007-12-29 19:08:18 · 5 answers · asked by Blues 1

The author of Raising a secure child is Zeynep Biringen (2004). Biringen Background is that she is an “associate professor at Colorado state university and a licensed child psychologist.” She wrote the book to inspire the way parents relate to children. It is dedicated to “all the children and families who have participated over the years.” People who read this book will figure out the “strengths and weaknesses in their current parent child relationship and develop new ways of creating stronger, more nourishing emotional bonds with children of any age.”
Biringen explains how children show attachment through “a cluster of behaviors that brings physical closeness to adult caregiver, such as reaching, clinging, sucking.” In children attachment starts very young. I have seen that I have five nephews and two nieces. My two nephews Wyatt and Camden were more attach to my sister-in-law. When Camden was born he was clinging to my sister-in-law. Every time I would watch him we would have to put him in another room with some toys and she would have to sneak out. He is now six years old and he is getting much better, but once in a while he will ask where his mommy is and we would always say she will be home soon. When Wyatt was born he was the same way as Camden and still is. Wyatt is one years old and every time someone watches him he cries. He is so clinging to his mommy. He will probably grow out of it like his brother.
In the book the author talks about childhood attachment through divorce and loss of parent. At any age your parents can divorce or lose a parent. It is a hard feeling to face. A lot of children are attaching to the caretaker and it is hard for them to go through a divorce or loss of a parent. A lot of time when a parent divorce when child is older the child express more anger as suppose when they are younger. A lot of people are different to.
Two examples of how attachment goes through divorce and loss of parent. First example is while I was in eighth grade my parents went through a divorce. I was more attaching to my father than my mother. I would get angry at everybody for no reasons. I was upset, stress out, and I blame it on myself. When I was around my parents I felt like it was my fault and I was afraid to talk about how I felt to anyone. Basically I shut down emotionally, trying to block the anger. All the stress and hurt took a toll on my schooling as well. All that was happening made it hard to focus on my school work.
Second example is about a loss parent. Losing a parent at any age is the worst feeling. Through all the pain, grief, and confusion it can change your life around. I have seen that happen. One of my best friends in high school lost her dad at the age of 16. She was upset, shock, and fearful. It was hard for because her dad died suddenly. It took her awhile to get back on track. To lose someone that close to you and always there for you just don’t get over it in a day. You will never forget that someone close to you.
Biringen talks about Authoritative and Authoritarian and Permissive parenting in school performance. Also in class we talked about Authoritative and Authoritarian and Permissive parenting in discipline. Authoritative is high in warmth and high in confident. Authoritative children do very well in school, very strict, infancy, and self regulate. Also, is distraction, tired, furious and don’t follow behavior modeling and have good relationship. Authoritarian children also do well in school, but are low in warmth and high in control, less confident, low socially. They keep there distance and expect questions. Another one that we talk about in class was permissive. Permissive parents show little warmth, and little on discipline.
She talks about discipline in children. Most people who discipline their children are the way their parents discipline them when they were young. Every child is different even if a child is taught discipline early and develops a sense of right and wrong. A child taught discipline can still be an unruly and out of control. The type of discipline used on the child can help determine how the child will act. Say a child is disciplined in a more abusive manner they may turn out to cause more trouble and start more fights thinking that is how you deal with someone when you don’t like how they act. It can also work the other way. A child raised and disciplined understanding and removal of privileges rather the physical punishment can learn to deal with their problems in the same manner. They can learn to talk out their problems with others rather then resorting to physical or violent methods.
In conclusion most of all, it is about giving each other the gifts of love, trust, and happiness for you and your child. No matter what age you are you can become closer to your child by supporting them through difficult time.

2007-12-29 18:57:30 · 2 answers · asked by deanna307 1

for all you out there who have put your replys on my daughter nataqskia2002 question regarding how she could start her labour well I am pleased to report that I now have a lovely grandson who was born Saturday at 1:25am 29th Dec 2007 It was the pineapple that worked so thank you everyone .
Oh & he's 6lb 2 oz
now here is the Question how often should nana's visit

2007-12-29 18:52:40 · 8 answers · asked by Mathlian D 1

Im a healthy 21 year old girl. My boyfriend (of about 9 months)'s parents are always making fun of my eating habits. I'm little. i can't eat very much. and even when i gorge myself (big dinners, holidays, etc.) it never sems like enough for those people. not to be mean, but theyre definately overweight, and i just cant eat as much as they can. and im in shape. ive worked really hard for my body. i dealed with anorexia off and on in high school. i'm completely over it now. but every time they get on me about my portions, it takes me back to how my parent used to watch me eat. his dad's not to bad, but his mom is the worst. tonight i was almost brought to tears because of his mom's comments. ("do you want any?... oh of course not." *eye roll) i know i need to say something to my bf about it, im just not sure how to bring it up. any suggestions....?

2007-12-29 18:32:09 · 9 answers · asked by Anonymous

i dont get along with my mom and stepdad at all-they make me feel worthless hated and depressed-control me to extremes (i dont have enough space to explain) She pushed me last week(i didnt even raise my voice this fight for 1nce) so i walked out and didnt come home till the next day. I apologized for not calling-but now she wants to charge me $500 rent/month plus car insurance and prescriptions. I get 1000 a month from social security (dad died-i was 11) and i think this is her way of getting the money since it is in my name now and not hers. I refuse to pay bec. i spend a lot of time at school (its boarding but im a day student so i eat/hang out in the dorm rooms) so im moving out and in with my best friend. Only problem is if i move out I will have to transfer bec. my school wont give me financial aid not under her roof and she knows this and that i dont wanna transfer the end of snyr year so knows I will pay her rather than transfer. is this a type of threat/ blackmail?should i pay?

2007-12-29 18:07:56 · 7 answers · asked by break3bendysgrc 1

I'm 14 and 5'6. My dad is 6'2 with a sister that is 5'10 and their dad is 6'0. My mom is 5'5 and her dad was 5'11 with no brothers or sisters and I don't even know what my grandma's look like. How tall will I be when I'm older.

2007-12-29 17:27:08 · 4 answers · asked by Anonymous

by this I mean in your 20's vs. your late 30's.

2007-12-29 17:25:07 · 9 answers · asked by Born Valentine's Day 5

Hi, my mother in law is from India. My husband applied green card for her and she wants to live with us forever. She takes cares of my little daughter 3 yrs old. And she is so bossy to control my house and my kid. She takes care of her at night too. I argued many times with her to take care my kid. But she fighted and yelled to me. And my husband is always with her. They just totally ignored me. We almost get divorced because of her.
My question is in CA, if she always takes care of her, is that favor to my husband when there is custody issue? Who usuaaly get physical custody in CA?
Second, is there a way to get her out of my house? She made me totally stressed and sick of house.
If we argued again when I want to sleep and take care of my kid, she argue, can I call police?

Thanks

2007-12-29 16:49:35 · 16 answers · asked by Anonymous

My fiance isn't very close with her family but I am mine. I go to her family dinners for Christmas and Thanksgiving. But I have a had time getting her to go to mine, she says she's uncomfrontable around my family but I have no idea why their all very nice to her. I was uncomfrontable around her family at first but the more I went the less I became but I can't even get her to give it a chance. She also says I should be more senstive to her feelings. Whats the right way to handle this? Thanks

2007-12-29 16:48:18 · 4 answers · asked by Anonymous

we hadd some frend s who got helkp and i think that wud be good for us too.

cud jerry help save our familys LIFE!!!????

my doughter is preggy and 14 years old and she smokes! i am scared for her bebeh.

so her problem that she smokes while praigo.

and my husband keeps leaving me to go hang out with his other family aka his ex wife and their kid.

also, their kid is so ugly and fat i feel bad for the poor woman. but she is STEALING MY MAN!!!

but i am a perfect angle!!!

i just garden in my garden which there aint that many pot plants but that aint the point. i am so good i go to walmart and i always give a few centss to the coin jar with the crippled kids on it.



so cud jerry save our famialy??


also my son wont stop getting girls pregnant. my other son wers my lipstickk. i think he is too yung to date!!

2007-12-29 16:20:48 · 10 answers · asked by Anonymous

I've read a lot of question and a lot of stay at home moms think that they don't have a right to money because they don't make it their husband does. What's up with thinking like that?

2007-12-29 16:18:13 · 27 answers · asked by amt 4

The last time I saw him we thought he'd be coming back. He fell in love and married abroad.This was the first time I've seenhim in 3 years and the first time I'd met his wife.She seems to be a very nice person.I only had an hour with him on Sunday,hardly enough time to talk about all that has gone on in 3 years.He said he'd see me Christmas day but he was a no show,not even a phone call.He and his wife will be leaving on Tuesday or Wednesday and I work everyday until then.I am so disappointed that he didn't make an effort to see me.I wanted to share the photos of my brother as he was growing up.When he was younger ,my husband and I took my 3 younger siblings everywhere even after we had our own children.We have always had a good relationship.I know he has always lived his life "the spur of the moment" so I'm not really surprised about his behaviour.I didn't even get a moment to take some pictures of us together.I'm hurt and disappointed..I think this was a lost opportunity.

2007-12-29 15:56:09 · 6 answers · asked by gussie 7

I live in Tx and my 14 year old daughter step daughter asked me and her father if she could come live with us? of course we told her YES but we wanted to know why, and she told us that she is always confined to her room and if she goes into other rooms her step dad yells and tells her to go back to her room because him and her mother are talking and she is interrupting. He will also sometimes tell her that she is not invited in there. Her mom & step father always make her do the laundry and housework and tells her 10 year old sister that it is there job because they go to work to pay bills.

We got asked this Thanksgiving and we have asked the 14 yr old to be sure this is what she wanted. We went to an attorney and they said it would not be a problem at all it is the daughters choice. The daughter said she was 100% sure and is now very excited and already talking about things. I do not want her to be disappointed if anything happens and it does not go in our favor!! Could it?

2007-12-29 15:39:38 · 10 answers · asked by Anonymous