I live in Tx and my 14 year old daughter step daughter asked me and her father if she could come live with us? of course we told her YES but we wanted to know why, and she told us that she is always confined to her room and if she goes into other rooms her step dad yells and tells her to go back to her room because him and her mother are talking and she is interrupting. He will also sometimes tell her that she is not invited in there. Her mom & step father always make her do the laundry and housework and tells her 10 year old sister that it is there job because they go to work to pay bills.
We got asked this Thanksgiving and we have asked the 14 yr old to be sure this is what she wanted. We went to an attorney and they said it would not be a problem at all it is the daughters choice. The daughter said she was 100% sure and is now very excited and already talking about things. I do not want her to be disappointed if anything happens and it does not go in our favor!! Could it?
2007-12-29 15:39:38 · 10 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
The attorney indicated that at her age, the choice is hers. I agree that she's old enough to choose to live where she feels most comfortable.
2007-12-29 15:45:29 · answer #1 · answered by missingora 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Okay your are right on some points but really you should never make a fuss over how much a child eats or what the pant size is .So she is a size 14 maybe she comforts herself with food.Pick your battles though because when it comes to weight and food its best not to be putting an 11 year old on a diet.They are really hungry and they grow really fast so eating a man sized plate sounds totally normal.Its eating seconds and thirds I would worry about.See kids are sensitive if you restrict her food she will steal food.As a way of getting back at you and also as a way of filling up her growing body.She is used to eating good sized portions now by restricting her portions your saying basically your too big and we dont approve.Size 14 is not big if she keeps growing taller.I was a size 14 at 12 and I was 5 ft 9 by 14.Everybody said I was very well porportioned.So she has boobs? She is supposed to have boobs she needs to learn to respect herself and have modesty.If I was your her I would be very unhappy though because really how do you know she is getting enough to eat for her body.She may eat alot compared to your other kids but she is probly feeling genuinely hungry not trying to be a pig or anything.The saddest thing though is how you sound.Either your at wits end or you do not have love for this child and thats so sad.I really do think that size and weight mean alot to you.It is important to watch your weight but its not a battle that you can win.She feels hungry whether you feel she should be or not.She may of stretched out her stomach in the past and now it takes alot to fill.You cannot win.Just encourage healthy choices and let her have a big plate.That does not mean to turn your kitchen into an all you can eat buffet .Just give her a big plate.She will be happier and in the end so will you.
2016-04-02 01:21:01 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Nothings guaranteed. But, if the other parents don't want her around then I don't see the problem. Why not have the father ask the mother if she can and make it easy on all of you. Just let her know that there are no guarantees. But, get her outta there! She's 14 and doesn't want to stay near her friends? Somethings wrong there. I think you just have to have her come live with you and go to family court for custodial custody. No biggie.
2007-12-29 15:46:37 · answer #3 · answered by HDGranny 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
the way you are talking there shouldnt be any problems with getting her home with yall especally if they confing her to her room god only knows what else is going on she will need to tell u everything that is going and i would have her write all down on paper and give a copy to your attorney
most important she is of age and she has a right to decide where wants to stay the judge will listen and i am sure they will favor on her to be home with you and her father
i am not going to lie it may be a long fight but what is most important dont give up on her there must be a reasn she is wanting to come stay with you please dont ignor the child asking for help
2007-12-29 16:00:07 · answer #4 · answered by wildthingmr64 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your daughter is allowed to choose who she wants to live with (the mother or father), if she is over12 years old.
2007-12-29 15:52:12 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Take her in, Love her and support her! But you and your Husband have got to let her know from day 1, "Nothing will come between us"! No matter what! Be kinder than kind, and softer than soft! To "her" and your husband! Take care of "YOU" first, try to relax not stress!
You are in for the long haul, and she will "TEST" that!
I will pray for you! God bless!
2007-12-29 16:06:47 · answer #6 · answered by DORY 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am 15, and I say YES. Parents sometimes act crazy... and sometimes we need time to get away. And sometimes we can't get away... if she asks for time alone in her room... GIVE IT TO HER!!!
Hope I helped!
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2007-12-29 15:54:15 · answer #7 · answered by Becca Boo 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
thats wonderful you're letting her come live with you..her mom and stepdad sound ridiculous. iiiiii certainly wouldnt wanna live with them from what it sounds like...
2007-12-29 15:43:11 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
anything is possible mabey she feels safer around you
2007-12-29 15:54:47 · answer #9 · answered by sam 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if it does/or doesn't sick the welfare on them for the 10year old sake too
2007-12-29 16:06:45 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋