does this count as blackmail by my parents? im 18 now...so what rights do they have to .......................

Question

i dont get along with my mom and stepdad at all-they make me feel worthless hated and depressed-control me to extremes (i dont have enough space to explain) She pushed me last week(i didnt even raise my voice this fight for 1nce) so i walked out and didnt come home till the next day. I apologized for not calling-but now she wants to charge me $500 rent/month plus car insurance and prescriptions. I get 1000 a month from social security (dad died-i was 11) and i think this is her way of getting the money since it is in my name now and not hers. I refuse to pay bec. i spend a lot of time at school (its boarding but im a day student so i eat/hang out in the dorm rooms) so im moving out and in with my best friend. Only problem is if i move out I will have to transfer bec. my school wont give me financial aid not under her roof and she knows this and that i dont wanna transfer the end of snyr year so knows I will pay her rather than transfer. is this a type of threat/ blackmail?should i pay?

Answer 1

Well, if you're living in her house and your 18 or over... she CAN make you pay rent and such. My advice would be to move out or be prepared to start paying her rent. I think moving out and having to transfer schools would be worth it in the end. I'm sort of stuck in a situation like that myself. Talk about a pickle. =X

Answer 2

They have a right to want rent money from you. While it may be wrong because it is obviously as a reaction to your not doing what they wanted, you need to decide what is more important to you. This is your mom's way of still trying to control you. If you move out you will still have to help with bills but you gain your indepence. While you may have to transfer schools, you will be able to get financial aide and other help from state agencies. Only you can make the decision. Is it better for you to stay where you are and pay the $500 or leave, change schools and gain control of your own life. You can also talk to your mom. $500 is a lot per month. My son is 18. He pays rent but only $50 per week. $500 per month is $125 per week and very expensive. You can live with your friend and probably not pay that much. To me, freedom is the answer. But, as I said, only you can decide. Personally, I hate controlling parents that try to control you by retaliating for things that was her cause to begin with. If she had not pushed you, you probaly would not be having this problem. She should be ashamed of herself.

Answer 3

Your mom has a right to charge rent but I think it is best for you to move out since your family is not getting along. If you do decide to stay and pay your mom you two will need to come to some agreements on what she expects from you and what you expect from her.

Answer 4

I think the best person to give you advice about this situation would be a lawyer. Talk to the people in the financial aid office at your school and find out what your options would be if you moved out.

Answer 5

Your Mother is treating you like the adult you think you are....if you can walk out and not come back until you are ready then you are saying you are an adult so shes saying fine then I'll treat you like an adult and adults pay their own bills ! Can't have it both ways ! In other words you have a lesson coming and you are about to learn it !

Answer 6

If he physically abused you and you want to bring embarassment to him, go to the hospital for treatment (they take photos) and file a police complaint. Otherwise, just leave, stealing and blackmailing are wrong and unlawful and could earn you time in jail.

Answer 7

unfortunately she can , legally she has no obligation to u anymore. I guess thAt means u have to transfer. I wish there was a way around this for u