Family - December 2007

I have done a pretty big trouble before (1 year ago) and did the same thing again and again. Now my parents doesn't even trust me. i know that i deserve it but i want to gain their trust and gain some credit. I want to reverse what i have done. I need to gain it in 1 year.
please help me. I'm so grounded right now that i can't even use the computer and they confiscated it from my room.
I was grounded 1 year ago.

2007-12-20 06:19:23 · 24 answers · asked by Allen Walker 1

one day after midnight i saw light on the bedroom of my father and my mother i looked on the hole of the key i saw my father on my mother practice love with her and i astoneshed bcz they both get orgasm after that day i found in their room fiagra but i astonished how mother could reach to orgasm in its age .is it normal or not

2007-12-20 06:10:57 · 9 answers · asked by emad a 1

I am in england studying for a law degree. When I first came here my parents were together and working so they could support me. Unfortunately, my whole world fell apart in 2006. mom and my step dad divorced and lost their business..so mom and i are broke. I have been trying to get a job for a really long time but to no avail.
I told my aunt of the situation and she said I could move in with her. I happily did. When I moved in however I noticed this attitude from her. She would hardly, if ever, talk to me. They have 2 sons and 3 bedrooms but they put me in the dining room (made up a bed there etc). I accepted it because I coulnt do any better. I gave her 50 pounds the first month but couldnt afford anymore. Now, 4 months later, she wants me to move out. She and her husband told my mom that it isnt convenient to have me there anymore, because access to their dining room is not as easy. I have nowhere to go and she knows this. My mom cant stop crying im looking for a job. please, help!

2007-12-20 05:22:38 · 12 answers · asked by guccicandy31 2

My momther in laws father passed and her sons just got arrested. Shes crying and i dont know what to say tp people in times like these. I know im sorry is one thing to say but what else should i say?

2007-12-20 05:18:34 · 7 answers · asked by Baby Jack born 4/5/09 4

A few nights ago a guy friend who happens to like me (we go on dates) picked me up from my parents house who Im staying with for 2 months. Just to go out to a show at a bar. My dad was the only one home and said he didnt care if he met him or not. So I just went out when the guy got there. 2 days later my step mother brings up how there is something wierd about a guy (boyfriend or not) not picking you up at the door. I said theres nothing wierd about it, we just disagree. She didnt want to let it go, and kept going. Then my dad chimed in. I turned and said I really didnt want to talk about it. And he started screaming at me. Im secretive, I think the world revolves around me or that everyone must want to know my business, that Im hiding something. Im 25 y/o, have a great job, make my own money, have lived on my own for 6 years. WTF. I know my parents like to gossip, but all the yelling to try and force personal info out of me? Is this normal? I would understand if I were a teenager.??

2007-12-20 05:03:52 · 4 answers · asked by Beany4270 1

I started dating this guy a month ago and just last week I asked him what he was getting his parents for Christmas and he told me that his mom and dad had died.

I invited him to Christmas with my family and I was just wondering what kind of special things I could do for him this Christmas so that he won't be so sad.....you know.....little things to brighten his holiday....also I'm not even real sure about an appropriate gift for him.....so lost....

Any suggestions would be much appreciated!!! Thanks : ) and Happy Holidays!!!

2007-12-20 05:01:12 · 8 answers · asked by Anonymous

recently my grandmother died and everyone at home seems so gloomy. the thing is its her house that we always celebrate each holiday at. now she isn't there, (she was the only reason we came together as a family)everybody is acting stupid and only thinking about thier inhertiance. Help?

2007-12-20 04:53:45 · 3 answers · asked by ezekiel's mom 4

My parents and sister-in-law have been having problems. For my parents it's a matter of not getting respect from her. For her, she sees them as distant and does not see why she should give them phone calls or visit when they come to visit me at school. I feel like I am setting a bad example, because I really should call and visit more often as well.

Is there something I can do -- for example, talk with my brother and sister-in-law?

2007-12-20 04:44:09 · 3 answers · asked by Surely Funke 6

My brother in law is a jerk and the more people that meet him, the more people tell me so. My husband can't stand the childest things his brother pulls and that cause much tension between them. I hate the guy and wish I never had to see him again but he is my hubby's brother and I don't ever want it to be me that causes them to part ways. They were at one time very close but now they can't be in the same room with out a sarcastic remark being made which leads to more words being said. My hubby refuses to by a x-mas gift for his brother because of something very stupid his brother has done and although we aren't seeing each other for the holidays, I still think he should buy a gift. Should I just stay out of all of this or should I push my hubby into buying a gift? What should I do about all of this in general? Thanks!

2007-12-20 04:41:16 · 8 answers · asked by queenbee 4

What should I do for christmas? I wanted to go to my parents house for the holiday because my whole family will be there. the only problem is my mother, all my life she has told me that I was a mistake.....that I should have never been born. my big sister past away last year in a car wreck, and yes, my sister was my moms favorite child. My mother told everybody that she wished it was me that died that day. But my father wants me there for christmas, he loves me and really wants to see me, but my mom is soo mean to me and says bad things about me infront of all my family. she did that last year to me while I was there, it was the worst christmas ever. so should I go? or should I make my own plans and not go?

2007-12-20 04:39:49 · 37 answers · asked by Anonymous

Recently we had encountered our long lost father and my sister has gotten close to that side of the family. It has been only about 2 months or so...drama happened with the other side of the family and for her own reasons she does not talk to my mom and to my g-ma she does talk to her but she said things will never be the same. Lately I've been feeling like she has been ignoring me. My sister and I work together and she just acts different so it seems around me. Today she got a ride from her half sister or not sure if she's even her biological sister or whatever. But she's calling that side of her family her family now since they do live closer to her than we do. She calls her biological dad her dad which to me is weird because he hasn't played the fatherly role and she is getting closer to that family. In a way its good for her to start a relationship but I guess I've kept my own space with my bilogical father. What should I do? Not make this a big deal, start a relationship with them?

2007-12-20 04:23:35 · 9 answers · asked by Txgirl23 4

I'm going to be 18 soon and my mom and dad are separating. I don't want to live with my mother can she can be a little looney at times. I want to live with my dad until I can move out on my own, but I want to do it without my mom disowning me and blaming my father for me to be leaving her as well. I don't want to live in a house with her where I am practically walking on eggshells all the time. What can I do without making mad?

2007-12-20 04:15:16 · 25 answers · asked by Meika 2

My mom is having a gathering with just her kids
and
My grandma is having a gathering with the whole family

and

My dad is having a get together with the kids

Here is a link to the previous question
http://answers.yahoo.com/question/index;_ylt=ApwJPKMRCmDTLNii021pr7_sy6IX;_ylv=3?qid=20071220084812AABFpaJ

Tell me what you think

2007-12-20 04:12:44 · 5 answers · asked by ? 3

All moms can relate to this, but I am particularly interested in the opinion of the Stay At Home Moms living off of 1 Budget....

A) Do you find you let yourself go?
B) How long did it take you to realize and start taking care of yourself again? Did this ever happpen? What makes it so hard?


This is just out of curiousity. I find I don't buy myself new clothes (even when they are desperatley needed), keep up with my own haircuts, or even wear makeup like I used too. My husband works hard to see that we are all cared for, and he never has a problem seeing to it that his needs are met.

I am kinda fed up with doing for everyone else and have decided to make this year about me because I have gone above and beyond for my family. Has anyone else gone through this? I know I am not alone in this, but I want to see how many other moms have been through this and how they dealt with it....

2007-12-20 03:59:49 · 14 answers · asked by okeydokeyjal22 3

coz i don't like him having a girllfriend ,just tell me am i right or wrong . i really don't want him to care for another girl

2007-12-20 03:53:57 · 8 answers · asked by Iresha W 1

I am 23 years old, the oldest of my mothers three children. I have two younger brothers, one 22 who lives on his own, and another who is 18 and not yet out of highschool. My brother seems to have gotten mixed in with the wrong crowd, and I know he is doing drugs. I have spoken to my mother and him both about this because I am real worried that he could get into trouble, and I was basically told to mind my own business. So I did!
Christmas is coming though, and my mom doesn’t have a lot of money so I have been doing little things to help. On Saturday I put up a Christmas tree. Then last night my mom called and said she slipped and fell down the steps in her house and hurt herself. Thinking I was being a good daughter, I called my brother, the 18 year old and asked him if he would be able to salt the stairs so my mom wouldn’t fall again, but he said he can’t. He also said he was leaving so don’t come over. I figured since he would be gone, it would be safe to come over and put salt down for my mom. I also planned to drop off some baking supplies because I planned to bake cookies for my family at my moms (my apartment does not have a stove).
So, I went over my moms, and of course the door was locked, my brother NEVER EVER locks the door, but he did this time because he knew I was coming. So I ring the door bell and I see him out of the corner of my eye peaking out to see who it was, and then ran away. I kept knocking hoping my mom would answer and she eventually did.
When my mom let me in, my brother comes out of his room screaming and yelling and jumping in my face telling me I am stupid for coming over and that I needed to get out. My mom just sits there asking him to stop. After like an hour of this I start crying and he walks away. My mom says “it’s not my fault he is like that” so I told her, that she is the mother and she has the obligation to maintain order in her home, and if this is what Christmas is going to be like, then I won’t be there. I took all my cooking things and walked out.
I spent five minutes sitting in the car crying, then called my mom and told her that after that episode I am done with the family, and have no problem reporting my brother’s drug problems to the police. I didn’t call the police and probably won’t but right now I am so upset and it’s Christmas and I don’t want to be alone on Christmas, what can I do to solve the problem?

2007-12-20 03:48:12 · 12 answers · asked by ? 3

Most of my husbands family doesn't like me, and my husband has made sure over the years that I know it. My father in law doesn't speak to me, and because he doesn't want to see me he doesn't see our child anymore. I have been called some nasty names and labeled as someone that I don't even know by these very judgemental people. I wish I had enough room to write the things that his family has done!
I was expected to fit a mould, just like his first wife, but in being true to myself I never changed enough to fit in, and neither did she. I have done alot for my husband (drug & gambling problems) and his father, but everything has gone unappreciated. There's no give and take here! My husband has never stuck up for me in front of them, even when he should have. If anything, he becomes childlike around them. In any case, we've been invited to family xmas functions, and just the thought of being around his family gives me major anxiety. Am I obligated to go?

2007-12-20 03:42:46 · 27 answers · asked by ­Das  2

Ok If you want to know what your children look at on the internet, but the history gets deleted whenever someone gets off, is there a website I can go to to find out!!!

2007-12-20 03:09:57 · 10 answers · asked by RAR cookies 2

My son wants to move back in with his wife to save money for a down payment on a house. I understand things are expensive today but I say no. My wife is all for him moving in. I am sure her and my daughter in law will soon bump heads and I really don't want to hear it. My point is they both work and make a good living, if they went out less and bought less they would have a down payment. My son argued with me that when I bought my home the houses were much less. He forgets so was the pay. We had no car and did not spend 150 on going out to dinner. I told him to get a second job after all I did it when I was young when we needed the money. Am I wrong here.

2007-12-20 03:06:31 · 20 answers · asked by Anonymous

My mother in law has Alzeimer's. She is in the beginning stages and she has always shielded her 43 year old son from working. My wife cooks and cleans and takes care of her mother. She does all the work while her brother is expected to do nothing. He lays around and eats, watches tv and if my wife asks him to do something, her mother pitches a fit. My wife is tired of asking and just does it herself. I feed the family as I am the only one with a job. His mother has been paying for all the guys bills. My mother in law is maxed out because of paying my wife's brother's bills. But she still argues if anyone asks the brother to do anything. He is over six feet and in very good health. His mother has turned him into a cripple to keep him dependent on her. It does no good to argue with the mother in law. She is too sick. Her way of thinking is way off. My wife and I are very upset that he won't help out. My wife has to be at home for her mom.What should we do without upsetting her mom?

2007-12-20 03:02:42 · 8 answers · asked by alan c 3

My father was abusive to my mother (one time she even went to the hospital because he hit her in the head so bad that she was bleeding) and when I was a kid. I could still remember when he beat me and my brother; I just to have bruses in my arms and legs. We had to take showers with only cold water. From the constant hits on my legs I had to wear something to straighten them because is just to walk with legs going to each side. He came drunk and hit us. I just hide under the bed or in the closet. That was only when I was 6- 7 years old (what I could remember). He was a lawyer and cheated on my mother 2 times in our country. One with a woman he met in a town, and the other time with his secretary. When I was 7 years old. He left to America with his secretary and married her. And he lie to my mother and his family, he first told them that he was going to be sent to another city for a little while to work and when he didn’t call for weeks my mother went to the place he worked and ask them if they knew how could she contact him and that’s when they told her that my father was cheating on her with his secretary and that the secretary hasn’t showed up for work for weeks too. When they called the family of the secretary, the family told them that she went to America. Days later, my father called my mother and told her that he only came to America to make some money. My mother was angry at the fact that he cheated on her and she as well beat me and my brother with a belt. After the woman he married (secretary) cheated on him with his best friend, he divorced her. He came to our country when I was ten and lie to my mother once again that he only married that woman for the papers to become a citizen. When he was there he only sent $300 a month out of the $600 in a week he earned. My mother worked day and night and i didn’t see her that much but when she was here during the week-ends she beat us with the belt when she got mad at us with no reason. We lived with our Grandparents house with uncles and ants that lived there. My grandparents took care of me and my brother. He only brought my mother to America and we stay back with our grandparents. When my mother was there with him, my father beat her constantly and badly (One time he throw her pee that he had in a bucket). After a year when came I was 12 year years old I came to America with my brother. He also beat us until my mother one time called 911 and he got arrested. He had to go to psychologist. He stop beating us for a while but one time he beat me and I was sad and cut my self with a scissor and every time anyone hit me I will go somewhere( closet), cry and cut my self. I stop doing that. It’s been 4 years already that I had stop, to be exactly. One time my mother caught my father one more time cheating on her. When she was driving she saw my father car behind Parth Mark and he was with another woman, but were not doing anything. The other woman was in the passenger seat smoking. Well, after that my mother forgave my father. My father no longer hit us. I was told my guy that lived with my father when he came that he used to hire prostitutes. But one time I called him, and a women answer her phone I check if I called the right number and yes it was my father number, My mother and I also saw my dad going somewhere but didn’t see where he enter while he denies it and says he was working. My dad also speaks when he is at sleep. And says “Reina” all the time.

My father went thru a lot of stuff when he was a kid and had 10 brothers and sister he was beaten by he father more badly than us. He had to work selling candies and if he didn’t brought back money he will be beaten by his father. His father cheated on he mother many times. He was poor and suffered for food and money. I try to understand his pain sometimes but yet I can’t seem to forget what he did to me.

2007-12-20 03:02:17 · 4 answers · asked by Mili 1

i have the money from death benefits)both of my parents are deceased) i have a job, ive done everything on my own just about anyways.. my step dad doesnt let me have not one penny of my money from the benefits.. i am mentally abused.. i actually have went to a therapist and she said that i have fallen into depression.. i cant put up with my step dad any more i know i can do it and alot of ppl are there for me and assure me that they believe i should be too.. should i beable to get emmancipated.. oh yeah i am basically homeless now.. we have to move with his mother and i am not staying there... my dad has no job to pay rent or bills

2007-12-20 02:11:05 · 7 answers · asked by chastann p 1

if it goes to family court etc, we have offered him contact every four to six weeks depending on out of school activities, the child is not bothered about him, and he was violent towards the child,s mum . Ne body ne ideas please????????

2007-12-20 02:11:02 · 13 answers · asked by Artrock 1

i had worked for my my mom for a year when she fired me.she has 2 companys. two years ago mom and stepdad divored. everytime she was in a bad mood she would find a reason to blame me from the wheather to the reason for her divorce. i told her for the past year if she keeps fighting with me that i would walk away and never turn back.when she fired everyone at her bar including me for no reason i left and havent looked back.she has picked fights with my 2 adut daughters. i miss her and dont know how to get back in her life .i will not go back to being her target
help robin

2007-12-20 00:43:52 · 21 answers · asked by Anonymous

i have 2 boys 13 + 7 and twin girls 11. im a single parent with no family support and my kids run rings round me. over the years ive done the behaviour charts, ive taken their favourite things away, grounded them etc i really have tried it all. they are not naughty as such they just have a lack of respect and wont stick to any rules. ive shouted and ive sat them down quietly and explained in detail why we have rules and how much easier life is if we stick to them.i feel im fighting a losing battle and im making myself ill, i dont eat or sleep and im stressed all the time.please help before i really lose the plot. i dont want my kids to have a distant relationship with me when they are older like i have with my parents.i love my kids so much and only want whats best for them.to them im nagging but i just want them to have a better life than ive had.why does that come across as being so wrong ??

2007-12-20 00:27:20 · 7 answers · asked by Anonymous

I am 27years old. I earn only $14/hour.

How will I be able to support her. Take an appartment, TV, cell phone, Car, food. Keep her happy. Give her all she wants.

Do you think, with $ 14, its enough for two people .
She says she does not want to work. I said, fine.. do as you feel happy.

Serious reply only
What do I do.

Tom

2007-12-19 23:04:49 · 11 answers · asked by Anonymous

help,m i have a driend in hawai and her dad keeps beating her, shes just 12 and he beats her, shes tried the police but it ddnt work and got him more angry with her, she tried social services but it was a repet ending, she lives in lanai and we just need help so what should we do to take this guy down?

2007-12-19 18:39:55 · 13 answers · asked by ohmygodtheykilldkenny 2

So I cant hardly even go to sleep because my blood is boiling.I am just so mad because I was taking to my dad and he was like "Im working on Friday so I can buy presents,im working so I can buy present for other people(about how he has to work to give to other people than buying himself something like gloves probably)then hes like what do you think of that?"
Its like he wants me to feel sympathy for him,which I do,but he wants more of it.I mean no one asking you to work on friday to buy ANYONE a gift,were not holding you against your will.Why does he keep complaining about things that he doesnt even have to do?It just makes me even more madder when he cant even stop gambling 2 dollars at a gambling site when I have a birthday party so he can entertain the adults who feel left out He keeps telling me that once you have kids your life is over,and he keeps telling me about what he could be doing or have done if he never had kids

2007-12-19 16:54:42 · 12 answers · asked by Anonymous

I´m a single mom that lives with my daughter, mom and grandma, its been hell all these years cuz my mother instead of being grateful of the fact that I´m helping them out and living there with them she instead tearts me bad, doesnt repect me and os always giving me real bad advice to hurt me, she is NOT a loving mother that wants the best for me, she is always wishing me the worst and never wants things to go right for me, she is very selfish and is the reason why me and my daughter´s father are not together anymore, she is selfish and only cares for herself, I´m so worried cuz her behavior on me is affecting me,my life is not good becuz of her, i have lost many things becuz of her and I dont know what to do anymore, I cant move out cuz I dont have money and I cant talk to her cuz I have many times but she doesnt seem to get anything...I dont want negavtive people affecting and disrupting my life anymore, i have no leg to stand becuz of her, i´ve lost so much...what can I do?

2007-12-19 16:40:41 · 16 answers · asked by Anonymous

ok so i live in pittsburgh, but i wanna visit some friends in cleveland with another friend of mine, which only takes about 2 hours driving. My mom wont let me go for some gay reason and i wanna stay there over night. So does anyone know anything i could make up and tell her im doing and instead go to c-town?

2007-12-19 16:39:39 · 3 answers · asked by SweetYo! 1