I am 27years old. I earn only $14/hour.
How will I be able to support her. Take an appartment, TV, cell phone, Car, food. Keep her happy. Give her all she wants.
Do you think, with $ 14, its enough for two people .
She says she does not want to work. I said, fine.. do as you feel happy.
Serious reply only
What do I do.
Tom
2007-12-19 23:04:49 · 11 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
If she don't have kids i don't see why she wouldn't want to work.It is hard out there now $14 is ok but you will struggle.If she likes to get "all she wants." she should really help!The only think I could say is get a scond job
2007-12-19 23:11:59 · answer #1 · answered by mary ann 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just from a practical point of view, have you done up a monthly budget with income (your job and any other sources) and expenses (as you have described - which does not include babies, if you had medical bills etc). Love is very important, and maybe you would find a way of getting by. However, if your girlfriend does not want to work (assuming no children or other reason), she is not contributing and maybe it will be a source of tension and problems. Maybe not, but you would have some idea about your relationship. How well do you manage keeping yourself on your wage? Maybe there are other things you could do eg. new job, live with relatives if possible, other ideas to save money, be thrifty with spending, that sort of thing. Hope it works out for you. If you know that she would not be happy with you doing your best if there was not a lot of money, maybe there are problems ahead with your marriage plan. Maybe your girlfriend and you should talk about it openly and honestly and work it out together, maybe get some advice from parents or others with experience and wisdom. Good luck, hope it works out for you.
2007-12-20 07:19:34 · answer #2 · answered by Max 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You should talk to your girlfriend and ask her what her expectations are for the future. Nobody really wants to work but when you get married, you are entering into a partnership and both parties need to contribute. You could sit down together and make out a budget based on your income versus the needs you will have once you are married. Seeing this in writing may open her eyes to your dilemma and she may decide to help out after all. Money ( or lack of it) can be one of the biggest burdens on a marriage. All though you make a decent wage, you would still face a great deal of struggle ( and stress) trying to make your lives comfortable on your own. If you are thinking about children in the future it will be even harder. If she is determined not to contribute what so ever, you may want to rethink the marriage. Good Luck and Merry Christmas!
2007-12-20 07:29:10 · answer #3 · answered by Teresa S 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Marriage is about love, trust and companionship. Your wage shouldn't discourage you to getting married. I know quite a few married couples that are in your same situation and they are happy.
Although society tells us that "money makes the world go round" it does not make or break a relationship. It shouldn't anyway- and if it does, it wasn't true love to begin with.
My boyfriend makes about the same as you and I stay home with our son. They were a lot of financial adjustments and sometimes we needed help, but we are there for each other and our love is strong.
Bottom line- all relationships are about compromise. True love conquers all.
2007-12-20 07:11:53 · answer #4 · answered by selzey98 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Do you have young children?
If not, what does your girlfriend intend to do all day while you work? You don't deserve to have to support someone who does not want to work.
PS $14 dollars an hour is more than the minimum wage here in the UK...
2007-12-20 07:08:38 · answer #5 · answered by bonshui 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Let her know that by her not working though you will have to learn to live with less. Having less moeny to have fun with.
If she's a smoker or drinker I'd be making her at least work part time for her own needs in that area
2007-12-20 07:08:49 · answer #6 · answered by peggin_beast 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You can do it.
Depending on where you live you can find a cheap apartment.
Work more hours if you can. She has to work to make ends meet.
She will realize that YOU can't just do it all on your own.
Good luck Tom and get married if that is what you want.
But, she sounds a little selfish to me if she is not disabled or something that is preventing her from working.
2007-12-20 07:10:23 · answer #7 · answered by Mom of 2 great boys 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Relationships require a lot of commitment.....I stringly reccomend for you to study a short cousre so you can get a more secure job...
2007-12-20 07:08:40 · answer #8 · answered by chaminda l 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Unless you have kids there is no reason for her not to work. Maybe you both can work, take some classes, get a better job, better yourself.
2007-12-20 07:08:19 · answer #9 · answered by so Fresh 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
you guys can survive but i doubt shed be happy with it she should get job.. just my opinion
2007-12-20 07:09:47 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋