So I cant hardly even go to sleep because my blood is boiling.I am just so mad because I was taking to my dad and he was like "Im working on Friday so I can buy presents,im working so I can buy present for other people(about how he has to work to give to other people than buying himself something like gloves probably)then hes like what do you think of that?"
Its like he wants me to feel sympathy for him,which I do,but he wants more of it.I mean no one asking you to work on friday to buy ANYONE a gift,were not holding you against your will.Why does he keep complaining about things that he doesnt even have to do?It just makes me even more madder when he cant even stop gambling 2 dollars at a gambling site when I have a birthday party so he can entertain the adults who feel left out He keeps telling me that once you have kids your life is over,and he keeps telling me about what he could be doing or have done if he never had kids
2007-12-19 16:54:42 · 12 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
my mom even talked to him about entertaining the guests and he started getting mad and yelling on how he works 8 hours a day and how hard he has to work.He feels like hes the most important and hard working member of this family.My mom works standing up cooking for 8 hours or more straight and im at school for 9 hours stressing myself out about college,passing my dance final tomorrow and my geometry test.
2007-12-19 16:57:57 · update #1
your dad shouldnt be saying these things in front of you at all. parents go through this crap all the time adn they dont need to share it with their kids, chances are his job is making him work. please dont worry about it, its not worth the worry. just give a nice thanks dad to make him feel better. holidays stress everyone out but he shoudl not be saying kids ruin your life.
2007-12-19 16:59:14 · answer #1 · answered by hallie 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I'm 32 and my father just passed one week ago. But nonetheless, 10 , 20 years ago, I knew this day would come. Please, don't waste another minute on this. Be the bigger person. If you did not live another day, would you regret how you are reacting to this situation? You need to realize you cannot control others. You are in college. The only person you can control is. . . . yes, yourself. So if someone is not doing what you expect, perhaps you have your expectations set to high. Set the example. I'd give anything to see my dad again, even if he was complaining. I'd treasure every moment. And I did while he was on Earth. You can't sleep? Then reevaluate your priorities in life, set the sample without expecting something in return. It's easier said than done. Pick your battles. This is definately not one to fight about. Maybe you need to have a heart to heart. . and pray for guidance. . . God is much more helpful than you realize.
2007-12-20 01:04:09 · answer #2 · answered by confucious 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You have a right to be upset. I think your dad is just using the excuse to work so he doesn't have to be home Friday. Saying it's to buy gifts is to make working seem like he is making a supreme sacrifice. Nothing you can do except take his advice on one point, wait till you have kids of your own. You will probably be a great parent, totally opposite from your dad. You can't make up for what you have lost, but your own kids will benefit from your love and caring that comes from not being so loved and cared for yourself as a child. Try to have a Merry Christmas as best you can anyway.
2007-12-20 01:04:55 · answer #3 · answered by checkthisout! 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sometimes parents do have their worries. But it's nice to know you care about them. You're right that nobody's asking to to work, but on the other hand, why would he be working on that day? Is there any other problem in the family? Perhaps it's something deeper than what we may see. Try to get some rest and look for chance to have a nice talk. Oh, yes, Merry Christmas.
2007-12-20 00:59:19 · answer #4 · answered by SASA 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you should sit back and take a deep breath. You can't change your parents so don't even try. Your Dad sounds selfish and your Mom sounds like she is a martyr. So, that leaves you. You should do the best you can in school and then escape to college. Make a good life for yourself and vow not to repeat your paren'ts life.
2007-12-20 01:04:26 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Wow. Sorry about that. I really don't know what to say besides I hope you feel better soon.
I guess you are right though that your dad seems to want you to feel sympathy from him. I had an aunt like that and I never knew how to handle her so now I just stay away from her but I'm guessing that''s really not an option with your dad.
Best wishes to you.
2007-12-20 00:57:36 · answer #6 · answered by Mole Shooz Babii 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He has to feel important. Reply as you see fit, but don't rise to the bait
2007-12-20 01:04:58 · answer #7 · answered by Experto Credo 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Nope, sounds like your dads a huge ****** though.
2007-12-20 01:01:00 · answer #8 · answered by Larry 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No you are not taking this too seriously, I would react the same way!
2007-12-20 00:58:23 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
This diatribe is known as 'fixation'. I vote for Dad.
2007-12-20 00:59:42 · answer #10 · answered by te144 7 · 0⤊ 2⤋