if it goes to family court etc, we have offered him contact every four to six weeks depending on out of school activities, the child is not bothered about him, and he was violent towards the child,s mum . Ne body ne ideas please????????
2007-12-20 02:11:02 · 13 answers · asked by Artrock 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
If he was abusive to the mother, who's to say he won't be abusive to the child. I don't think they will give him much time with the child and if they do, it will be supervised visitation, I would think... and hope.
Why don't you file to legally adopt the child? That's what me and my bf plan to do for my daughter. Once we are married, we will see how baby daddy is doing (cuz right now he's a dead beat dad, but he's trying to get in the military)... if he's still a dead beat dad no chance of the military then my bf would want to legally adopt my daughter to keep him away from her.
2007-12-20 02:35:05 · answer #1 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
A court usually says every other weekend is the right amount of contact. Violence against a mom in the past is irrelevant to the court - as men often treat kids differently than a spouse/ex gf. Contact every 4-6 weeks is unreasonable.
If the guy is a bad guy - then the mom or whoever has custody of the child should ask the child's father to give up parental rights, etc.. You won't get child support, but at least the child will be safe - and that is what is most important. By giving up parental rights there will be no more visitation and no more child support. Sometimes this is best for the child.
2007-12-20 02:18:17 · answer #2 · answered by Dina K 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The minimum is none! If the father is abusive, why would you allow him access if this would put the child in danger?
If he is not abusive, then it would be up to the parents, some share 50-50, some share so that one parent has the child most of the time but the other parent has him/her every other weekend etc. There are no fixed "rules". It would also depend on how close the parents live and if it is feasible to share custody or if it is better that the child lives with one parent and just visits the other on holidays etc.
The main thing is that custody arrangements should be made in the best interest of the child.
2007-12-20 02:20:08 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Depends on what he asks for and what the court determines is in the best interest of the child. Weekly visitation is not out of the ordinary (up to a 50:50 split).
In most states, the amount of visitation also reduces the amount of child support the non-custodial parent pays. It's in their interest to go for 50:50.
2007-12-20 02:17:23 · answer #4 · answered by Prophet 1102 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My ex was violent towards me and my children they arn't bothered about him. I told their father if he wanted acess to go to court l told him THE COURT WOULD LISTEN TO ALL THE FACTS and then make a decision on acess.Dya know that was four years ago and he has never been near court. Try the scare tatics that should keep him away especially if the child is old enough to tell the courts how he abused her mum
2007-12-20 06:59:58 · answer #5 · answered by Sarah C 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I was quite angry with your question up to the point that you said he was Violent.
once i heard that i understood completly the reasons you wish to minimise his visits with your children.
I have had a child taken away from me and my access restricted by his mother, simply because she didn't like me anymore.
He was used against me as a tool to hurt and destroy me because i wanted to be a part of his life,
He is 11 now and even though my relationship with his mother
is OK she has moved away so i only get to see my son once a year.
that being the case Fathers should have unlimited access to children unless they are violent to the mother or the kids as you have stated.
because of those actions i think sole custody with only a monthly visit of a few hours which is also supervised is all these fathers are entitled too i think
2007-12-20 02:19:15 · answer #6 · answered by Dazman 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ive heard someone pay as low as 45 dollars a month, no joke. It goes off your income. If she takes you to court over it it is quite possible you would be ordered to pay more then $80 so be careful there. I think what you are paying is decent although you find it to be a bit high. But ,that is what happens when you have baby mommas instead of wives.
2016-05-25 04:05:44 · answer #7 · answered by ? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if the father was violent to the child then none. but if he hasn't he needs the chance to prove himself as a proper father. they need as much time together to form a bond. the child will recent you later in life if you don't give that chance.
2007-12-20 02:17:40 · answer #8 · answered by daddio 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
In most jurisdictions, the judge has a lot of disgresion in setting visitation and will often require that the visits be supervised by a social worker. I would try for that.
2007-12-20 02:16:32 · answer #9 · answered by Patrick H 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If he's that bad he doesnt have to have ANY contact. It isnt a god given right - he has to earn it and if you can prove it is not good for the child then the judge can decide in your favour xxx
2007-12-20 02:14:21 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋