Family - July 2007

2007-07-18 08:57:37 · 12 answers · asked by Anonymous

He just told his dad some big news over the phone, since he has a bad temper! His dad yelled at him for hours & then said "I'm tired of you shitting on me go live w/ your mom" His dad is on his way home & my son is so worried that he is walking to work right now even though he doesn't have to be there til 5PM. He lives where there are no buses & he doesn't have a car yet. I do have a car, but my license is suspended. His work is pretty far away!! He called a few friends & family, but they can't get there for a while & he wants to be gone BEFORE his dad gets home! I feel so bad for him I want to cry!! I'm going to have my husband pick him up after work & have him come stay w/ me, but at some point we'll have to go to his house to get his stuff & I'm scared even about that! I wouldn't put it past his dad to park the car away from the house so my son didn't know he was there & then flip out on him or me! (His job is an "on call 24/7" job, so you never know when he could be there

2007-07-18 08:38:08 · 11 answers · asked by ♥bigmamma♥ 6

When my kid was born i was 15 and me and his father thought we was gonna be together for a long time. Well after a couple months he didnt want anything to do with the kid and hasnt been in my kids life in like 2 yrs. i live in ohio and was wondering how i could get his last name changed to mine and out of his fathers. i have tried to get ahold of his father and cant. plz help help me!!

2007-07-18 08:30:24 · 12 answers · asked by kaykay69_2002 2

the rest of this month. Than I have two birthday parties to go to one this friday and one next. Than on saturday I have to hang out with a friend that I havnt seen in a long time. Than on Sunday I have Church like always. Monday-Thursday is summer school. Not much of a biggy there. Thursday is Church. And I'm helping out with a little play thing with my Church that I'm a part of. I'm starting to feel a little bit over worked. I want to spend more time with my sisters and cousins but have to stay home to take care of my grandma. But not always. What should I do I have alot going on?

2007-07-18 08:19:48 · 12 answers · asked by amy c 2

My son is 19 & lives w/ his dad at the moment & has been planning on going to a fairly nice college on a partial football scholarship, but lately has gotten serious w/ this girl & has decided to go to a community college that she is going to (which he will now have to pay out of pocket, but should be cheaper) Anyway, he's been nervous for so long to tell his dad, who has the tendancy to fly off the handle at times, but after arguing w/ him for hours today his dad told him to "go live w/ your mom for a while cuz I'm tired of you shitting on me!" BTW, his dad called him on the phone & asked if he was still going to that college, that's how it finally came up, so the argument was on the phone & now his dad is on his way home. I'm just a little worried, since he has a pretty bad temper. Of course, I'm going to have my son come stay w/ me, but right now I don't have a car or I'd run & get him. Any suggestions?

2007-07-18 08:14:19 · 13 answers · asked by ♥bigmamma♥ 6

(the child looks nothing like him he's black and she's white) the child is white as snow and has none of his features ... they took a dna test and he's still waiting on the results but, it seems as though this girl is giving him the run around ... and he still has a thing for her... i've been w/ him for 2 years now and ...how do i find out if he's still w/ her when he says that the reason she still calls is in reference to his "daughter". ?? ahhh perhaps this is a question i need to answer my self ...leave him or ... deal w/ it right?

2007-07-18 08:06:06 · 26 answers · asked by Mariene 1

My older sister is 15 and I am 13. She tells me that I am being unfair to her and I am not that way. I am always nice to her and she always ignores me and say I am always bothering her and interfering with her academic and social life. She nevers talks to me anymore. Whenever I talk to her, she will yell at me and tell me to go away. I am very depressed. I love her and she doesn't understand. She say I don't love her. Whenever I bring friends home, my friends say hi to her and she ignores my friends. When I tell her about my social life, she tells me that I am babyish and she doesn't want to hear it. I tell my parents and they said "if she doesn't want to her, then let her be that way. Don't worry." I know that a decent older sister shouldn't be this way. She is suppose to look out and take care of me like a older sister should do. Right? Why don't older sisters do their job? Why don't parents tell the older sister to do their job if that is the way how things should be? It is not fair

2007-07-18 07:53:08 · 5 answers · asked by Anonymous

My boyfriend, mother, youngest sister and I live together. We get along well.

I knew my boyfriend had been through some deep depression before but not really any of the details. I figured he would tell me when he was ready. One night, I go to bed before he does (I usually do), but he's out in the living room talking to my mom. I sleep for a bit, wake up and realize it's been about 3 or more hours since, and he's still not in bed - still out talking to her at like 3 am.

I can hear them from the bedroom. They're talking about his past and the bad things that have happened to him. I'm upset because I feel like I should be the one he's confiding in, not my mother. He's opening up to her because she has had similar experiences. I have never experienced deep depression, so I understand they're both looking for someone to relate to.

I feel like I've lost something with him - that she stole something important. Whenever they have long talks I feel edgy. Does anyone understand this?

2007-07-18 07:42:32 · 6 answers · asked by Anonymous

I am fifteen and i have a job at the farm next door from 4 to 630 in the morning and i baby sit my two younger sisters and cousins from 7 to 5.The cousins listen fine and help me a lot but my sisters give me such a hard time and it streses me out and makes me crazy. I'm not a mean babysitter, i make them do their chores but then i take them to the pool and for bike rides and stuff THEY like to do but the chores have to be done first and it all depends on how they behaive..but the sisters dont listen they hit me and when they dont wanna do something theryre told to they throw a fit and i just cant take it anymore....something needs to change and talking to my parents did nothing because these kids dont listen to any one..please help me i really need it or im afraid i might do something to myself

2007-07-18 07:14:40 · 7 answers · asked by Anonymous

My mother-in-law has consistently ruined every single family gathering I have attended in the 9 yrs that I have known her! If it's an adult party then she gets drunk and starts crying and shouting.On kids occasions she sits there like the bad fairy making rude comments and generally being unpleasant.She justifies this by saying stuff like "I speak my mind,tough if you don't like it" On saturday it's my son's birthday.I have a small party organised with a couple of his school friends and kids from our street. I can do without the stress of walking on eggshells for fear of setting her off.I just want one family occasion that doesn't end badly. Do you think this is unreasonable.

2007-07-18 07:09:41 · 16 answers · asked by New Boots. 7

His marriage survived (the wife knows all), she has a great son, no contact with the father, but child support regularly. The guy has grown children with his wife. My friend is feeling guilty that her son has step siblings out there and feels her son should know this before he gets too old.

I told her I think she should tell him and also contact the siblings, because what if one day this boy hooks up with a girl that is an offspring of one of the grown children???? That would make him their step uncle. I mean come on - stranger things have happened!

What do you think she should do?

And ,no, we don't live in the south! Ü

2007-07-18 07:07:51 · 15 answers · asked by CluelessOne 5

Im planning on going to disneyland first week in september and here's the deal, Im going with my hubby our 3 year old girl and my mother in law and sis in law we were going to take the baby who is four months old but will be five months when we go but now they want to make us get another room because it will be more than 5 ppl in the room with the baby so it will end up costing us over 600 bucks to take the baby because we cannot afford that i was just going to leave her with my mom for the 3 day's we will be gone but now im thinking it's going to be really hard for me i don't know if i can leave without her for 3 days and we can't afford to take her but i now she will be fine with my mom it's just me i've never been away from her and im sad to leave her, what should i do?

2007-07-18 07:06:38 · 7 answers · asked by kimberly b 2

my mom and i are haveing a fight... she yelling at me caz i can't find a job... i'm 14years old and i need a job, i look every where ito find a job.. but no luck... i live in westchester in new york.. can some one help to find a job.... my older sis as been helping me but she has no time to go with me and ask for a job... can some one help me.... remeber i'm 14 years old and live in westchester new york... i'm near the Bronx, yonkers, white plain, new rock, and other places... can you help me... please... e-mail me @ soccerloverxdancer@ yahoo.com

2007-07-18 07:05:37 · 15 answers · asked by soccer91 1

My boyfriend and I are looking for a new apartment together and his older sister wants to come live with us after we find one. Their dad is moving to another state and she does not want to go so she figured she'd move in with her brother. I did not ask how long she would be staying, but I have a gut feeling it would be permanently.

I do not want to live with his sister because she smokes weed, is bipolar, loud, lazy, and she manipulates her brother for money. A month ago, she called my cell phone and demanded that I let her live with us. She said that she was my boyfriend's sister for life and that blood is thicker than water.

The last time we visited his family, she kept knocking on our door while we were trying to be intimate and bothering us with stupid requests. She needed my boyfriend to come get her cell phone back from this guy she was dating because he stole it while in a drunken stupor.

My boyfriend doesn't mind if she lives with us, but I don't want her to. Help!

2007-07-18 07:03:09 · 11 answers · asked by Anonymous

how i try to tell her but she says no always no im 12 almost 13 and my mom makes me sleep between 11:30 pm and 12 am i wanna stay up late like to 2-3. my bro stays up reallllllllllllyyyyy late and he's a pain in the @$$ to wake up in the morning and anyway i can't sleep when she tells me to i end up staying up until 4 am. plz help

2007-07-18 06:55:59 · 8 answers · asked by DHEDFNDAFSDK@$#@#1874832jnfjkd21 2

If u r being sexually assualted like fondling or oral sex, kissing & many more such things while u r in sleep from trusted family members & if u go 2 child protection agency or any other authority who r asking u 4 proof, then how will u prove it? Specially when u r disbelieved only coz u r a boy(late teen) & ur abusers r trusted family female members who r incredibly voilent as well! Even in case of injuries u r asked 2 prove that it is done by family members when a third party eye-witness is absent & u do have life threat from ur own family so u have to plan everything secretly, abusers r trying to keep an eye on ur every step and when u r sacred enough as half of ur life has been fetched away, having nobadys support & u r finding unable 2 trust anybody as well as don't want to be anybodys entertainment center. Abusers r much more elder than u, having majority who r trusted family members as well! So if anybody outsider comes 2 help, d abusers make u disbeliev by telling them u r mentally ill & they have done nothing wrong & d stupid outsiders(child protection agency or anybody else) believes them too & then starts asking u same stupid questions repeatedly like "would ever any trusted family members do so?" , "why u r being targeted?" , why they r doing with u?" , "how could it be possible?" , "why u want to stop it?" & many more humeleting questions, which u have nomore explanation. I don't want ans like locking door be4 sleep, pledge 2 d authority again & again or run away or to tell d abuser that I hate whatever they r doing with me, simply coz it makes no sense & not possible & I don't want to live hopeless life anymore.

2007-07-18 05:37:08 · 9 answers · asked by shakalakasan 2

if you are 1 of 4 kid's i do not hv a wife at this time som i moved back home to help with my mother which is sick however she can still get around it's my father the land which they live on was giving to my mother years ago by her mother my mother had told my sister the way she wanted to leave it but my father wants my baby bro to hv the house and most of the land . well i am the one who is here helping them out i do not care about the house ect..........but it's just hurts me to see that my mom will do what he wants she will not fight him on this my sister feels why should she fix anything up if our brother is going to get it and the houst does need repairs made to it at this time. my mother wants me here to help with her but my father run's everything if i clean the house up he puts everything back the way it was. he makes me feel like a child help

2007-07-18 05:01:32 · 5 answers · asked by just me 1

I just found out I'm pregnant, I'm scared to death & I haven't had the time to enjoy the fact that I'm pregnant because my family hasn't been supportive. My bf is happy but we're not financially stable & he's what my family calls 'ghetto'. He's not 100% well educated but he's aware of things he does. I know he's not what people would consider the best choice to be a parent. He has a 3yr old son who is beautiful & he loves him with all his heart. I know he'll be there for our baby in case we end up separating, but still,I love him & want my baby to see a family together,eventhough I know it will be VERY hard to deal with teaching a baby and a 'dad' (my bf). I know it was my mistake,but my mom is really being so negative about this,my sister & dad are just really quiet about it.My parents divorced and have made many mistakes that I don't want my baby to see in me,so I guess they can't tell me much, but I'm just desperate & I feel like I let everybody down. What should I do 2 feel better?

2007-07-18 04:52:09 · 9 answers · asked by Diana 5

Hi all. My mother-in-law used my baby's (4 months old) picture to make homemade mailing labels that she puts on envelopes that go to friends, family and even for bill paying! I really do NOT want my little baby's face all over the place like that. I talked to my sister-in-law about it (she was a recipient of a card with the address label on it) and she thinks that there are so many crazy people out there, that seeing a baby's face on the label, and associating it with home address can be dangerous. She also thinks that her mother has no right to use our baby's picture in that content. She brings up a very good point. It really is upsetting me. How should I approach this? I love my mother-in-law very much, but this is just over the edge. I also spoke to my mother about it, and she thinks it is very wrong, and also brought up the same "danger" warning. She should not be promoting MY child!

2007-07-18 04:45:54 · 6 answers · asked by Anonymous

She has three kids by different fathers. She doesn't work. She stays home with these kids all the time, and she acts like she hates them. She will do cruel things, but not abusive things. Like, she will buy new toys or take their toys and break them or set them up very high where the kids can't get them. She will make them eat raw veggies while she eats cookies and Happy Meals, just to tick them off. She puts them to bed at five o'clock at night and expects them to stay in bed until at least nine the next morning so she doesn't have to deal with them. If they get up, the get punished. She throws food at them, and dumps water on their heads and if they wet the bed she wno't change the sheets. She basically torments them, and punishes them when the react. But they are clean, well fed, disciplined, and she never hits them. And she only throws soft things like mashed potatoes at them. She also mimics them and makes them dress in really embarrasing clothes when they go out.

2007-07-18 04:45:43 · 35 answers · asked by Anonymous

i fell asleep with the tv on twice this week, and my step dad gets SOO pissed off as if i was doing this on purpose. i dont even mean to do this, its an accident. now he took my ps3 away for the 2nd time for something that was an accident.
lets say if you fell asleep with the tv on like couple of times, would you want your parent taking a valuable stuff away from you? do you think that is fair?

2007-07-18 04:39:19 · 5 answers · asked by BaSeBaLlKiD721 6

I had a close relationship with my children. I encouraged both to be independent. Both married and both have partners that do not want me around except to borrow money, baby sit, clean or needs help with a problem.
The one that I baby sit for is a three hour drive so I proposed that I baby sit 4-5 days straight each month and take am on-call job there evenings and nights. My son and his wife thought this was a great idea.
On call as nurse eve/nites five days a month and I baby sit, clean house, cook meals, buy whatever my son needs, but I must stay/sleep at their house to babysit during th day and be on call at night.
I was always welcome in the past, but now that I have a job my son informed me that “your living on our couch is putting a strain on my family”.
I do not want to quit my job. I am going to refuse to baby sit, lend money, buy groceries etc… Paying for a hotel room and not seeing my granddaughter defeats working down there, but this is life.
I feel hurt. I do not want to put pressure on my son & his wife but I also do not want to see either of them at this time. I spend what I earn paying for a hotel room there.
Also I pay for my dog to be kenneled because my daughter dumped her pit bull on me and refuses to watch him (even though I pay her $10/day to put him his pen & back in my house each night).

2007-07-18 04:34:28 · 11 answers · asked by Traveler 4

My parents have been fighting alot lately. I asked my mom what had happend and why she was so mad at my dad. she told me not to worry about, that it is her and my dads problem and not mine. im really upset because today she told me that she is no longer living a happy life being together with my dad. Are they going to get a divorce??? What do i do??? im so scared because my dad left to go to work today, and he left angry. im scared that he is not going to come back for a while. Give me some advice on how to cope with this problem my parents have. i am 14 years old.

2007-07-18 04:19:20 · 7 answers · asked by Anonymous

Well i am dating this girl, she was born in China and came here when she was in 6th grade. We have had a crush on each other since junior year in HS. We are now going into junior year of college. We finally started dating about 4 weeks ago now. Thing is she is from China and i guess her dad is kinda upset at the fact that i am not Chinese. I am a full blooded Sicilian (Italian). I dont think he really likes me because of this, im not sure tho. Has anyone had a similar situation like this before? what should i do?

2007-07-18 04:17:32 · 6 answers · asked by aero 1

He doesn't have alcohol problems. He doesn't drink at home at all. When we go to Europe he always spends the nights at the bars. How do I make him not go? I threatened to accompany him at the bar (I'm 17) and he's okay with it. But I really have better things to do like party, you know? How do I stop him?

2007-07-18 04:03:06 · 5 answers · asked by Anonymous

I've been having a really tough time since my mom got a new bf. My dad died in March of 2005. He was a very important person in all of our lives and i just don't understand how my mom can like this new guy. My younger brother and sister both agree. When we try to talk to my mom about it, she just throws out the excuse, I'm the mother, I know what I'm doing and I can do what I want. It feels like im talking to a wall. Help.

2007-07-18 03:59:52 · 30 answers · asked by x0blonde0x 2

My mother has been paying the house. As soon as she got a job, the man i call my father quit his. Now he's been sitting around not giving a damn. He's lazy, he doesn't help in anything, and he doesn't care that we're about to lose the house because my mother just can't pay it. I've applied for several jobs, and now I have to wait impatiently for one of them to respond. I've been trying to get father to care, to get a job, but he just won't get one. It's like everything I say goes through one ear and out the other. I feel so desperate, I don't know what to do anymore. How can I convince father to get a job?

2007-07-18 03:58:32 · 4 answers · asked by Cassandra 3

ive got the usual stuff phone, ipod, money, cds,dvd, clothes ... need something unusal adn funky!!

2007-07-18 03:52:44 · 19 answers · asked by Anonymous

i never done any thing to her beside marring her son tim i tied to contact her though e maile but got nothing back so why dose she hate me so much

2007-07-18 03:43:21 · 12 answers · asked by trouble005 1

Plz any advice or tipss on how 2 cope with em? thnx

2007-07-18 03:30:22 · 11 answers · asked by Anonymous