why dose my mother in law hate me so much?

Question

i never done any thing to her beside marring her son tim i tied to contact her though e maile but got nothing back so why dose she hate me so much

Answer 1

She is jealous. Now you will have her so n full time, not her. It automatically makes some of the MIL hating their daughter-in-law.

Talk to your husband about it. Tell him it's not right. He has a power to change it. Try to get her for lunch and talk. If nothing helps, and you feel you have not done anything wrong then cut her off your life.

It's not worth getting stressed over it. But again, your husband MUST and can help you. You will have some family gathering for example on Christmas, birthdays, etc. It is in your interest to be in the normal relationship with her.

Good luck to you.

Answer 2

because sometimes mother-in-laws are like that. Try not to let it get to you. She just wants the best for her son and maybe in time she will realize that you are that person for him. My mother-in-law was the same way when me and my husband got married. It changed after she figured out that I wasn't going anywhere and I made him happy. Hang in there and try not to make things worse but worrying about it too much.....

Good luck.........

Answer 3

try the phone.... or go over to her house and ask to talk to her. it might not be that she hates you. she just might hate the fact that she thinks she lost her little boy. i had gone through the same thing as you. i found out that she was scared of losing her son... now she tells me she is glad she gained a daughter. spend time with her include her in activities that you and tim do. that helps alot. let her give advice.... tho you don't always have to heed what she says. let her feel important... remember... you have more time with tim than she does.

Answer 4

Yes I do and I know how you feel. I had given birth to my daughter 18 months ago and ONE week after giving birth she was telling me her granddaughter will look after my daughter so i can get a job - I politely told her where to go as I already have a job and I am on maternity leave - she had actually arranged all this with her g/daughter behind my back. I try to handle her now from a very far distance

Answer 5

Why do you think she hates you? It sounds more like a lack of communication between the two of you. Try a more personal from of getting in touch.

Please don't assume she hates you just because of this.

I'd give anything to have more contact with my DIL. Only having a son I would cherish a relationship with a "daughter".

Answer 6

You think she HATES you just because she didn't answer an e-mail? Isn't that and awful strong deduction? Why don't you try calling her. Invite her to do something with both you and your husband/her son.

Unfortunately many times the wife tries to cut the relationship between son and mother. Actually I think it is the wives that are jealous not the moms. They are the ones who cannot handle another woman in their husband's life.

Just remember to include her in your lives.

Answer 7

Mother in Law's usually have a problem with there 'little boy' growing up, going out on there own, and starting there own family. There is nothing that you can really do to fix the problem. Just take care of your husband, keep your relationship together and strong.

Answer 8

No one can give you an honest answer on this as we do not know your mother in law. Her not responding is showing she is not interested in speaking with you or she is not reading her emails. I would give her a call and invite her to lunch.

Answer 9

hon, it's not YOU it is HER!!!

not your fault.

it wouldn't matter who married her son, they'd never be good enough.

so don't worry about it... she's a biznitch, you tried... go on with your life and be thankful you aren't like her!

take care of YOU! hugs

Answer 10

maybe she wasn't ready for her son to marry. be nice. whenever she's around say hi. try to start a conversation. she will come around sooner or later


GOOD LUCK!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!