(the child looks nothing like him he's black and she's white) the child is white as snow and has none of his features ... they took a dna test and he's still waiting on the results but, it seems as though this girl is giving him the run around ... and he still has a thing for her... i've been w/ him for 2 years now and ...how do i find out if he's still w/ her when he says that the reason she still calls is in reference to his "daughter". ?? ahhh perhaps this is a question i need to answer my self ...leave him or ... deal w/ it right?
2007-07-18 08:06:06 · 26 answers · asked by Mariene 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
I love him and something makes me keep coming back ... he insists that everything is over between him and her but somehow we're stil running into drama... and if i had the strength right now i'd do it in seconds... i'm still working on that ... and if it is his child ... i would never put the child at blame for any of this nor would i have any hate towards her... how can a man look in a womans eyes stay by her side for 2 years ... look her in the eyes and tell her i love you when he's still messing around w/ this girl??? WHY!!!!
2007-07-18 08:22:47 · update #1
Usually if you suspect something, there is a reason for it...Move on..
2007-07-18 08:09:27 · answer #1 · answered by ibsawdust 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Honestly, you need to seriously leave him, even though that will cause BOTH of you stress and anxiety and problems.
It's like a f*Cked if you do, F8cked if you don't type of deal, but in this case, if you STAY with him, you run the RISK of bumping into even more troubles down the road. If you leave him, it's OVER. O V E R.
Honestly, you suspected that he's not honest from the getgo, and honest people usually never leave suspicions laying around.
That alone should tell you that something's up.
And people like this don't just do ONE wrong thing.
Leave him, but I guess at least wait for the DNA test. If that comes out to a result you don't like, that's all the proof right there, but I would consider leaving him now just because of all the drama.
Seriously, think about it.
HE STAYS: possible drama in the future
HE LEAVES: it's over. (also you can always find someone else believe me)
2007-07-18 08:38:32 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You basically said everything yourself, and actually know what you want out of this relationship. Although, you are still a little attacted to him you are still wondering if all this is all worth it. You should really look over this whole situation you have before you. You want to be with him, but there is still a matter unfixed between him and his ex. There is even a possibility of him being a father. I believe that if he is the father this isn't worth it. It may not be easy to give up someone you have feelings for, but he should if he is be in the childs life because the ex too will be a part of this picture. For you this not what you want. You do not want this all mingle between him and his ex. However, this is my thought, everything is entirely up to you and it's how you veiw things and look over things that you will look at situations and make the right choices even though it may be tough for you.
2007-07-18 10:17:03 · answer #3 · answered by lainexperiment2000 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well before I answer your actual question, just because they have different skin tones, doesn't mean that he isn't her dad. Didn't you here about the white family (Both parents white, background white also) who had black twins. Many things are possible. Anyways back to your question... it's a matter of trust in my eyes. If you trust him stay, if you don't do some digging and if you find something out go from there. If he is cheating, leave him. That's all I can say.
2007-07-18 08:14:39 · answer #4 · answered by Semper Fi 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well the question should be why are you on here asking questions about a 2 year relationship that has a new baby involved and it ain't yours?
Are you serious?
Get a clue girl
Does not matter whether or not he is still messing with this girl what matters is that he messed with her at all.
Who cares if the baby is his? God Bless her, but why are YOU still around!!!
Ohhhhh Nevermind i know why now!!
Kim B you are sooooo wrong, whoevers genes are stronger are the ones that come through and black genes are not above anyone elses always. I wish they were but we can't all have what we wish!
2007-07-18 08:13:17 · answer #5 · answered by kissmeagainnow 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
it's time for you to take a good look at yourself in the mirror and ask yourself this question?AM I TRULY HAPPY WITH THIS MAN????? now if you have to think about the answer then it's no you are not.i say this because i'm living your life except it's vice versa.he knows that this is his son but he keeps coming to me for sex.and just last night he finally told all that i've been suspecting all this time.i realized that i deserve better and you do to.2 years is too long to go through this mess.are you stressed behind this drama?if so then let go.once you lose that extra 130-200lbs you will be alright trust me.
2007-07-18 08:44:23 · answer #6 · answered by cyrontae1110 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Baby momma drama, you will have to talk to him and make sure the feelings are not there. If he still loves her you will have to let him go because if the child is his and he loves her he wil probably go back to her. If he loves you will have to think about if you can deal with this for the rest of your life. If you can't then you should leave the relationship because it will not be fair to the child.
2007-07-18 08:12:21 · answer #7 · answered by Venus 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm no doctor, but I'm pretty sure that the genes to be black are dominant over all others. So if he's black, the baby should be black. As for if he's cheating, I doubt it, but I don't know the guy. I guess just deal with it until you get the test results, then when the test is neg. tell her to leave you two alone.
2007-07-18 08:10:23 · answer #8 · answered by Kim B 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Just like you said deal or leave. If it is his child then you will never be rid of her.
FYI: My daughter is Mexican and Puerto Rican and she is cracker white with blue eyes and blonde hair. My husband's mother is full mexican and he also has blue eyes and blonde hair. Actually I just saw a black girl with blonde hair and hazel eyes 2 days ago in a store. Color don't mean nothing.
2007-07-18 08:18:33 · answer #9 · answered by Amber 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Let's wait for the DNA result, then ask again. But I'm sure by that time you will have the answer yourself.
2007-07-18 08:14:42 · answer #10 · answered by Lighthouse 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My motto is: "You can do bad by yourself". Why keep yourself in a relationship that has doubts, baby mama drama, and a kid? You have to create the life that you want, and I would HOPE that you would want more than this!
2007-07-18 08:16:31 · answer #11 · answered by TwinkaTee 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋