Well i am dating this girl, she was born in China and came here when she was in 6th grade. We have had a crush on each other since junior year in HS. We are now going into junior year of college. We finally started dating about 4 weeks ago now. Thing is she is from China and i guess her dad is kinda upset at the fact that i am not Chinese. I am a full blooded Sicilian (Italian). I dont think he really likes me because of this, im not sure tho. Has anyone had a similar situation like this before? what should i do?
2007-07-18 04:17:32 · 6 answers · asked by aero 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
Wanted to add some things. We are both 20 years old and go to different colleges only an hour apart.
Her father doesnt treat me bad or anything, he just is a traditional man i guess... wants his daughter to "keep the same blood"
She says she doesnt care about that stuff, but her father's approval is important to her.
2007-07-18 04:41:02 · update #1
You've only been dating for a month--just play it cool. Make sure that she is having open communication with her Dad about what you two are doing so that he doesn't have to wonder and assume the worst. Be respectful to him and ensure him that you have nothing but the best intentions for his daughter.
2007-07-18 04:25:31 · answer #1 · answered by GLSigma3 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It all comes down to LOVE!! The love you have for each other, ask yourselves is it bigger than what race you are? If so this is not an issue on you and your GF. The love the father has for his daughter will be put to the test, does he really deeply have LOVE for her no matter what? This includes her being happy with you! He needs to look at that, and understand that this is her life and not his.
If he doesn't seem to accept you at first, don't worry. You show her, and her family that you care about her, that you love her. They will notice this....
I was in a similar situation with my GF before, her family would tell her, he's not our race and so on, but we never ever let that get to us, we knew we were more than what they saw us to be. We'll we are married and have 2 daughters, and we are happy, they can't say anything about us when it comes to that. Those are the kinds of things small minded people think about....
2007-07-18 11:38:29 · answer #2 · answered by mindseye06 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
To be honest no I have never had this happen but if her father is that much of a racist he should have stayed in China. It should not matter to him if you Sicilian or purple with yellow polka dots as long as you treat his daughter with love and respect. I hope this works for you. God Bless
2007-07-18 11:27:36 · answer #3 · answered by bluebird 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Talk to your girlfriend about this... She knows her Daddy better than anyone here. Ask her for adivse too, she knows what her Father is to expect from you. This is my only advise and Good Luck.
2007-07-18 11:24:13 · answer #4 · answered by Charley 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
no i never date anyone out of my race lol, well act nice & kind in front his dad & if she like you i don't see any problem
2007-07-18 11:21:16 · answer #5 · answered by maya 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If your gf'sfather is not good to you, please try to avoid the girl, although it is difficult to do so.
2007-07-18 11:31:01 · answer #6 · answered by Rana 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋