He doesn't have alcohol problems. He doesn't drink at home at all. When we go to Europe he always spends the nights at the bars. How do I make him not go? I threatened to accompany him at the bar (I'm 17) and he's okay with it. But I really have better things to do like party, you know? How do I stop him?
2007-07-18 04:03:06 · 5 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
"But I really have better things to do like party, you know?"
Ya, I do know. So does he. He is partying, in his own way. Stop raining on his parade. Get over it.
2007-07-18 04:47:16 · answer #1 · answered by Poppet 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Uh, well, europe is possibly one of the most beautiful places I have ever been to. What I want to know is, why would anyone want to waste their precious time getting wasted every night when there are better things to do, yes like party, and see!? Talk it out with him and if he doesn't listen then I doubt he should even go to Europe. Getting drunk in Europe is no different from doing it in the states. Tell him to grow up. And he probably doesn't care since the age limits in Europe are low. I am 17 as well and I could go to a bar down the street and order any drink I want without a problem.
My best advice is to talk to him. He's your father, don't be scared to talk to him. I would find that annoying to know someone who wastes their vacation like that. And if he can only have fun when he drinks, then I'm sorry, your dad is pathetic. There's dozens of dozens of things to do in Europe that are fun.
Good luck.
2007-07-18 04:20:16 · answer #2 · answered by v squared 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You can't stop him because he's a grown man and in complete control of himself and can do what he wants. What you can do is say "Dad, I really don't want you to go to the bars" and list why. Also tell him that if this is a family vacation that you want to spend time with family, and that if he'd rather be at the bar than with you and your family then you'll be really disappointed. The only other option is to say that if he goes to the bars then you're not going to Europe, but that's an immature way to deal with the situation. You're a year away from being a legal adult--act like it, and demand the same from him.
2007-07-18 04:12:47 · answer #3 · answered by GLSigma3 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If he doesn't have problems with alcohol, he probably likes going to bars because that's the best way to mingle with local people and feel like you get to know the country a little better. If it doesn't interfere with your touring (hangovers can put a real crimp in anyone's style), let him enjoy pubs in Europe.
2007-07-21 20:58:10 · answer #4 · answered by kathyw 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
hi ---
my father didn't drink at hom at all, either... but he drank EVERY DAY....and i never knew it until i was over 18... he was a drunk... and hid it very well.
you can't say whether your father has alcohol problems or not... that is something he has to face.
if your dad does NOT have alcohol problems, maybe the vacation is the only place he can let his hair down...? perhaps the drinking is a temporary escape from life's reality?
you can ask him if he'd please give you a few nights together... let him know you want to enjoy the vacation with HIM.
that's my best answer.
2007-07-18 04:12:21 · answer #5 · answered by letterstoheather 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋