Family - April 2007

The other night me and my brother both got in way past our curfew. i knew that meant for me that I'd be getting a spanking. But my parents have said that since my brother is 13 now, as a boy he doesn't need to be spanked anymore. They say that it loses it's effectivness on boys after 13. But they said that girls still benefit from a spanking no matter how old. So last night I got a bare-bottom spanking from my dad and grounded while my younger brother just got sent to his room and grounded. I'm 15 and dad and mom said that as long as I live under their roof, if I mess up, ill still be spanked. I was just wondering if this was normal or fair, or maybe they are right, I mean girls are more emotional, does spanking work on girls better than boys?

2007-04-27 06:24:55 · 28 answers · asked by Anonymous

We are having my daughter's first birthday party and my mother in law has chosen to go to a friend's daughter's wedding instead. That is not the worst part - We had already discussed/resolved the wedding/party conflict this with her 3 months ago and she said she coming, lying all along, knowing fulll well that she had already booked her tickets in advance. Now she drops the bomb on us a week before the party. She says she never said yes, but rather said "ok" . She said it only matters that she is around on her real birthday, which she won't be because my husband and I are taking out our daughter for a special day as a family. This is not the first time my MIL has dropped us for a better offer. It appears as if the novelty of her granddaughter has worn off. Don't even get me started on what she did before our wedding...Any opinions?

2007-04-27 06:14:55 · 29 answers · asked by Anonymous

2007-04-27 06:04:55 · 3 answers · asked by Chamling 1

I have a three year old girl and an eight year old boy. My sister has a four year old who is a holy terror, she lets him boss everyone around and doesn't show that she's mad with him even when she attempts discipline; it's "OK, sweetie, mommy has to put you in time-out now", and a hug and a kiss. I'm opposed to spanking generally, but there are times--the boy has always been serious, quiet and generally well-behaved, but he girl is very different. We use a wooden spoon when necessary, but that's some few times a year, it's more of a threat than anything--"mama, we have to get the wooden spoon, she hasn't (whatever)", at which time she'll quit pitching her fit and do what she's supposed to. I feel that too much beating a child creates a sullen and angry teen-ager, disrespectful even into the mid-twenties. It seems no discipline at all does the same thing, though. I'd especially like to hear opinions from those with more than one child.

2007-04-27 05:21:07 · 15 answers · asked by doovinator 6

I don't want to get him flowers, b/c that would embarrass him. Does anyone know what the norm is for boys? Balloons? Nothing? I want to acknowledge his hard work in some way.

2007-04-27 03:06:26 · 2 answers · asked by Jaime 1

I know its possible, so I quess Im asking...can you give them an average life, or would that be poverty level. ( not including rent or medical)

2007-04-27 02:04:05 · 17 answers · asked by Anonymous

2007-04-27 01:57:19 · 5 answers · asked by Jacob N 1

How much do you think its cost to raise a girl for 18 years? Not including rent or medical. Just the price of food, clothing, and nessesity needs from a lower to middle class family? Any ideas?

2007-04-27 01:51:54 · 10 answers · asked by Anonymous

I am 16 years old and have no freedom. My parents go crazy if I am even 10 minutes late home. I have a part time job and I once was a bit later home but couldnt call them because my phone ran out of charge. I know this is caring but i need some freedom. help.

2007-04-27 01:28:33 · 17 answers · asked by Anonymous

I have been with my boyfriend for 2 years Tues. May 1. He is 24 and I am 27. We live together and have lived together almost from the begining. In this 2 years his sister has stolen from me and I have let him take care of it but she kept stealing. Now her and her boyfriend of 6 months have moved a way and are not next door. I thought it would be better but it is not. She is pregant and a getting married in July. At our house I have just been told. He wouldn't even let me bring any one there because he was afraid people will know where he lives or steal stuff. Well now she will invite everyone she know and they will be there. Which he know that I want to get married at our house and she just keeps taking from me. I know he is not ready to get married but there is not going to be nothing left for me to do. She is having the first grand child and getting married where I want and I can't get married there because they will say I am coping. Well I just don't know what else to do. Help me.

2007-04-27 00:39:47 · 10 answers · asked by yrunosy 3

my mum and fiance hate each other and have recently gave me an ultimation i have to choose one or risk losing both what do i do?

2007-04-26 22:14:34 · 9 answers · asked by mum of four 1

my nan died yesterday,but because of my real dad i never got to see her much.i have not seen her in over a year and before then it was 4 years and now shes gone.im going to the funeral and wanted to get some flowers.im trying to think of something not to hypercritical to put on the card,as although i never got to see her that much i always wanted to and did think of her and my other half of the family.she had grandchildren she never met because of my real dad and i cant help feeling a bit guilty that i never made enough effort.if someone could help for the flower card to sort of word it right for me.thanks.

2007-04-26 20:06:44 · 12 answers · asked by easty90210 5

People tell me I "shelter" my 2 younger kids too much (4 & 6yrs old) and that I am codependent. I keep my kids close and I cry just think about them growing up and leaving me. Im pretty sure its because I lost my mom and dad two weeks apart 2 yrs ago and about 10 yrs ago I lost 2 other children during a divorce (LONG story, but husban had more money & better lawyer) I'm still very close to them and they are older now and understand ALL that happened back then. In fact, they both kinda don't care much for their dad now that they know whole story. Anyway, I also found out that I was adopted a couple yrs ago and that my sister was actually my mom. I just think lots of people have their problems & counseling isn't going to help. You just have to deal with it and hope that time will help heal some wounds. Shouldnt it be up to me if I get counseling or not. I think Im fine.

2007-04-26 19:48:53 · 12 answers · asked by ♥bigmamma♥ 6

During this story I'm going to call the one who raised me and adopted me my"mom" (actually my grandma) and I'll call my birh mom my "birth mom" (even though I grew up knowing her as my sister) There were 3 other sisters too (which were actually my aunts) A couple years ago my "mom" was very sick, and knew she didn't have long to live. So she wanted to be there with my "birth mom" to tell me the truth before she passed away. My "birth mom" begged her and my other 3 "sisters" to NEVER tell me. So they all promised Well 2 weeks after that my dad (the man that adopted me) passed away too! A couple months later my "birth mom" told me she was really my mom. Long story short. She claims she tried to get me several times and my "mom" wouldnt let her. My other sisters said she nevercame back that she neglected me &my mom actualy rescued me from her house skinney, 8in worms in my diaper locked in my room with nothing but a matress. Cld u ever have rlship w/ her? Better if not lied?

2007-04-26 19:39:47 · 10 answers · asked by ♥bigmamma♥ 6

when parents send their kids to boo camp what do the kids have to do in boo camp.i'm a girl and i'm 16.i've lied and done things behind my dad's back my dad is a great dad i dont know why i do all this to him.

2007-04-26 19:11:48 · 11 answers · asked by Anonymous

My husband wanted his 17 year old brother to move in with us (we are only 21) and my husband is a marine and so he is hardly ever home. His bother and i hate eachother we always have. but since my husband wanted his bother to get out of the whole gang thing i respected that, but ever since he has been here he has been nothing but trouble and he dont do anything i ask, i cook for him and clean up after him and wash his clothes and i do everything for him but he still dont respect me, so i told my husband i was leaving him because i cant deal with his brother anymore. My husband is never home when his brother is and when my husband is home on the weekend his brother is gone at partties . And i dont want to make my husband pick between his brother and his wife.His brother has stolen so much sutff from the base and he is going to get my husband in trouble....... Am i in the wrong. Or can some one help me get passed this all.. I have had all i can take i cant do it anymore...

2007-04-26 18:05:56 · 28 answers · asked by Anonymous

We have submitted twice to the drug test and both times were found innocent. My son is having alot of problems due to this. He is scared to go to school. Please help any advice on what to do when Family Members are vendictive?

2007-04-26 16:37:51 · 5 answers · asked by slyle13 2

Okay, I am sixteen and live in Ontario, I am legally allowed to move out of my parents home. Well, I told my mom that I want to start providing for myself and move out on my own, which is true. The reason why I want to move out? Its personal, and I'm not allowed to tell people why. Her reaction? She got angry at me and hardly talked to me on the walk we took after I told her. Why is she mad at me?

2007-04-26 16:37:49 · 22 answers · asked by Anonymous

why can't people just admit their decision to have children was BAD ?

2007-04-26 16:11:27 · 12 answers · asked by df a 1

I have two brothers, 14 and 9. My parents are divorced and we live with my mom. The 14 year old, "Matt" has severe anger problems and takes it ALL out on "Joey" the little one. Matt wails on him and calls him names and screams at him to the point where if Joey even tries to defend himself he gets it even worse. A lot of this happens when we're home alone. My mom has him in counseling but it's not working. It's just become a "normal" thing in our house and I constantly hear Matt smacking Joey around. Tonight, Matt threw a chair, knocked four more over, and swung at me. I am 17 years old. I want to get out of this, and only have one more year but my problem is- what about Joey??? I can't leave him someone bigger than him that will physically and emotionally tear him down! What do I do??

2007-04-26 14:48:03 · 10 answers · asked by Anonymous

I live in Arkansas so the court papers are sealed. I know that I was born in Camden. I was born on Aug.24.1975. My mother has a twin and was 15 to 16 when she had me. I was wondering if anyone might know her or some other of my relatives. I checked out a company to help me to high and they didn't know if they could find her. Please be repectful when answering. This means the world to me.

2007-04-26 14:31:22 · 5 answers · asked by muybonita30 2

My sister always lets her kids have control. They run everything in her house. They are theifs, brats, lairs, one of her kids has done hard time. From when these kids was small, we have told her and told her that she needs to "straighten" them out. She has never set rules, her reasoning is that we had so many rules when growing that it made her childhood hell. I had those same rules and had a great childhood. Now the youngest is almost 16 and she comes crying to us that he beats her. Her boyfriend left her because of this. He tells lies to the neighbors, they complain, he threats the neighbors. So now she asks us what should she do?

2007-04-26 14:22:15 · 8 answers · asked by sunrise27_73 2

'' when i was your age..we had to walk 5 miles in the snow to get to school...or....'' you kids have it made''...''when i was your age''....my granpa is constantly using that one...im like...ohhhh god..here we go.

2007-04-26 14:11:27 · 16 answers · asked by Anonymous

ok my sister is getting into troblel skipping class, drinking, smoking talking backmy mom is having a brake down not noing what to do so if you have any subgestens plez help and no stoped ansewers thanks jamie

2007-04-26 14:06:13 · 7 answers · asked by jamie 3

My parents hate me because im so depressed and i hate my family members. My mom hate me becauseshe cant see her sister because of me..my dad is never on my side. I feel like a failure to them. They dont care what happens to me. I want to move out of my house and runaway, but i cant ecause im just 15.... or just kill my self. My birthday is coming up and noone even cares.

2007-04-26 13:42:38 · 46 answers · asked by Anonymous

They drink all day long and his dad can say nasty things when he is really drunk. They are very good at hiding the fact they are intoxicated, but people who know them well can tell. My mum recently had a big argument with his mum about gossiping about me behind my back wen she was drunk and since then I am very reluctant to go over to their house, they will not visit us because it means they can't drink if they drive. Is it wrong to deny my daughter of spending time with her grandparents?

2007-04-26 13:39:52 · 10 answers · asked by Anonymous

my 11 year old daughter wants a baby brother or sister so bad but i am 44 years old and am single. what can i do for her becuase she is really wanting this badly. i dont have a husband. please no stupid people answers. please help me!
she is an only child and dosnt like it at all. im not really sure what to do. is this just a phase and how can i help her to get out of it?

2007-04-26 13:34:25 · 6 answers · asked by Hey Love...♥ 2

im a identical twin and when one of goes to say something the other one says it too.its kind of annoying but is it normal??

2007-04-26 13:30:05 · 6 answers · asked by Sydney 2

Okay my hubby and I have only been married for a year and a half. He is in the army an is currently overseas. My sister in law is going on 19 and was seeing a guy who is old enough to be her father. Anyway, she called me today telling me that she needed to talk to me about something important. I call her back and we talked and then she has the nerve to say to me that she is going to move in with me. She didnt even ask me if it was okay. She just assumes that she is going to move in. and then after that she has the nerve to ask me if she could borrow $20.

I am sorry, but she is 19. I think it is about time she got herself a job. She graduates from highschool supposedly in 2-3 weeks.

I dont want her moving in w/me because I am trying to take care of my own life. I have enough stress dealing with my husband being gone and having to care for my animals and such. And my sister in law is one of those type who live off of other people to get by in life. Help me! Am I a bad person?

2007-04-26 13:29:48 · 9 answers · asked by Katherine S 2

I am a dental assistant fired in january for taking my daughter to the hospital 2nd time ....15 times in hospital.... pre term labor...she just gave birth april 13 1 mos 3wks early 4lbs 4oz credit cards maxed out where can i find help to keep a roof over our heads until i find a job....already exhausted churches in our area.....i need help

2007-04-26 13:27:03 · 7 answers · asked by lala 1