I have been with my boyfriend for 2 years Tues. May 1. He is 24 and I am 27. We live together and have lived together almost from the begining. In this 2 years his sister has stolen from me and I have let him take care of it but she kept stealing. Now her and her boyfriend of 6 months have moved a way and are not next door. I thought it would be better but it is not. She is pregant and a getting married in July. At our house I have just been told. He wouldn't even let me bring any one there because he was afraid people will know where he lives or steal stuff. Well now she will invite everyone she know and they will be there. Which he know that I want to get married at our house and she just keeps taking from me. I know he is not ready to get married but there is not going to be nothing left for me to do. She is having the first grand child and getting married where I want and I can't get married there because they will say I am coping. Well I just don't know what else to do. Help me.
2007-04-27 00:39:47 · 10 answers · asked by yrunosy 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
why are they getting married at your house???
They should get married in their own!!, she has some problems, I think you should talk to your bf!
2007-04-27 00:44:03 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like the two of you need to be apart. He won't let you have anyone over because they might steal, but he lets his sister come over and she steals. He will allow his sister to use your (his and yours) house to have her wedding, knowing full well that was your dream. You cannot begin to have the first grandchild because she is already pregnant. If you want to be first in something, then you are with the wrong man. You have some more growing up to do because you are in competition with his younger sister over things you have no control over. He also seems to be way too controlling. Take a break from each other and if after a couple of weeks you are still needing each other then it is time for you look at your relationship and make some decisions together and get some couples counseling.
2007-04-27 08:36:18 · answer #2 · answered by mom of girls 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Why are you living with this guy? Not only does 'playing house' or 'shacking up' with a guy do nothing but buy time but in this case, you aren't even allowed to bring people to your own home! That is so bizarre - I don't think this guy is ready to be a committed relationship, from what you say, and during this so-called 'trial marriage', you have allowed him to walk all over you!
His sister is a problem you are always going to have. Worse than his sister is your boyfriend! How hard up are you that you would allow him to dictate these 'house rules' to you? Where would you draw the line at stupid things he tells you you can or can't do?
His sister doesn't keep taking from you. Your boyfriend does - what he seems to have taken from you is your self-respect!
2007-04-27 08:29:50 · answer #3 · answered by kathyw 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Put everything valuable in your bedroom, and put a key lock on your bedroom door. You can always find a nice place to have a wedding---a beach house, on th beach, a beautiful reception hall,a yacht, a cruise, etc....
By the way, it not very respectful for your boyfriend to tell her that she could have the wedding at your house without consulting you first.
2007-04-27 07:47:34 · answer #4 · answered by PEGGY S 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
this guy sounds like all he is doing is killing of your self esteem like one of the the other answers your digging a hole for yourself and pretty soon it gonna be to late and your stuck fine a man that will love you and treat you like a princess not like put you on a throne or something but he sounds like the wrong man if a girl wants to be treated like crap then they would hook up with him you deserve so much better please take my advice fine your self a man not a boy YOU GO GIRL and that apartment is just as much as yours kick his as$ out and say don't let the door hit yah were the good lord split yea ha ha hope i helped
2007-04-27 08:49:15 · answer #5 · answered by ♥kristie♥ 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Come on!!! Your 27?? I don’t believe it. Don’t let her in your home. If she gets married in some place it doesn’t matter that you get married in the same place. Copying??? Come On!!! It’s your house. Really!!! I don’t think you are ready to get married if your thinking like this. You Need to Grow up.
2007-04-27 07:49:09 · answer #6 · answered by Jose M 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
You need to grow up.First come first served.Its a case of jealously.Your boyfriend is not ready to get married.Get over it.
2007-04-27 08:14:22 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
Look out for number one - YOU !
At your age - you've got all the time in the world
2007-04-27 07:49:51 · answer #8 · answered by copycat 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Honey you are digging yourself a hole you won't beable to get out of. Get out NOW.
2007-04-27 08:28:53 · answer #9 · answered by Granny 1 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
4get all about him and be mine
2007-04-27 07:43:37 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋