my 11 year old daughter wants a baby brother or sister so bad but i am 44 years old and am single. what can i do for her becuase she is really wanting this badly. i dont have a husband. please no stupid people answers. please help me!
she is an only child and dosnt like it at all. im not really sure what to do. is this just a phase and how can i help her to get out of it?
2007-04-26 13:34:25 · 6 answers · asked by Hey Love...♥ 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
get her a puppy? maybe one of those baby dolls that cries and wets, and let HER take care of it
dont have babies just because She wants one
its a phase
2007-04-26 13:39:26 · answer #1 · answered by bronzebabekentucky 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You've gotten two excellent answers. I have to say the puppy, or kitten if you're not prepared for the maintenance of a do.
Dogs are pretty high maintenance.
A pet, and the spur of the moment treats, and just say things like, "See how much fun we're having? If we had an ol' stinky baby we wouldn't be able to do this!"
She'll eventually get over this. My youngest wanted a baby for a long time too, but now she sees that she'd have missed out on a lot of days swimming, at the park, etc.
2007-04-26 20:47:54 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't have another baby unless you actually want one. That said, this is an opportune time to tell your little one that she cannot always have what she wants in life.
Also, tell her about all the advantages of being an only. I have six siblings and I feel that I never got enough attention from my parents. Incidentally, my siblings feel more or less the same way. Only children get everything--love, attention, money, time, etc.--their parents have to offer all for themselves. They also tend to be more mature and self-reliant than peers with siblings.
Your daughter may also have unrealistic expectations about what having a younger sibling is like. Now would be the time to tell her that a younger sibling won't be able to play with or talk to her for quite some time after the birth. The baby would also demand a lot of your time and attention, which means that she would have to do with less. And, given the age difference, the sibling would not be a good companion for her. (I speak from experience: My mother gave birth to a succession of boys after she had me. My sisters, who are eight and ten years younger than me respectively, were not able to keep up with me. Consequently, we did not have much of a relationship when we were kids.)
Your daughter's wish may stem from loneliness. Is she socially isolated? Does she have enough interaction with people her own age? Is she expected to spend a lot of time keeping you (an adult) company? Getting her involved in extra curricular activities. If she has cousins her age, arrange visits with them. Also, your daughter may look into being a babysitter or mother's helper. Good luck.
2007-04-26 20:48:26 · answer #3 · answered by e_d_ellis2004 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
try to show her how much better off you guys are for now go get ice cream at 9 pm or go to the park or some where you couldn't take a baby that's fun and let her see that being an only child for now is an advantage
2007-04-26 20:41:30 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Get her involved with some activities so she can meet kids her own age and make friends hopefully that will take up her time and not think about a sibling. Spend time with her yourself such as a special Saturday date at a movies....
Hopefully it is just a phase for her.....
2007-04-26 20:53:45 · answer #5 · answered by Stephanie P 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
one of her friends mums prob just had a baby and she is jealous. dont have a baby 2 please your daughter. explain to her that having another baby would mean less time and money would be spent on her, thatll soon change her mind
2007-04-26 21:01:57 · answer #6 · answered by alroka 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋