They drink all day long and his dad can say nasty things when he is really drunk. They are very good at hiding the fact they are intoxicated, but people who know them well can tell. My mum recently had a big argument with his mum about gossiping about me behind my back wen she was drunk and since then I am very reluctant to go over to their house, they will not visit us because it means they can't drink if they drive. Is it wrong to deny my daughter of spending time with her grandparents?
2007-04-26 13:39:52 · 10 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
It is your moral, social, and legal obligation to protect your child from any and all forseeable dangers. Two alcoholic grandparents with attitude problems are EXTREMELY dangerous. Do what you need to do.
2007-04-26 13:56:26 · answer #1 · answered by e_d_ellis2004 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It is your job to protect your child, I would go as little as possible, but still show an attempt to ensure the child knows her family. I would never leave the child in their care and I would stay really close to the child while visiting. If it becomes a big problem then just tell them you have made attempts to include them and until they can make attempts as well, you feel you have done your part now it is time they do theirs. If it matters at all they will not drink long enough to see the baby. If they do not then they dont deserve a spot in her life. You have to be there for a child and if they cannot do that what good are they
2007-04-27 04:25:35 · answer #2 · answered by dydasgirl 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It is your duty to your daughter, to protect her. If her paternal grandparents are drunk all the time, you should keep her away. If they're drunk, it's not quality time anyway.
What if, one of them is carrying her and they black out and fall on her. Your beautiful baby will be severely injured or worse. It's a risk that you shouldnt take. You could be charged, with a criminal offense of child endangerment if you knowingly leave your child in the care of a person who you know to be drunk.
Also, if I were you, I wouldn't be too eager to accomodate them if they were talking about me behind my back.
2007-04-26 23:00:28 · answer #3 · answered by Susan D 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
no i dont think it will be wrong to do so. your daughter needs grandparents she can look up to and that can set an example for her. they obviously dont care very much. you are quite right in what you said. and if they ask why they cannot see her you tell them (or your partner as it is his parents) maybe by denying them the right to see her they will realise what they are doing and their eyes will open
2007-04-26 20:47:31 · answer #4 · answered by Mel27.09.08 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Nope. One of your duties as a parent is to go to the end of the earth to protect them. Nice work. You are living up to your responsibility. They are grown and make the decision to drink all the time. Not your fault and do not own their guilt.
2007-04-26 22:47:42 · answer #5 · answered by Healthy Lifestyle Geek 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Trust your gut. It's telling you this isn't a healthy environment for your child. I would worry that they may take her someplace in a car, or otherwise cause her harm due to their intoxication.
Your daughter is counting on you to protect her. You'll NEVER forgive yourself if anything happened to her and you could have prevented it by not allowing them to be around her.
2007-04-26 20:55:21 · answer #6 · answered by katydid 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
They seem like paragons of virtue and tons of fun; how could you deny your daughter this? Especially since they are working so hard to give her a positive experience?
Huh. Use logic.
2007-04-26 21:10:05 · answer #7 · answered by The First Dragon 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It would be wrong to allow your daughter to be with any drunks whether they are family or not.
2007-04-26 22:40:38 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
It is a DUTY to deny your daughter exposure to them It is for her own safety.
2007-04-26 21:04:06 · answer #9 · answered by barthebear 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No thats not wrong at all! Its just protecting your child! Tell them to sober up or they dont get to see their grandchild nomore
2007-04-26 20:52:00 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋