Why is my mom mad at me?

Question

Okay, I am sixteen and live in Ontario, I am legally allowed to move out of my parents home. Well, I told my mom that I want to start providing for myself and move out on my own, which is true. The reason why I want to move out? Its personal, and I'm not allowed to tell people why. Her reaction? She got angry at me and hardly talked to me on the walk we took after I told her. Why is she mad at me?

Alright, obviously I need to say the reason why, because some of you are calling me a loser and you don't even know the situation! My family just found out we have to move, and my parents don't have alot of money, I want to move out because it would relieve some stress, it would cost them less money to buy clothes and food and other things for me, which they could use on more important things, things they really need, food, clothes, and money for the house, if I wanted to leave my family, I would have left on my birthday, which was the 18th of this month. We JUST found out we have to move. I'm a little stressed out, please don't call me a loser, I'm already frustrated enough.

Answer 1

I dont see you as a loser at all. I see a young person who is trying to be grown up. But being a mother myself i would say at this point maybe she needs you to be her child. If you want to help out by getting your own clothes and things just get a job and help your parents out if you feel you need to do somthing. Family should stick together in hard times and do whatever they can for each other. And maybe shes not mad at you maybe she feels like shes let you down some how and shes afraid of loosing you. Just help them dont leave that will only hurt your mom. just stay a little longer and let her know you dont blame her and you wanna help. Good luck and i hope you do whats best for your future.You sound pretty smart and caring.

Answer 2

I have a solution for you. Well first, do you go to school now and or work. And after you move out will you do the same?

Living on your own is tremendously expensive. Heres the deal Id recommend you telling your mom the Truth. A mom's job in life is to protect her child so if you tell her it will help the situation.
How do you plan on feeding and clothing your self when you move out? Why not just live there and buy your own clothes and food, while you are at home. Plus instead of paying rent somewhere else give your mom the extra money you earn. This would seem to help you both out.

Answer 3

She Must Be Angry Because Your Moving Out And Because your Not Telling Her Why Your Moving Out Thats Why! Hope This Helps and Maybe Because she doesn't want her 16 year old child to move out and
Because being 16 & moving out on your own is a big step. its not easy out there. Does your mom pay for anything for u? Clothes? Personal hygiene items? Food? Just think about that. That will all be gone. U r still her child & she is still going to worry about u. I didnt move out till i was 19 & it was tough and we can't really assess this unless we know THE REASON... your personal reason would most likley be the reason she's mad... plus your only 16... and your still her baby... no mater what you do, where you go, your still her baby... you going out into the world, trying to provide for yourself... maybe you haven't proved to her that you are ready to... do you pay her rent, do you cook, do you work and You're asking for advice but you are withholding information that could be important in order to give you the best and more sound advice.

If you are moving out of your mom's home because of abuse then your mom has no right to be upset with you. If you are moving out because there is drug or alcohol abusers in the home then she also shouldn't be mad and If you are moving out simply because you want to go shack up with a guy or do what you want when you make poor choices then by all means your mom is in the right. Will you be continuing school or quiting? If your quiting your mom will be upset and once again have the right to be.

because she thinks one...that you want to leave her and two...she thinks you are critical of the job that does taking care of you...three..she is worried because you are only sixteen years old not even legal age yet..how could you possibly care for yourself...don't u think that you might not be giving your mom the credit she deserves?? think on that one a bit.

You are a loser and she loves you and she knows whats best for you, but you choose to **** your life up anyways.

And Your 16 You Have To Be 18 Or 20 or More To Move Out! And You Should'nt Move Out

She's hurt. Not mad. Her Daughter just told her (as she see's it) that you are growing up and moving on, she cant treat you like her little girl anymore. My mum got the same way when i got a serious BF. She noticed that i was becoming an adult. Losing her only daughter. Talk to her tell her why and tell her you will always be her little girl but you just need to find your self! Hope This Helps Or Search It Online

Answer 4

I can't actually tell why you're mother is angry but I can only guess. You say you're family is in financial problems and you don't want to burden your parents by providing for you. You have a good intention but I think your mother got hurt when you just told her that you want to move out without even discussing it first. It probably felt to your mom that you don't want to live with them anymore because they cannot provide you what you need and what you want. Though this is not what you were thinking, I know parents think differently. Since talking to her doesn't seem to be the solution, why not write a letter by telling her how you feel. It's probably just a misunderstanding.

Answer 5

She's probably not mad at you. She's worried about you because she knows how hard it is to make ends meet in this world. Have you considered how you'll pay for housing and utilities and food and transportation and clothing and all those fun things that go along with being on your own? I would very strongly suggest that you do a good bit of research before you make the move.

You're not allowed to tell people why you want to move out. That statement has me a little concerned. Please be very sure that what you're doing is the right thing for you and that you're not doing it to please someone else.

If, after researching the expenses you'll have to meet on a day to day basis, you still feel like this is the right thing for you, present it again to your mom. Present it in very real terms showing her that you've considered all your options and that you are able to meet all expenses. Put together a budget showing your income and expenses and ask her to go over it with you to make sure you're not leaving anything out. Get her involved in your preparations so she can see you're doing it right.

Tell her that you realize she loves you and is worried about you but that you'll be OK. Stay in touch with her so she can still be a part of your life. Everyone has to move out on their own at some point in their lives and take responsibility for themselves. Personally, I believe 16 is kind of young to do that but everyone's different. If you're truly ready to live on your own, congratulations and all the best to you. But please prepare intelligently because it's no picnic. If you take the time to prepare yourself and can show your mom that you'll be OK, she'll worry less about you and hopefully will warm up to the idea.

...I just read the reason you're moving. That's very honorable but please talk more with your mom about expenses and reality. Your mom may feel embarrassed that her 16 year old feels the need to help financially. There's some pride going on there. Really talk to her about this situation. It would be less expensive for you to stay where you are and help out financially than to have to pay for everything on your own. I'm sure you can work something out. You sound like a very caring, intelligent person.

Answer 6

You're asking for advice but you are withholding information that could be important in order to give you the best and more sound advice.

If you are moving out of your mom's home because of abuse then your mom has no right to be upset with you. If you are moving out because there is drug or alcohol abusers in the home then she also shouldn't be mad.

If you are moving out simply because you want to go shack up with a guy or do what you want when you make poor choices then by all means your mom is in the right. Will you be continuing school or quiting? If your quiting your mom will be upset and once again have the right to be.

Answer 7

Because being 16 & moving out on your own is a big step. its not easy out there. Does your mom pay for anything for u? Clothes? Personal hygiene items? Food? Just think about that. That will all be gone. U r still her child & she is still going to worry about u. I didnt move out till i was 19 & it was tough.

Answer 8

I am a mother of 17 year old twins, when you are a mother you expect for your children to live with you until the go to college or get married. One of my twins got pregnant and lives on her own with her boyfriend. I feel like my heart was ripped out of my chest. Your mom loves you and probably isnt ready for you to leave the nest. She will be ok after awhile it has only been a few months since mine left the nest and I am starting to get use to it.

Answer 9

She's hurt. Not mad. Her Daughter just told her (as she see's it) that you are growing up and moving on, she cant treat you like her little girl anymore. My mum got the same way when i got a serious BF. She noticed that i was becoming an adult. Losing her only daughter. Talk to her tell her why and tell her you will always be her little girl but you just need to find your self.

Answer 10

Well it's hard to say without knowing the whole story. But maybe it has something to do with the reason you want to move out.