My sister always lets her kids have control. They run everything in her house. They are theifs, brats, lairs, one of her kids has done hard time. From when these kids was small, we have told her and told her that she needs to "straighten" them out. She has never set rules, her reasoning is that we had so many rules when growing that it made her childhood hell. I had those same rules and had a great childhood. Now the youngest is almost 16 and she comes crying to us that he beats her. Her boyfriend left her because of this. He tells lies to the neighbors, they complain, he threats the neighbors. So now she asks us what should she do?
2007-04-26 14:22:15 · 8 answers · asked by sunrise27_73 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
I feel I should make it clear that her son beats her not her boyfriend. Also this happened again last night and she was on the phone with my mom. My mom hung up and called the police where my sister lives and sent them there, then she went over there. The problem is far from being solved, maybe this is step in the correct direction. Thanks to everyone who has answered so far.
2007-04-27 02:46:34 · update #1
put him in a juvenile detention center
2007-04-26 14:26:23 · answer #1 · answered by hanna 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Wow, my best suggestion is to NOT GET IN THE MIDDLE..this will usually only cause more "family" problems. Your sis needs to grow up and take control of her own life and those of her children. I know you are prob. concerned but as an "outsider" so to speak the kids won't listen to you anyway. She should not blame "her childhood" on her problems today. If anything that should strengthen her resolve to be a better parent; if she thought her childhood was not the best.
2007-04-26 21:29:25 · answer #2 · answered by kiya12bc 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm sure you've told her before what she should do, and she didn't do it.
If you think she will listen, tell her to call the police EVERY time her son does something illegal, including drinking, marijuana, being out late at night. Tell her to take a parenting class too, they probably can set her up with this at the boy's school.
Then you just relax and go about your own life. This is her responsibility.
2007-04-26 21:30:38 · answer #3 · answered by The First Dragon 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Well i will tell ur sister don't take it from her kid. If she spoiled him she can fix him too but she needs to stand up for herself. Next time he hits her tell her to call police or give him a warning if he does that again she will NOT put up with it. If he forgot that is his mother then the mom needs to forget thats her son. Now he is hitting her one day he hitting his gf or wife. Its seem like with time he will get worst. She needs to be hard on him not give him any money. Need to get him serious help of a professional conselor. If he refuse to go then tell him he is going to jail for assult. Don't let you sister do this anymore
2007-04-26 21:30:04 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Tell your sister to file a report with the police the next time he beats her. She should also have all of her injuries documented. Anyone who beats his mother deserves to do jailtime.
Her youngest is sixteen. If her other children are over eighteen and not enrolled full-time in school, your sister needs to evict them from the premises. She shouldn't take any crap from legal adults who are old enough to support themselves.
2007-04-26 21:27:39 · answer #5 · answered by e_d_ellis2004 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
She brought it upon herself, if she wants help tell her what she is really asking: she wants your input and advice...Tell her you have being trying to help all along and she dosen't listen.
Maybe there is somewhere she can send her son, a boarding school that will straighten him out. She needs to get her life together and she will need alot of assistance so if you are going to help realise that you must be in it for the long haul.....
2007-04-26 21:35:24 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
first of all,your sis needs to report that her boyfriend beat her to the police. and second of all your sister needs to start giving her kids some rules. if they get more than out of control. you can call child services for help.she needs to make them to become afriad of her.than she can control them.sometimes kids only act rude when thier parents are around.because they know thier parents can't beat them.if they do the kid can call the police.she needs to wtah out !!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
2007-04-26 22:00:48 · answer #7 · answered by mon3y gurl 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell her you tried to tell her a long time ago but she didn't want to listen and has no one to blame but herself. If she hasn't figured out by now what to do, you don't know what else to tell her.
2007-04-26 22:37:24 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋