I have two brothers, 14 and 9. My parents are divorced and we live with my mom. The 14 year old, "Matt" has severe anger problems and takes it ALL out on "Joey" the little one. Matt wails on him and calls him names and screams at him to the point where if Joey even tries to defend himself he gets it even worse. A lot of this happens when we're home alone. My mom has him in counseling but it's not working. It's just become a "normal" thing in our house and I constantly hear Matt smacking Joey around. Tonight, Matt threw a chair, knocked four more over, and swung at me. I am 17 years old. I want to get out of this, and only have one more year but my problem is- what about Joey??? I can't leave him someone bigger than him that will physically and emotionally tear him down! What do I do??
2007-04-26 14:48:03 · 10 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
Ask your Mom to call the boys and girls town hot line, they will board up the trouble maker and get him some physiological help. I have to agree with you, you cannot leave little Joey there to fend for himself. Check out this web site
http://www.girlsandboystown.org/
or call
1-800-448-3000
These places offer services for children in trouble. I was a child of the streets and lived on one. It wasn't bad at all. Have your Mother make the call. or you can call them just to chat and ask what do do about Joey. They are all about the children
2007-04-26 15:46:21 · answer #1 · answered by Cheryl 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You can't let this go on. It will only get worse if nothing is done. You need to start calling the police and making a report when "Matt" hits you or your brother. Do the same every time he does anything illegal. Police are busy, so you have to be persistent. This is actually the best way to get "Matt" some help. A judge can order any number of possible actions. It may be possible to improve "Matt's" behavior, or he may be able to go into a "placement" where he can get help and not be able to hurt anybody. He's young; there is hope, especially if his family acts now and doesn't wait.
Your little brother is being abused, and your mother ought to stop it, but if she doesn't then you have to. Also you can call Child Protective Services, but call the police first, because CPS may want to remove the little one from the home until "Matt" is gone. Maybe that would wake your mom and "Matt" up to the seriousness of the situation, though.
2007-04-26 22:07:14 · answer #2 · answered by The First Dragon 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Look, when you turn 18 you will probably move out. I would go research possible ways to get joey away from his mom. I know that sounds cruel but if she is letting Matt beat Joey to the point of assault then she is unfit! You can build a case with or without your father and get Joey out of there. You are the older brother and the man of the house, so step up to your responsibility. You won't be the first brother to adopt their siblings. If you don't do this that is your prerogative.
Plus their is child services in the area, so contact them.
2007-04-26 22:35:27 · answer #3 · answered by prime 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
What an awful situation. I feel bad for your brother Joey. What I am going to suggest won't be easy, but if you truly care for your younger brother Joey (it seems you do) then PLEASE, for his sake, take action, even if it means "Matt" resents your interference.
My suggestion: go to your school councilor and explain the situation. Seems to me "Joey" is in real danger and "Matt" needs real help. Have you told your Mom what is going on? If you have, and she has not helped, then you need to seek other help, and SOON. The school will be your best option, I think.
Good luck, and I hope everything works out. I have a son about "Joey's" age, and I can only imagine how I'd feel if he were in the situation you describe.
2007-04-26 22:04:19 · answer #4 · answered by starcrssdlover 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Where is your father?He needs to take some responsibility for his children.You and Joey need to get out of there quicksmart. Can Joeyor your brother live with your dad because it seems like the boys need to be separated Joeys safety. And Matt needs a firm hand.
2007-04-27 06:01:17 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Does your dad know about this? He is responsible for looking after Joey's well-being, too. Second, why are these two even left alone together? Your littlest brother is being abused. Your mother needs to send your 14 yo brother to live someplace else so that Joey can be safe.
2007-04-26 21:53:35 · answer #6 · answered by e_d_ellis2004 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Cant the trouble maker go back to his dad? How about getting him on some sort of medication & modify his diet with the doctors help. If you want to come to Australia, i will look after you & joey.
2007-04-26 21:52:27 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
too bad you cant take joey with you. the poor kid.
maybe you could help arrange for matt to be somewhere else by the time you leave. boot camp maybe?
2007-04-26 21:53:23 · answer #8 · answered by TTerrell 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Tell your mother if she doesn't do something about it, you will tell your dad what is going on and if that doesn't help, tell your mom that you are going to go to the proper authorities. This should be something your mother is taking care of, if not, you should do something about it yourself. Your little brother is a victim of abuse and someone needs to intervene and help him before he gets hurt really bad. You may start with a school counselor and they can tell you where to go from there but please don't leave your little brother to fend for himself, someone needs to help him and if your mother won't listen and do something about it, you will have to be the one to get him the help he needs before you leave home. Please don't turn away! Good luck, your little brother needs someone to intervene for him.
2007-04-26 22:54:47 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'd call the police.I know it sounds cruel,but it needs to happen in order to keep you and your brother safe.
2007-04-26 21:53:58 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋