Family - March 2007

my mom had to leave town yesterday. so i spyed on my dad, and found out he went to spend the whole afternoon with another woman. i had suspisions before but i dont know what to do? should i tell my mom?

2007-03-28 08:26:00 · 47 answers · asked by calle trece 3

I am 31 year old marrier, mother of 3 children (1 is a step). After years of fighting with my Mother on many issues I have cut her off completely from myself and the kids. The problem is my daughter who is 14 lost her paternal grandmother (who was a wonderful woman) a few months ago and is needing that special grandma love. I cut my children off from her because I felt they needed protected from her ways of emotional abuse. Now my daughter has wrote a lettter to her and wants me to mail it that is basically stating she wants to have a relationship. What do I do?

2007-03-28 08:15:18 · 13 answers · asked by jcbc75 1

I have a good relationship with husband we've been togather for 12 years and married 9.We argued like any other couple till my mother (who is not sick just needs a place to stay for right now)moved in with us now we argue alot more mostly about her.Now she thinks I have a bad marriage and that we need counseling.I don't want to hurt her feelings and be like it's all your fault we are fighting if you did not live here we would not be fighting like this.I feel my relationship with my mother has already been damaged to a point that it's going to take alot to fix this fight might just make it unfixable.I've always had a great relationship with my mother till now and would like to one day have that again.What do you think I should do tell her the truth or just stay quiet till she moves out in a couple of months

2007-03-28 08:13:58 · 10 answers · asked by superwomen 3

I recently got married. Prior to our wedding we had now problem getting along with his mom. However a couple months before our wedding his brother and sister-in-law had a baby. This was his mom's first grandchild. Ever since the wedding, we are barely noticed in the family. His mom never calls us anymore, even when she says she will. When we are with the family you can no longer have an intellegent conversation with her because she is so preoccupied with the baby. I even think our s-i-l is starting to get annoyed because she can't hold her own kid when his mom is around. The kid is almost 9 months old. Do you think this is just a new grandma phase and she will eventually get over it or do you think we need to say something? She seriously is obsessed with this kid and it is making me feel like we need to have a kid just to get noticed.

2007-03-28 08:13:58 · 10 answers · asked by heathyre30 1

Last fall our parents were killed by a drunk driver, it has been hard and we're really trying to get through it. So far, we've been doing ok. We promised each other that we wouldn't ever drink and drive ever again no matter what, if it came to it we would call each other for a ride even at 2 in the morning and even though the other has to work in the morning. (She gets up really early.) Both of us have kept our promise until as of late. I was out with friends and had no intentions of drinking. After a couple rounds of darts and endless hazing of why I wasn't drinking, I caved to the peer pressure. I had two beers. Barely enough to have a slight buzz, well within legal limit. I drove home, the whole time I was feeling guilty, like as if my mom was going to yell at me for coming home too late. There was my sister Anna, sitting on the porch. Her friend saw me leave the bar. Now she won't speak to me. She doesn't even include me for dinner. It's been 3 weeeks. Now she wants to move out.

2007-03-28 08:13:54 · 4 answers · asked by Damian 2

I have a good relationship with husband we've been togather for 12 years and married 9.We argued like any other couple till my mother (who is not sick just needs a place to stay for right now)moved in with us now we argue alot more mostly about her.Now she thinks I have a bad marriage and that we need counseling.I don't want to hurt her feelings and be like it's all your fault we are fighting if you did not live here we would not be fighting like this.I feel my relationship with my mother has already been damaged to a point that it's going to take alot to fix this fight might just make it unfixable.I've always had a great relationship with my mother till now and would like to one day have that again.What do you think I should do tell her the truth or just stay quit till she moves out in a couple of months

2007-03-28 08:11:40 · 6 answers · asked by superwomen 3

Anyone need advice? Email me. I'll try my very hardest to help.

2007-03-28 08:06:47 · 10 answers · asked by Alwayz Advice 1

Hi! I have 2 daughters 6 & 4 but I take care of my cousin's little girl, also 6 after school till 5:30 or 6 while she's at work. Well yesterday when my cousin came to pick up her daughter I went to my daughters room to tell the little girl that her mom was here, when I opened the door I couldn't believe my eyes. I saw my daughter on top of her, if you know what i mean.. I was so angry. I know that my cousin's daughter was the one who thought of this because she's done it before. I have 2 girls and never have I caught neither one doing these kinds of things but the times I have seen it, my cousins daughter is here. So it has happened a few times even though it's been a while since I've seen her do this. Well I told my cousin I wouldn't watch her daughter anymore. Do you think I was right on doing that? Besides that, she doesn't pay me. What would you do?

2007-03-28 08:03:56 · 16 answers · asked by Anonymous

im a singel mother on a very low income. im about to feet away from a homless selter im looking for an resooable appment for the two of us here in the saint loius area can anyone help us

2007-03-28 08:00:26 · 3 answers · asked by david m 1

does god made everything good? cause sometimes i wonder about such things, babies that born and they die after a while, down sindrom people that they die in few years. ('m talking in experience, cause my fiance brother is down sindrom, and is going to die in a few months he is still young) is this good? is this perfect?

2007-03-28 07:55:46 · 16 answers · asked by Anonymous

My cousin is a boy and im a girl hes 12 and im 10

2007-03-28 07:36:37 · 3 answers · asked by Chaz 1

He returned home after living in CA for a few months. At first he was grateful and kind. He had been living without running water, heat, real food, and sleeping on a car part . He dropped out of high school, wants to work doing something mostly illegal & has become very disrespectful. His room is filthy (food on the floor, dirty clothes, tabacco, etc.), he leaves and doesn't call or return for days, & he leaves everything he uses or takes out wherever he drops it. My kitchen is a mess, my house is a wreck. He punched a hole in a wall & his bedroom door while fighting with me & let me know it very easily could have been my face. He has contributed approx. $100/2 weeks but I am buying his food, clothes. He has used my money to buy tobacco and booze behind my back. He promises he's changing. I don't want to throw him out. I want to resolve things. BTW, I am handicapped and mostly wheelchair bound. My bone marrow has gone bad. My time is limited. I need a solution, please.

2007-03-28 07:35:42 · 19 answers · asked by Anonymous

I had an altercation with my husbands family back in February over something that happened at my son's birthday party. We discussed it and I thought we had moved on. We ended up going to visit his family early this month and we all hung out, went to the beach, and had a great time.

About a week ago, his cousin emails me and sends me a salty message and also deleted me from being her friend on 'myspace'. I could care less about her deleting me because myspace is like whatever. But my question is, how do I handle being around his cousin or family the next time he decides he wants to go visit? Should I not go? Or should I just ignore her?
please help....

2007-03-28 07:26:48 · 12 answers · asked by Jacinda 2

When I was little my dad beat me up he would hit me all the time now I have flash backs of him hitting me and they come at werid times like this one time in class I had a flash back of my dad beating me with his belt and I started crying and ran out of the room I really need help because they are coming back to me more and more offen do I need pills or something or have I not forgave my dad for what he did anyone that can help please do

2007-03-28 07:22:48 · 14 answers · asked by So... Kiss Me! 3

actually its my grandparents. i have lived with them my whole life and they are practically my parents. i am 18 years old, and i have been accepted to college, and i take care of myself, but my grandparents still treat me like a kid. i told my grandmother that i wanted to go to a show tomorow night at a club called blue cats here in tn and when they found out it was a club they freaked an said i shouldnt be there, that it was nota place for a "christian girl" to be. and that it is in a bad area of town and all this. i am supposed to go with a bunch of friends most of which are guys, and its not like it would be dangerous. i dont know what to do to change their mind, or convince them to let me go and grow up. what should i do? then they get mad when i do what i want. its not illegal, so why cant i do it?

2007-03-28 07:20:31 · 5 answers · asked by **ChArOlEnO** 2

i am from ireland but he is from scotland so i dont know where or how to start. he could be living in either country.

2007-03-28 07:16:16 · 1 answers · asked by Anonymous

My husband and I are young and we have 2 young children ( 4 & 2 ) We got married a year ago and moved to a new state around the same time so I've been rather isolated since then ( so I have no friends here to help ). My daughter who is 4 has just been killin me over the last year. She never listens anymore she draws on everything and she breaks everything even her own stuff. I take away her stuff but then she destroys are stuff. Then my husband he doesn't deal with it well so now I find myself yelling all the time and we never have any fun anymore. I kinda resent my husband for not helping me because between the breaking of stuff and people leaving there things everywhere and no one picking up after themselves all I ever feel I'm doing is getting mad at the kids and cleaning. I want them to have fun and enjoy life but as time goes on its just getting worse. I love my family so much but im at the point where I don't know how much more I can take of this fighting.

2007-03-28 07:14:13 · 11 answers · asked by Krista 1

not holllering , just being a little to smart for me to handle.

HELP

2007-03-28 07:02:58 · 8 answers · asked by thinking4aminute 1

will u allow it or dump them both?

2007-03-28 07:01:23 · 9 answers · asked by Anonymous

2007-03-28 06:59:57 · 4 answers · asked by Anonymous

I have often wonder if my husband's child is truly his. He has had doubt as well but, say he can not have a dna test done because if he is not his son then he will not be able to have anything to do with him and he doesn't won't to see him hurt. My husband has blue eyes, and my stepson's mother has blue eyes but, my stepson's eyes are brown, I just often wonder. I love him and take care of him as my own, he even has fought the courts to live with us full time because he does not care to live with his mom. Should I let it go and just enjoy everyday regardless, as long as it does not bother my husbad?

2007-03-28 06:58:08 · 24 answers · asked by true2b 1

2007-03-28 06:48:08 · 66 answers · asked by Anonymous

2007-03-28 06:43:14 · 5 answers · asked by Anonymous

as an adoptee... im almost 18 and i can look 4 my mother with out my parent permission but how they feel? am i wrong for doing this. please be honest....

2007-03-28 06:29:38 · 21 answers · asked by tee 1

I am scared because my mom is a control freak everything has to go her way she continues to treat me like a child and thinks she can talk to me any way she feels and belittle me when people are around. I have way too much respect to talk back are raise my voice so am not sure how to tell her i what to move out ASAP.....................

2007-03-28 06:29:38 · 23 answers · asked by Luvibabe 1

are american parents failling to parent enough?
how can we improve?
please answer both questions

2007-03-28 06:24:55 · 5 answers · asked by Ivette J 1

My brother (age 44) has had a miserable marriage for years and is now in the middle of a divorce. He and his young son moved in with my mom. Every time I call there, he's "sick and asleep". He sleeps and sleeps and sleeps in a dark bedroom, stumbles to the kitchen to eat whatever he can grab, then falls back into his bed for hours and hours. He holds down a job with crazy hours, so he uses his job as his excuse to be sleeping ALL THE TIME. It's like he crawls out of bed, goes to work, and crawls back to bed.

If anyone tries to talk to him, he gets basically hysterical- he'll literally cry out of control, yell, and run to his room "sick" again, saying to leave him alone, because talking to him is "adding more stress" and he can't take it.

He refuses to see a doctor, yet says he's been "throwing up" for days. He refuses to seek counseling (he doesn't need it he says) and refuses to even come out of his room to be a parent to his child.

How can the family intervene?

2007-03-28 06:24:30 · 8 answers · asked by Sabine É 6

21 yrs ago my husbands parents deeded us a 2 acre lot for our home. the lot is now developed and landscaped. we just bought a new house 5 mths ago. they are asking for the lot back. We intended on leaving this land to our our daughter. would you give the land back ?

2007-03-28 06:23:38 · 4 answers · asked by marknrhonda29520 1

My 60 year Mother and 82 Grandmother are broke.They are currently in a budget hotel. and my OCPD (refuses treat)brother who left them high and dry and in a Hotel for 6 months everyday telling them he was organizing a house for them when he was in S of France living high life with Russian model. I tell them that they could go into temp council acc or use £12,000 I gave them to rent for 6 months and stay off my back i could actually help them in about 6 monthsThey spent all £$ from house sale(£230,000) on 5 years of rentals,3-5 * hotels.. I borrowed some cash but paid it back even though Grand likes to invent and tell everyone she lent me times 3 what she did. I found so many decent apps for them 4 years ago when there was still $£. Mother only wanted luxury and Grandmother (she had mental illness in past) threatened suicide when i suggested a warden assisted flat. IT GOES ON AND ON. I had a nervous breakdown before Dec and love my wife and kids and cannot risk it again.

2007-03-28 06:14:05 · 5 answers · asked by Anonymous

Okay, it seems that my 17 year old(will be 18 next month) has gotten back into a relationship with a boy that we forbid her to see. We found out after her grades droped to d's and f's. This kid has been kicked out of school for smoking pot twice, has disrespected my husband, and I on many occassions with his smart mouth. My daughter left home, and a teacher called us to let us know that she's moved in with this boy, and his family. My husband gently packed up the rest of her stuff, and since my daughter won't take our calls, a friend came got her things. We now have her mustang up for sell. This school teacher wants us to have a sit down with this boy, and his parents to try, and work through this. In my opinion we don't owe these people anything. They have no respect, or regard for us a parents, or they wouldn't aide my daughter in defying her parents. This boy will get off the dope, and then he's back again. Now, we found out he quit school...

2007-03-28 06:11:55 · 17 answers · asked by ks 5