actually its my grandparents. i have lived with them my whole life and they are practically my parents. i am 18 years old, and i have been accepted to college, and i take care of myself, but my grandparents still treat me like a kid. i told my grandmother that i wanted to go to a show tomorow night at a club called blue cats here in tn and when they found out it was a club they freaked an said i shouldnt be there, that it was nota place for a "christian girl" to be. and that it is in a bad area of town and all this. i am supposed to go with a bunch of friends most of which are guys, and its not like it would be dangerous. i dont know what to do to change their mind, or convince them to let me go and grow up. what should i do? then they get mad when i do what i want. its not illegal, so why cant i do it?
2007-03-28 07:20:31 · 5 answers · asked by **ChArOlEnO** 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
If after living with your Grandparents you can say, that you are going to college and from your question a good christian girl, that is saying a lot!
Im sure it was never in their minds that instead of leisure retirement they would raise their granddaughter and worry about her. They have done so much for you and you sound like someone thats on their way to becoming a very successful woman. You are so close to high school graduation (thats a wonderful achievement as well, could you have done that without them?) just hang in there.
You said youre going to college? So you are headed to many many nights at clubs. Just do the right thing and wait your time out at home. Its natural for you to want to go to clubs but please think about all your grandparents have done for you and make them proud of you the last few months you'll be living at home. They deserve the right to brag about their wonderful granddaughter. Give them just a few more months of things to brag about you for. You'll be fine. I bet other grandparents are jealous of yours for having you~!! =) It feels so good to be the parent of someone so wonderful. Yeah, thats you. =)
You are sure loved.
2007-03-28 09:30:20 · answer #1 · answered by Peg 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
They only seem strict because nobody wants to be told what to do(even if it IS the right thing).
Use GOOD judgement, TELL them what you are doing, tell them you will be OK.
Repeat:use GOOD judgement in what kind of friends you hang out with...finally, if you are going to school, don't waste time if you are just looking to hook-up, party. FAR too many just take a few classes...I quit...too tough...
2007-03-28 14:33:06 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
your going to have to remember they are old, and that they are from a diffrent time period, so they are always going to treat you this way. your 18 your about to move on your own, just tuff it out. dont hurt the old people.
2007-03-28 14:36:50 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
While you live with them.. you kinda have to live by their rules and beliefs..
If you wanna show them you are "Grown up"... move out on your own and do just that. Once you are on your own, and prove to them that you are "normal".. they will ease up as they will feel they raised you with good morals.
Good luck.
2007-03-28 14:31:40 · answer #4 · answered by izzzy12k 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Try explaining that you are an adult, you have been taught right from wrong, and that they should trust you. Besides, aren't the values you have from them?
2007-03-28 14:37:06 · answer #5 · answered by franksr57 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋