How do i tell my parents i want to move out.?

Question

I am scared because my mom is a control freak everything has to go her way she continues to treat me like a child and thinks she can talk to me any way she feels and belittle me when people are around. I have way too much respect to talk back are raise my voice so am not sure how to tell her i what to move out ASAP.....................

Answer 1

As long as your old enough to move out,you shouldn't have to explain.

Answer 2

Oh my, I totally feel you on this! I'm currently going through a similar thing. What I'm trying to do is get an apartment with some friends. Maybe if you tried to do something like that it would go over a little better. I already have a job lined up to be able to pay for it, and you would definitely want to make sure you are able to afford renting somewhere. My parents don't want me to move out because they think the job I got doesn't pay enough and I won't be able to save money, but I know it will cover the rent. You just have to show your mom that you have everything all worked out and it will be fine. I know she will still worry and freak out, though, like my parents but she will feel a bit better about you not being alone and able to afford it.

Answer 3

If you are over the age of 18 and paying for all of your own bills - just tell her and move out. Anyone 18 or older should be on their own anyway. JUST remember, if you move out - do NOT expect her to help you pay for any bills (including school loans and the like)...be prepared to take care of all of that yourself. If you end up not being able to do so, you may just have to go back with your tail between your legs..if she'll have you back. I am guessing you ARE responsible and independent though or her controling nature would not bother you. So just tell her you're an adult - and go find an apartment and go. If you are not financially able to do so - you really have to put up with her - you are under her roof - and like it or not - her way or the highway. That is only fair.

Answer 4

Luvibabe:
Strange that you have respect for her, coz she appears to have NONE for you. If you are 18 years old & live in the Unite States, you are a legal adult & can move out if you like. You don't have to "sass back" at her or even start a fight; as a matter of fact, you don't even have to raise your voice. If she does all the screaming, yelling & cussing when you let her know, they it will just prove even more as to who the REAL mature adult in the conversation is: YOU! Alot of mom's have a very hard time letting thier kids go, but your mom has no right to belittle you & treat you like that. Tell her flat out, in a confident, calm tone, that you are moving out. Let her know how she hurts your feelings when she talks at you like that. If you can keep your cool the whole conversation, she'll see she's not getting to you & possibly calm down herself. In the end, she can scream & fuss all she wants, but if you are a legal adult, she can do ABSOLUTELY nothing. She may threaten you till smoke comes out her ears, but again, she can do SQUAT. If she physically attacks you, thats when you calmly call the police for an escort out of the house. Keep your cool the whole time & she'll have no one to blame but herself in the end. I know it's going to be tough & terribly scarry, but you can do it! Be brave & have some friends waiting outside for you for support should you need it. Make sure they remain cool, too. Last thing you need is a fight breaking out. BEST OF LUCK!!!

Answer 5

If you are of legal age to do so, then just tell her you're ready to get out on your own and finish growing up...thank her (and your father, if appropriate) for providing you with a home to grow up in and caring for you all these years and let them know you'll still be in touch and visit (if you'll be living locally).

Make it a growth experience (which it will be) and not that you're moving out because Mom's on your last nerve. She may or may not like it, but if you are at least 18, she cannot stop you...just be prepared to take care of everything yourself as you may not get any help from home for a while (if the move upsets her quite a lot).

Answer 6

Just sit them down and say "Well, I want to thank you for letting me stay here, but the thing is, I feel I need to break out on my own now. I have two options, I can stay here, but I would insist that I pay rent, or I can move out and find my own place. I wouldn't want to make things awkward for you by making you accept my money, so I've decided to move out. I found a really nice place, and I'd like you to come see it before I move in next month/next week/three months from now/whenever. I'll be fine for money, because I have $X saved, and I get $X money from my job. I will come and visit often, but I feel I need to grow up and face the world by myself as an adult would."

If you're not over 18 yet or if you're not self-sufficient, then this will not work. Make sure you can take care of yourself before you move out, because it would suck if you lived by yourself for a while and then had to move back in because you can't make rent.

EDIT: Also, it helps if you know WHEN you're going to move out. Setting a deadline is good for you and for her, because it gives you a chance to plan and gives her time to get used to the idea that you're actually doing this. If you say "I want to move out" and then don't set a date, you'll have trouble getting out.

Answer 7

You never mentioned your age or financial circumstances. If you're out of school and the folks are no longer supporting you, you are entitled to be as independent as you want to be. But none of this "move in with the boyfriend" and if it doesn't work out, go back home. No...you have to be totally self sufficient and since you didn't mention that, I'm suspecting that you are not at this point in time. Work on that...then you can fly. Godloveya.

Answer 8

I would make sure that I had a job so that I could afford to move out on my own. If you have this and are financially stable, I would do this. Look mom, I think its time I move out, I am an adult now. I need to experience life in the real world on my own. Let me experience life for myself. I can never thank you enough for being there and guiding me properly while I was growing up. Now its my turn, I am grown up enough, let me succeed on my own.

Answer 9

You need to be at least 18 have a job/money and then just tell your mom you will be moving with in the week or what ever. If you do expect conflict or temper tantrums move all your stuff before hand.

Good luck :)

Answer 10

You didn't tell us how old you are, this might help us in answering the question. If you are old enough, then just sit down and tell her. She might tell you it's a bad idea or that you aren't responsible enough.. Whatever, it's your ultimate decision (assuming you are old enough). You don't have to raise your voice or talk back to her or anything.. Just calmly say, Mom, i'm moving out. If she tries to talk you out of it.. just say to her, i'm sorry, i've made my decision. Thanks for your advice but we disagree on this one. You have to stick to what you believe in. That's not being disrespectful to your mom, it's being who you are and doing what you believe in.
Good luck!

Answer 11

perhaps you could ask your mother if you and she can sit down and talk. ask her to please LISTEN to you and not talk until you are done.

tell her you feel belittled and hurt... tell her you respect her and want her to respect YOU too.

sometimes people who act like your mother have their own problems and don't realize how awful they act! maybe she needs to hear how YOU feel when she is mean and says unkind things.

i don't want to see you have to move out before you tell her your feelings....

where would you move?

i hope you can try to talk with your Mom first.. maybe she really NEEDS your support, but doesn't know any other way to act?

i wish you all the best