not holllering , just being a little to smart for me to handle.
HELP
2007-03-28 07:02:58 · 8 answers · asked by thinking4aminute 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
Just start the 6 year count down... Just kidding. Your son is 12 and he's going to test you. Make sure you're consistent with rules and remember you love him. I had a shrink at work (school) give some good advice. He said not to engage them in arguments. Just tell them what the punishment is for misbehavior and then let it go. If they keep pushing you, tell them "smart kids always figure it out." This worked on my sons. They learned their lesson and my blood pressure didn't spike because of a heated argument. Good luck.
2007-03-28 07:18:09 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
It is hard to give specific advice without a specific example.
If he is smarting off at you just out of the blue you have a big problem and you and him may need to sit down and set some boundaries of how you will demand he treats you.
If he is smarting off when you tell him to do something (go to bed, do homework, chores, etc.) then you need to use a consequences based approach. Let him know that he is making a choice to smart off and disobey you and there are consequences to his behavior. Later on when he asks for something you deny him of it and remind him of his choices. You could do it that way or actually tell him what he is potentially going to miss out on or have taken away.
Remain calm and stick to it.
Good luck.
2007-03-28 14:15:56 · answer #2 · answered by redflite 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I so know how you feel. I have a daughter turning 13, for the last year i have not been able to do anything right in her eyes. She is contently being a smart mouth with me. I talked to her doctor and unfortunately for us he told me it is just hormones, part of growing up, and that she is just trying to express herself but shes not sure how because of all the changes she is going through. I know in my heart it will get better, I just have to wait. Just hang in there, he will once again be your "nice" little guy again.
2007-03-28 14:17:37 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Their at that age where they're challenging you who is the boss. Let him know you don't appreciate it and it's disrepectable - put him on punishment from the very things he enjoy, well of course he might rebell a little but stand your ground. Most of all pray because the generation is changing and they need tough love.
2007-03-28 14:11:55 · answer #4 · answered by Rose 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Doesn't sound like your child knows who has the upper hand. I rarely have to resort to spanking or punishing my child because I have instilled fear in him. He knows there are consequences for his actions and he think twice.
However, that's years hard of work. So I suggest you start by punishing him. Take away that one thing he can't live without. Stick to it and I bet your problem will be solved.
2007-03-28 14:11:25 · answer #5 · answered by Truth Hurts 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Sorry to say BUT I believe that is part of the growing up stage for all kids. My stepson has been doing that for the past few years and he is now 14.Just let him know where you stand on his attitude toward you and the way he is spouting off toward you.
2007-03-28 14:11:25 · answer #6 · answered by dreamer357d 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Tell him, "Hey boy, I tried that with my parents and know what they did? They smacked me down and showed me who's the boss and I'm following in my parent's footstep on this one."
Then do it.
2007-03-28 14:10:10 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
Nip it now, one good swift backhand and you won't have anymore problems.
2007-04-01 08:28:04 · answer #8 · answered by Bethy4 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋