My sister is really mad at me, we've fought before, but this time it is serious, will it ever be better?

Question

Last fall our parents were killed by a drunk driver, it has been hard and we're really trying to get through it. So far, we've been doing ok. We promised each other that we wouldn't ever drink and drive ever again no matter what, if it came to it we would call each other for a ride even at 2 in the morning and even though the other has to work in the morning. (She gets up really early.) Both of us have kept our promise until as of late. I was out with friends and had no intentions of drinking. After a couple rounds of darts and endless hazing of why I wasn't drinking, I caved to the peer pressure. I had two beers. Barely enough to have a slight buzz, well within legal limit. I drove home, the whole time I was feeling guilty, like as if my mom was going to yell at me for coming home too late. There was my sister Anna, sitting on the porch. Her friend saw me leave the bar. Now she won't speak to me. She doesn't even include me for dinner. It's been 3 weeeks. Now she wants to move out.

Answer 1

I am sorry that your parents were killed by a drunk driver. It most have totally ripped apart your life. It effected you both so much that you promised each other that neither one of you would ever drink and drive. And then, the promise was broken. It doesn't matter that it was only 2 beers. The promise was broken and that is what hurt your sister.

We always want to justify our actions. Here is how I would handle this. I would tell my sister that I had wronged the following: "I am sorry that I broke my promise to you. I was wrong. I have no excuse. Will you please forgive me?"

Quit justifying what you did. She is scared to death to lose probably the last person in her family? to alcohol.

Also - ask yourself - was the 2 beers worth it? A promise was broken. No excuses or justification made breaking the promise okay.

Answer 2

well like you siad its been really hard she can't get over it and you broke the promise you can't just do that in the condition that shes in cause thats killing her inside she might be really fustraded try talking to her tell her you know how hard it has to be for her tell her you got carried away and everyone was pressuring you to do it you got a loooooonggg way to go if its been 3 weeks but try to make her feel better be open with her and let her be open to you try to make her feel comfterble talking to you show her how u feel about what you did and that your truly sorry ♥ good luck hope i could help

Answer 3

talk to her about tell her that your sorry and you a ruff night just thinking about yours parents and tell her not to move out cause you love her and you do want anything to happen to her.... my brother is 18 and he comes home almost every night high and i toulk to him and said that if dosn't stop i will never talk to him hang out with i wont even be his sister any more now he has stoped and all i did was talk to him. so realy just talk it out with her.
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Answer 4

YOU REALLY MESS UP!
Why did you do that?It was a really big mistake!!!!~

The only thing that you can do it's tell her sorry.