Family - January 2007

My kids are still young.. and I want them to be close, but I am not close with my brother (he is 30 and still thinks he is 'cool' as he parties alot). So I can't teach my kids how to be close to a sibling by example.

With my mom and other family, I don't have much to do with them as the relationships are very unhealthy and based on religion and controlling each other. They try to save me from my sinful ways constantly... and so I am not showing my kids by example how to be close as a family.

We are a close knit group now but they are young. I am breaking the cycle of dysfunction with my generation... by not being close with my own family...

How do I encourage my kids to remain close to each other and me... I know I can't make them, but can I do anything to help that along

2007-01-06 15:07:52 · 9 answers · asked by Anonymous

help. It hurts so very bad. I keep finding myself wanting to call him forgetting that he is no longer until I see him in heaven. He was only 47 and died after 5 heart attacks. I was really close to him and I miss him something terible. I need him to be here with his family. but he was always in pain mentaly so I am happy that he is in a better place. I just really hurt.

2007-01-06 15:03:36 · 24 answers · asked by Anonymous

How to deal with a mother in law that will not apolize for negative behavior?
6 plus years on going i have forgive her repeatedly and refuse this time...She recently told her son my Husband its me or her and he left and we havent spoke yet! 1-month... What do we do (we have 2-girls) and she favors her other Grandchildern-over my children becouse they are mine and she dont like me!!! Please only serious replys..... Thanks
( he left meaning he in other words told her to kiss it) he left he house...

2007-01-06 15:02:40 · 4 answers · asked by Sunshine(s) 2

Ok, she and her friend were talking about stuff in my room while i was at piano practice. When practive was over, i asked them to get out of my room so i could finish my history project, so they left the room and talked in the living room. I go to my computer, get rid of the screensaver, and see this "americansingles.com" thing, and so I'm starting to get some thoughts, so I play around a bit, being the tech wiz I am. The screen is on this thing called like a "hot list" or something and it has a bunch of guys on it that my mom apparently has added to it, and so I read some of their profiles, and then I get this thought: Why didn't my mom tell me about this? I go to her profile page and see that she has been a member for this thing for 2 months now...and I'm shocked. What should I do? I'm happy and fearful for her at the same time. I'm 12, gonna turn 13 in April, and I'm a girl. My parents are divorced, and my dad almost never sees me anymore, so its like I just have my mom....HELP!!

2007-01-06 15:01:52 · 20 answers · asked by ok_go_kid 3

6 plus years on going i have forgive her repeatedly and refuse this time...She recently told her son my Husband its me or her and he left and we havent spoke yet! 1-month... What do we do (we have 2-girls) and she favors her other Grandchildern-over my children becouse they are mine and she dont like me!!! Please only serious replys..... Thanks

2007-01-06 14:53:41 · 8 answers · asked by Sunshine(s) 2

Theres this girl who tried to hit on my boyfriend and is now my ex-friend. I took my sister to this party on new years and this girl was there. I told her not to talk to this girl because she really hurt me. I dont know if my sister was that drunk but they became friends that night although i told her not to go near her. Im really hurt its like she chose friends over family :(

2007-01-06 14:40:33 · 5 answers · asked by tu_sweet189 3

My mom, towards everyone else, is "likable" I geuss you would say, but I hate her. I know "hate" is a strong word, but I mean it in every sense. She mentally/verbally abuses me CONSTANTLY, and physically abuses me on "bad days". She says she yells at me because I have an attitude, when only I'm trying to stick up for myself, I'm an independant person. She tells me that I have no respect what-so-ever and that I only care for myself. I don't have any respect for her because she's braught me to a point where I can't even stand to see her. She somehow turns everybody agaisnt me in this house, except my brother John. Now my brothers are a differant story, they have done a lot of bad things in their life, and regret it. I on the other hand have never ever put one finger out of line, and for putting my eyeliner on how I want to, I got to be pinned against the wall before school. Oh and today, she challanged me to a fight, because she owed me money when I wanted to rent movies. Help

2007-01-06 14:29:45 · 47 answers · asked by Anonymous

what are the hot 2007 new hair and clothes and colors?!

2007-01-06 14:29:01 · 2 answers · asked by sweetheart--xo 2

2007-01-06 14:26:57 · 21 answers · asked by Jesus Christ 1

She knows she behaves nasty and is always stirring things up for the worst, other people have said so also.She even listens in on other people's conversations and asks them to repeat what they have said to them as she couldn't hear it and then she undermines them with her own reply.I've a good mind to tell her what I think of her and be damned with the consequences - what goes around comes around!!

2007-01-06 14:16:47 · 10 answers · asked by vuvuzela 5

I did it in half, is that worth the hassle?

2007-01-06 14:13:18 · 3 answers · asked by Skeeter 5

My birthday is coming up soon. I want to have a slumber party with one or two people, but my mom wants me to invite people whom I don't want to invite. And I'm scared that if I tell my mom, she won't understand. What do I do?

2007-01-06 14:12:25 · 4 answers · asked by Jeannie 1

2007-01-06 14:11:45 · 12 answers · asked by sl2001 1

I hate my family. For instance my mom is self centered and cares about herself, every mothers day I buy her a mothers day card, she yelled at me for not giving her a best gift, she don't care about me. My dad always beat me up for not cleaning the dishes. My little brother is the pain in the a$$. He always takes my stuff, then I spanked him twice and he cries, so my mother has to spank me for no *****n reason. Everytime I went somewhere my mother and my father will yell at me infront of people and they said I was extra retarded also they say that I wish you die right now. I'm 13 and I hate my family and should I run away from my family.

2007-01-06 13:55:08 · 12 answers · asked by KENNY T 1

I am here in the states and don't want her to go. Her aunt is with her but does not want her to go either. what should we do.

2007-01-06 13:48:42 · 7 answers · asked by schmoopie 5

I hate her so much. She always is with my cousin. I see her to much. What do I do?!?

2007-01-06 13:43:04 · 11 answers · asked by maybetodaythesunwillshine2 2

Hi, my parents are getting older (early to mid 60's) and I am noticing their aging as having an impact on their memories.

I get frustrated a lot, even though I understand it was inevitable and it will happen to me as well. My Dad is the most intellectual person I know, and I also go to him for advice and to learn about new things. Now I'm noticing that he loses track of what he's talking about, ignores my questions, and sometimes I question what he states as a fact.

My Mom is losing her memory also as she forgets to do semi-important things sometimes and she has lost her drive to learn/try new things.

I'm in my late 20's (living at home) and find it's getting harder to maintain my own life (work, friends, hobbies, leisure) as I spend more and more time helping my parents with things I know they can do, they just won't.

Please don't think I'm spoiled or ungrateful, I do a lot of house work myself, paying for groceries, cooking, cleaning, keeping the house in order.

2007-01-06 13:38:26 · 11 answers · asked by yeeehaaa ! 2

My parents are having alittle finicial problems, were not poor (in fact this is my brand new laptop)but everybody has their problems.

My dad just bought a new coat (expensive), a $1500 motorcycle, and he got a new credit card. Yet he expects us to not buy anything unless it is a nessicity.

I didnt get any new clothes for Christmas, exect 1 pair of jeans, because my dad didnt feel like buying anymore. I used the money that my Grandmom and Sister gave me to buy someclothes so i got 2 more pairs of jeans. I still didnt have any shirts to wear for back too school.So he has the idea to wake me up early in the morning and make me unload cable out of boxes for like 30 min. Also stomp boxes for another 15 min and load them in the truck for 15 min. For that he gave me $100.

I got a 2 hoodies and shirt with that and the rest of the money was spent on little things. Now i asked him for $15 and he says "no". I dont wanna ask my mom becuase she living just like us.watcanidoim 13

2007-01-06 13:32:03 · 12 answers · asked by Anonymous

I have a young son that I want a better life for but I am not sure if i should move or not. Goal is to go to law school so that limits the towns to choose from. Reasons not to stay where I am:
#1 Housing market is outrageous--cannot afford 3 bedroom apartment or to buy home
#2 Schools are failing--local elementary school has 32% passing for English
#3 The city is growing too fast and too big

I currently live in Salt lake City, Utah and want to move in two years but i don't want to make a mistake. I have moved many times and each time i lose more than half my stuff. Can't do that this time. Places I am looking into: Iowa City, IA -- Fayateville, AR -- Concord, NH -- Lincoln, NE . I would love to find a place where you can actually take your kids to the parks without having druggies lounging on top of the restrooms and needles on the swings. Do you have any ideas on a good place to raise a family and go to law school. I would love a smaller town or should I stay?

2007-01-06 13:30:13 · 10 answers · asked by operaphantom2003 4

Ok i am my moms oldest child i am 14 and she still treats me like i am 5. I have 1sister and 2brothers. She gives me no respect she does not belive anything i say and she wont let me do anything without her their.She still belives that i will turn out like her. O ya and she always clasifyes me under a teenager. Like i sad she had me when she was 17 and was a really bad kid. I always tell her i will not turn out like her. How can i get my mom to let me be more independen. O dont forget i do everything for her i am like her babysiter, maid, and cook. PLEASE HELP ME

2007-01-06 13:26:09 · 21 answers · asked by Anonymous

she's told me time and again she doesn't really like horses, bc they're stinky. and i've never asked her to be interested in them. but she reads all the horse magazines we get(we don't own any horses of our own yet), and tells me stuff she's read. how can i thank her for trying to understand my passion for them?

2007-01-06 13:18:21 · 4 answers · asked by kelleygaither2000 1

What us a Way to block parents out when they are yelling..not at me.. at eachother dont say just listen to music.. cause i still think about when im doing that.. so any help? =(..also. im 14

2007-01-06 13:04:04 · 20 answers · asked by Anonymous

My BF blames himself for everything. He also comes from a large family who treat him like the family scapegoat.
Guilty that all of his siblings are moving away and that he would like to do this as well but feels that he would be abandoning his parents. He feels that everyone else has left them and now he is going to be the ultra-bad guy for leaving if he goes. I am sure that they don't feel this way but he brings these thoughts on to himself. How do I help him get a clue that some of his other siblings should pick up the slack when the time comes to care for aging parents? If he is always around to pick up the slack, they will expect him to pick up the slack. How do I help him stop this self guilt maddness?

2007-01-06 12:56:16 · 4 answers · asked by DRNoraSarasin 3

I'm interested in finding out what people think this term means. Examples are okay....

2007-01-06 12:54:15 · 11 answers · asked by Brenda 6

I have always been the pretty one and my sister the smart one and it seems that my parents like her so much and do any thing she saids .. she acts nice and everything but when there not home she acts like a ***** she treats me so bad and i dont.. i likED her but iam starting to hate her so much i try to treat her nice but she dosent and i dont now what to do iam 16 should i live home?? i see that theres better without me i feel soo bad

2007-01-06 12:44:08 · 10 answers · asked by Anonymous

ok well here's the issue he's 20 years old and the mother is 16 who does not talk with any one, and claims to be depressed/she was cutting he self b4 she dated my brother now she is treatening to do it. yeah i know...well the issue is that the baby is being negected. he has a full body rash ,cradle cap, diaper rash,and is very very tiny. he is not awake for more than 5 min at a time- not very alert either when he is.the girl does not bathe him ,wash his bottle or his clothes.even with the lil' help given by her mom he is not adiquatly taken care of.my number 1 issue is the baby - i need to know what we can do. i have two kidz of my own.and i know she doesn't love jared (baby) but she wont give him up to us or ny brother either..???what do i do????
ok well as u figured out the age issue - he's going to court for that.but if he cops a plea how would that affect him??? in getting coustody or visitation.did i mention that she wont let him see the baby. and he's supporting her and the baby

2007-01-06 12:42:57 · 5 answers · asked by heavenyvette 1

Okay, this is the problem. My girlfriend and I have been going out for a year and two months. Recently, my brother got a new girlfriend. She is one of those fake preppy hahaha laugh all the damn time girls. She totally manipulates him and my parents. Me and my girlfriend hate her. That's not the only reason. My parents barely know her and they have said more to her than they have ever said to my girlfriend and we have been going out for a whole lot longer. Also, my father works so he doesn't see her much. But my mom does everyday at lunch. She is always too busy watching her damn soap operas to actually show interest. On new years, my dad walks in the house and practally screams out her name in joy greeting her. But when he came to my room he acted like damn she is here when he saw my girlfriend.
Alright now the story is done. I want her out of here. Give me some ways to get rid of her without getting caught.

2007-01-06 12:40:48 · 12 answers · asked by Jeremy 1

for about 2 yrs now my calf muscle in my right leg keeps twitching, fluttering or beating constantly its always one of the 3, what could this be?

2007-01-06 12:32:04 · 19 answers · asked by Anonymous

yeah i need some help finding is guess you would call it "finacial help"

ok.. my papa was in the hospital for a couple weeks with COLON CANCER and he has had kemothearpy treatments for i think the last month.. and well my grandparents got the bill and it was ALOT ($5000) and my mama wanted me to get on here to find some website to go to.. look for i guess help to pay for it. so if anyone knows where i could go.. COULD YOU PLEASE LET ME KNOW!!! ASAP!!!

2007-01-06 12:23:39 · 5 answers · asked by ♥Angel Lynn 2

I love my brother very much. He is getting old now and I know that he really has a desire to get married. He has been trying for a lot of years to find a good woman but he just hasn't had any luck.
Just yesterday he came to my house and got down on one knee and asked me to marry him. I told him that I would think about it even though I am very flattered. He is my full brother because we share the same mother and father. My mom is thrilled about the possibility of us getting married and having many babies together but I just don't know. What will the neighbors think? Should I marry my brother?

2007-01-06 12:22:19 · 23 answers · asked by mamabag06 2