help. It hurts so very bad. I keep finding myself wanting to call him forgetting that he is no longer until I see him in heaven. He was only 47 and died after 5 heart attacks. I was really close to him and I miss him something terible. I need him to be here with his family. but he was always in pain mentaly so I am happy that he is in a better place. I just really hurt.
2007-01-06 15:03:36 · 24 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
You just carry on. In time it will hurt less and in more time you smile at the fond memories when you think of him.
2007-01-06 15:06:52 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I completely understand, Black Pearl. I lost my Dad 4 years ago. My Dad was in a lot of distress the last two years of his life, and I, like you, was happy he was in a better place, but it still hurt SO BAD. I wasn't prepared for how bad it hurt. I thought I was ready to give him up for his sake health wise, but you never are ready to give up your Dad. The only thing that helped me was time. Well........... along with prayer and the support of my family. They were very understanding. Time was really the main thing, though. I still really miss my Dad, but I can talk about him now without crying every time, and I can share little stories of him with others and feel good instead of feeling the hurt. Time for awhile goes really slow when you're wanting healing, and it seems like the hurt won't ever go away, but it does. Just be sure to give yourself the kind of grieving you need. And while you're waiting for time to heal, keep reminding yourself that your Dad really is in a better place. Imagine him in that better place and what a great time he is having.
I'll say a prayer for you, because I really do know the hurt you are feeling. Hang in there, and keep your Dad's love in your heart always.
2007-01-06 15:40:12 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
when a family member dies there are alot of different stages of greif to go through. some members like your brothers feel they need to be strong right now for the others members who arent handleing it well and they are hurtting inside and it will surface in their time for it to. your dad, well its a man thing. try to be strong for your mom and the kids he probably cried alone in the garage or shower. and your mom crys more then you know about. when my sister and brother died and then my grandson and best friend i went through so many stages of greif that people thought i was going to lose it completely but i am surviveing and it is getting a little easier each day. oh dont forget alot of people after the crying ext go through a stage of anger. so just understand what others are going through if someone should snap at you or anything and also i would think a wk of schoo isnt to much to miss just get your assingments online if your school has that option or call the school and see if work assignments can be picked up. your gramma would want you to do well in school no matter what so dont fall behind ok. my heart goes out to you. lol diana
2016-05-23 01:42:14 · answer #3 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Remember the happy times. You'll find yourself getting misty-eyed, but your father doesn't want you to be in pain. You honor the memory of your lost loved ones by always enjoying what meant most to you about them. Sometimes you'll find your self smiling when you reflect on what a great person they were. It will be different later for you than it is now. Since you know he is in Heaven, you know his spirit is always with you, even though you can't see or touch him. He is always there and you can begin to feel that love from him when your emotions are less painful.
My gramma died in July and I was crying when driving to the funeral home to view the body. I felt a sensation like her kissing the top of my head (she used to do that all the time) and I stopped crying. I felt like that was her way of consoling me. You'll have times like that and it doesn't mean you're going crazy, it's just something to make you feel better.
2007-01-06 15:20:17 · answer #4 · answered by Charming Taurus 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My dad died when I was 17 and I found myself doing the same thing. It takes several monthes to realy get it that they are gone. There will be times when you will need to ask a question or need help and thats when it will realy flare up, but hang in there, it gets better. Just takes time then after a while only a few things (memories, songs ,places) will bring these fealings back. Try to stay busy with somthing you like to do.
2007-01-06 15:10:22 · answer #5 · answered by magforce323 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I'm so sorry for your loss. I lost my dad almost 14 years ago.....he was 54 and died of cancer. You are going through a horrible thing but you can make it. Try to remember the good times you had with your dad. Call a friend and share some of your good memories. Talk to someone and tell them how you feel. And pray for peace. He isn't sick anymore and he wouldn't want you to be sad. I still miss my dad, but it will get better with time.
2007-01-06 15:09:28 · answer #6 · answered by j'sbabygirl 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm extremely sorry for your loss. Crying helped me a lot when I lost my mother a couple of months ago, and I'm 16 years old. Even though i've lived with my grandmother since I was 4, it's still hard not having that mother/father figure in your life. Everyone cries, and I've found that listening to music has helped me. Even just doing something with my hands, such as building a model, or fixing something that's broke. I also lift weights, which helps me relieve a little bit of anger. Hope everything goes well, and I'm sorry again for your loss. God bless you.
2007-01-07 13:50:35 · answer #7 · answered by Matt H 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It is going to always hurt.It just hurts a little less as time goes by.I lost my dad years ago and I still wish that I could tell him things that happen. Knowing that you will never forget him and the things you guys did together will always be good memories is all you need.So stay strong and know that you missing him that bad only shows how much love you have for him.
2007-01-06 15:09:36 · answer #8 · answered by ksk_05 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I feel sad for you. I lost my Dad a couple of years ago and I still miss him. It gets easier,but I don't think it ever goes completely away. I think it is just something you have to go through. I never dreamed that I could miss anyone so much. People on here have given you good advice. Cry until you cannot cry anymore, grieve until you feel better.....I'll be thinking about you.
2007-01-06 15:12:36 · answer #9 · answered by cynical1963 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am really sorry about your loss; I can tell you are really hurting. You need some time to grieve, and that means letting yourself cry and be sad. It will help if you think about the things to be grateful for - that he is no longer in pain and is in a better place.
2007-01-06 15:08:03 · answer #10 · answered by Cris O 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well it just happened. You really need to cry and grieve his passing, his not being around any longer. That's something you can't just jump over, you need to go through it, and it will hurt a lot. Its better to experience the sadness and grief now than shutting yourself off and then suffer for years.
Give yourself time, its different for everyone how long, but definitey more than two days.
Condolences.
2007-01-06 15:07:37 · answer #11 · answered by sandwich 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋