Correction !!!! Crazy mother-in-law...?

Question

How to deal with a mother in law that will not apolize for negative behavior?
6 plus years on going i have forgive her repeatedly and refuse this time...She recently told her son my Husband its me or her and he left and we havent spoke yet! 1-month... What do we do (we have 2-girls) and she favors her other Grandchildern-over my children becouse they are mine and she dont like me!!! Please only serious replys..... Thanks
( he left meaning he in other words told her to kiss it) he left he house...

Answer 1

Your husband did the right thing by leaving her house.

She will not apologize if she hasn't already. She is who she is. If she is not going to admit that she was wrong, that should tell you that she doesn't respect you or her son. The only thing you can do if she is being negative around you two, is to ignore her. Otherwise, stay away from her. That's all you can do.

If you have your 2 girls around her when she shows this kind of behavior, what you are teaching your girls is that it's okay to act this way. But if you remove them from their grandmother when she acts like this, you are teaching them that this kind of behavior is not tolerated at all. (A good teaching)

If she's favoring her other grandchildren over your 2 girls, then again, that should show you that she is taking this out not only on you, but on your 2 girls by not including them. Your 2 girls don't deserve this treatment as well.

You shouldn't be around this woman if she doesn't respect you, period, unless she is willing to be a responsible adult and is willing to apologize to you and to your husband.

Remember this, don't let this bother you to where you can't be a wife to your husband and mother to your 2 girls. If it continues to bother you this way, you are not being fair to them. (smile)

Answer 2

well, he needs to grow up for one and stay with his wife and let go of hanging onto his mom...sure he loves her she is his mother but he is an adult and its time he starts acting like one. You can't be expected to deal with someone so negative especially in front of your children. Just stop and think of how this looks to them. Call your husband and tell him you need to have a serious talk with him and for him to grow up. Lay it out on the line for him and tell him that if he really wants to throw away six years and choose his mom over you then you have no choice but to file for divorce. There should not be any reason for any one to choose. He should respect you as his wife and stand up to his mother and state he don't appreciate disrespect towards you or your children. If he was any type of man he would do this. You deserve much better than this. I wish you all the luck on this one. I wish I could say more to you to help.

Answer 3

If you're saying he left your mom's house, then she told him to make a decision and he did. That's it. It's over. If she treats your children differently than she treats her other grandchildren, then I say you have a responsibility to protect your children from her.

I don't see that you need to "do" anything... except always be willing to mend fences. No matter what, this is your husband's mother. Always be gracious. Always be classy. Always behave in a way that reassures him he made the right decision.

Answer 4

ok. she's obviously being a ________ (insert bad word here). what's wrong with her? maybe she's competing for attention. it all depends if your husband's the oldest, the only son she's widowed and all that crap. and maybe she's jealous. one thing though... are you doing stuff that she doesn't like? what kind of negative behavior? the best thing to do is take her and ONLY her out to eat. wait you gotta get on the same page with your husband. i don't get it. did he leave you or his mom. if he left his mom you may actually win over jezebel. talk to her and get to the root cause. i gotta go good luck ;)