How to deal with a mother in law that will not apolize for negative behavior?

Question

6 plus years on going i have forgive her repeatedly and refuse this time...She recently told her son my Husband its me or her and he left and we havent spoke yet! 1-month... What do we do (we have 2-girls) and she favors her other Grandchildern-over my children becouse they are mine and she dont like me!!! Please only serious replys..... Thanks

Answer 1

I think that it is great that your husband stood up to you, what happend was your husband didnt let her interfere, I was in a similar situation and I suggest that you do give her the "cut off" at least until she apoligizes to you and your husband, but what she definantly needs to hear from your husband is that she is going to have to respect you because any disrespect to you is disrespect to him and that if she keeps rejecting you and your children that hes rejecting him as well and that if that is how shes going to be then to not expect any contact whatsoever from him or his family, My thoughts on the grandchildren issue, if shes that negative towards you and your children then thats a plus with the cut off because its better that your children not be around such an unhealthy enviroment where they are more likely to be hearing their mommy being called names while you are not around, its not uncommon, but right now is really not the best time for forgiving, she needs to be laid out and punished, shes clearly fighting for your husbands attention with you, and that in itself is eerie she needs to know her place, when you and your wed that his priorities changed, and that that didnt necessarily mean that shes forgotten, but it means that her needs are not his first concern, and that he needs to tell his mother that any problems she has with ya'lls marriage is HER problem and that she should not make it you or your husband's problem. Good luck

Answer 2

I think some mother in laws are like that i have one its really hard to please i know how that feels trust me you did the right thing that makes your husband realize that he needs you more with the kids and hes not a mamas boy he needs to stand up for his family not his mom thats messed up the wife and the kids come first your the foundation for your family good luck

Answer 3

sounds like your husband is a real "mama's boy" say good riddance to the both of them and hit him up for child support.
unfortunately, the old witch will get to see your girls but that should give you time to do things you have been wanting to do, while they are on visitation with the dad.

Answer 4

OK let me get this straight, he left you for his mother???
If so then your better off without him...I was engaged to a guy who was a mamas boy, i left him a couple of weeks before the wedding when he told me our home was being built next door to his mothers...Now its OK to love and care for mama, but to pick her over his family, which is you and your girls is total wrong. I would dump his assets...

Answer 5

Sorry to hear that, but in all honesty if your husband chose his bitchy mum over you and his kids then you are better off with out him. My boyfriends mum and me didn't see eye to eye, she was a rude cow, I just ignored her and didn't let it get to me, but in doing that it's hard because you want to be able to have a nice relationship with all involved. If i were you i would only call him in regards to child support, and if he wanted to come back, it would have to be on your terms. Good luck

Answer 6

Sounds to me that your husband is a mommas boy and he values her more than you. Secondly don't stay with him if he comes back just because you have kids togther because that is not fair to them.

Answer 7

She sounds like a rip!! Cut her out of your life. It will be her loss, not yours.

Answer 8

are you sure we*re not sister - n - laws ? my mil is the devil herself !! i just don*t have anything to do with her !