My kids are still young.. and I want them to be close, but I am not close with my brother (he is 30 and still thinks he is 'cool' as he parties alot). So I can't teach my kids how to be close to a sibling by example.
With my mom and other family, I don't have much to do with them as the relationships are very unhealthy and based on religion and controlling each other. They try to save me from my sinful ways constantly... and so I am not showing my kids by example how to be close as a family.
We are a close knit group now but they are young. I am breaking the cycle of dysfunction with my generation... by not being close with my own family...
How do I encourage my kids to remain close to each other and me... I know I can't make them, but can I do anything to help that along
2007-01-06 15:07:52 · 9 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
You can do things as a family and emphasize that family comes before friends or outside activities. You can MAKE your children get along, and make your home a happy place to be. If your children grow up in a happy home with lots of memories of doing simple, fun things together, then they will be always be close to you and to each other.
2007-01-06 15:11:17 · answer #1 · answered by Cris O 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm so sorry your don't have a good relationship with your family, HOWEVER, those are your kids, and they will learn from YOU!! I'm very lucky to be tight with my fam. I have 2 teen sons, and we are very close. But I really don't think that has whole lot to do with my family, it has to do with how I'm raising them. It's a very scary world, with drugs, drinking and the other 'demons' out there. I push the honesty issue. If they "experience" drugs,etc.., I urge them to talk to me about it. I told them, " I tried that stuff when your age", which is true. I never had a "problem". If they DO 'try' anything, I don't yell n scream, fly off the handle. The fact is, I've found that it takes the"thrill" out of it {somewhat} Another fact, if kids get into 'trouble' with substances, you DON'T want them to be afraid to tell you, to be alone. Just always be honest, nurturing and loving to your kids, and you'll always be tight with them, no matter what your fam is like! GOOD LUCK
2007-01-06 15:25:13 · answer #2 · answered by isis8x3 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just be loving and open with them, and learn from the negative example your family of origin provided you. I wasn't close with anyone in my family either, but I have three great kids and we are very close. I think the key is to be affectionate with them but not overbearing. What your kids want from you is what you wanted from your family, but didn't get: unconditional love and respect.
2007-01-06 15:13:59 · answer #3 · answered by rufus_rob 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just love them the best you can. I have a horrible relationship with my Mother and Sisters and I worried my entire life about the same thing... MY kids are close as can be and they are 13 years apart. Don't stress on it, Honey!
2007-01-06 15:10:32 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
i think of you're being too annoying on your self. because of the fact countless the parental bonding occurs with very youthful toddlers, that is totally almost impossible to get the comparable thoughts once you meet the little ones while they are older. only settle for it for what that's. you're a great stepmom, i will tell. this may well be a stable element to study and help others understand - exceptionally your pals whose new husbands can not bond with the little ones besides because of the fact the organic and organic mothers could like.
2016-12-16 03:49:29 · answer #5 · answered by nehls 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The best thing you can do for your kids is spend time with them, hug them, tell them you love them, do things with them, talk to them, etc... Do anything to get them all involved.
As they get older and one decides to ask you why you are not close to your brother, mother, or other family member, then that's a time to explain to them why.
The best thing to do is tell them the truth. But keep the past from them for now and enjoy your own children! (smile)
2007-01-06 15:53:39 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You sound like me but my kids are not close to eachother or me,i have all boys and they seemed to have gone there own ways,i know they love me an deachother but i wish you luck..i think it depneds on how they feel when they get older,soem just never stay close..goodluck eh..it hurts not having them close
2007-01-06 15:11:25 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
It is still up to them. Some siblings can't be close. It's due to their personality.
2007-01-07 03:01:20 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
yes. raise them to love, respect, and have their own space as well as togetherness.... you will be close if you have a happy home with lots of memories
2007-01-06 15:54:03 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋