Family - November 2006

When I moved out of my mother's house a few years ago, I went through a stage where I could be free to figure out who I am. I tried different things, liked some and hated others, some I was neutral on.

I have to move back into my mother's house due to financial problems (being broke).

And now they are driving me crazy trying to force me to be the person they want me to be, and not letting me just be myself.

My brother wants to compete with me with everything. If I bought a video game, he got 4. If I installed an inexpensive radio in my truck ($75), HE spent 2,000 dollars on a multimedia DVD, MP3 player, whatever. If I like a certain brand of beer, he has to go out and buy a more expensive brand and make sure I know it by leaving bottle caps and/or bottles out in plain sight.

If I mention that I went to an amusement park, he just HAD to say he went before me, ad nauseum.

Is he just immature or what- I really don't care if he has better than me- I get what I like.

2006-11-24 06:23:08 · 4 answers · asked by mageapprentice 3

My sister in law is very disgusting. She never washes. She always has the same dirty raggedy clothes on. She has mold and soot growing on the side of her face. All of her teeth are rotten and black and her breath is out of this world. The body odor that comes from her is enough to make you throw up everytime you smell her. Every time she comes to my house and sits on my couch, she leaves dookey stains on my furniture. My husband doesn't want to hurt her feelings. is there anything that I can say to get her wash her stankin butt??

2006-11-24 06:09:04 · 23 answers · asked by flushing06 2

And how do you deal with it? My parents grew up in a different country, different culture so I feel we have trouble relating with each other.

2006-11-24 06:03:12 · 5 answers · asked by poke 1

My father is touchingly looking after my ill mother
but even though this work is too much for one person ,he will not let anyone help him or
accetp any advice as to improving drinking or eating habits, even if a
nice dish is prepared.

2006-11-24 05:58:47 · 4 answers · asked by rgarlik 2

We know and understand the risk with Foster to Adopt, but with this little baby girl, it was looking good for a long time, then all of a sudden the Aunt has pressured a cousin to submit application for the baby. Cousin was reluctant and wouldn't return phone calls to SW at first. Baby has LOTS of issues, which cousin wasnt too happy about, cousin is about to be married and has just found out she has fertility issues, so now is isn't SO reluctant! Now they are awaiting homestudy and are coming in from out of town to see the baby! OF COURSE they will fall in love with her!! Just because she is BLOOD relative, she is best choice? She's been dragging her heels since September, but hey, now that she has finally agreed to homestudy, so what, they'll just be able to adopt her? Baby needs LOTS of support in years ahead, need to be committed %150! We ALL love her! Reality is we'll likely loose her, but it just doesn't seem fair that their motivation doesn't seem pure or focused on THIS BABY!!

2006-11-24 05:53:28 · 11 answers · asked by ♀♥☼ alycat☼♥♀ 3

My pregnant girlfriend is a recovering meth addict that is doing very well with her recovery.Every single adult in her immediate family are meth addicts. We don't like the thought of snitching but we tried everything else. We allowed her 19 yr old nephew and mother to move in because they were homeless under the terms that no drugs would be brought into our home.Despite our efforts we continuosly caught her nephew smoking ice in the basement and in the bathroom. He was meeting people down the street to buy and sell drugs. I tried talking to him about it but when that didn't work I slapped him a few times and put him out for the night. We would've just kicked him out for good but his disabled grandmother who was staying clean would have left too and became homeless and strung out again if we did so.I was worried at work and scared in my own home cuz I never knew what was in it. I didn't know what else to. We decided that turning him in would save his life. Are we wrong?

2006-11-24 05:45:43 · 9 answers · asked by Anonymous

I was asked to have the dinner in my home because I have the bigger home. I was OK with it. It made sence to me. I organized it so everyone had something to bring so I'm not having to do all the work. (You see my husban had a stroke 3 weeks ago and I'm having issues with my Lupus) I was hoping all I would have to do is make the ham and my canded yams set the table and be done with it. No His family told me that it was my job to do the dinner because I was having it in my home. I felt hurt because I have alot on my plate right now and for starters I was ASKED to have it here. To not be a brat I did it anyway. I need to find out if I did the right thing or should I have just told them no at last minute. How shoul dI feel and what sould I have done? Please Help?

2006-11-24 05:43:11 · 9 answers · asked by Christina Leah 2

My family (husband, I and kids) had to stay with my sister and her husband for 5 days. She said that we were welcome to stay but I found out later from her husband that she was furious and said a lot of ugly things. She didn't really speak for the first two days and avoided me. We ( my family) did not eat there, kept the house clean and only used water and electricity for bathes. We mainly stayed in our rooms.
I did not know she felt this way or I would not have ever stayed with her until our house was ready.
We were out in five days.
I bought her and her husband a $50 money order and a 40 gift card for dinner in a nice restaruant and a thank you card and told her how much we appreciated them and the use of their home. I explained that I knew it was a great inconvience and said that the $50 dollars was to help with the utilities for the 5 days we were there.
Do you think I did enough? I will never tell her that I know about what she said about us. I still hurt a little

2006-11-24 05:40:29 · 7 answers · asked by egg_sammash 5

Like what title would you give her? A cousin or something? Our family culture calls them 2nd cousins. Is that the term used in America too? Or is it something different?

2006-11-24 05:19:39 · 19 answers · asked by racingroadrunner 4

2006-11-24 05:14:40 · 8 answers · asked by Death 2

shes only 12 and doesnt have any money to support the baby! she asked me for the money because our parents dont even know shes pregnant. I dont know because its her chose and i think my parents should get involved. what should i do?? Should she have the abortion??
she doesnt want to adopt because she cant standing giving her baby up!

2006-11-24 05:14:07 · 26 answers · asked by Anonymous

She & He have going together for 2 years and every holiday has been spent with his family. I asked him " How's your mom? I hear she's having a lot of company including the grandchildren today". He kind of gave me a dirty look and took awhile to answer. "Fine", he said. I'm wondering if I touched upon something "sensitive" with him. I want any holidays to turn out well if they spend it with us. Do you think I asked the wrong question?

2006-11-24 05:01:35 · 13 answers · asked by hillaryc59bc 4

Ju$TiCE.............With the Dollar Sign......hes 3 months...

2006-11-24 04:50:30 · 17 answers · asked by Anonymous

he loves the boys, and is great and never yells. But they really annoy him! I'm expecting him to fit right into that "dad position" etc... etc....
he doesn't even take me out anymore!!

2006-11-24 04:43:22 · 8 answers · asked by Dolphinmarine 2

Okay I love living with my mom and everything but I just visited utah and I love it here and I love livin gwith my dad. I kinda want to live with my dad more than my mom because I always get more excitment with my dad than with my mom. And my sister turned to my dad and im scared my mom will get lonely. But she also has that guy that lives with me. But i really want to live with my dad but i dont want to hurt my mom. What do I do? Do i live with my dad? Do I stay with my mom?

2006-11-24 04:38:40 · 8 answers · asked by Anonymous

2006-11-24 04:17:13 · 11 answers · asked by idwill 1

my parents wont let me have a myspace and ive told them sooo many times that i wouldnt share any private information and set it to private and not accept friend requests from ppl i dont know!! i really want a myspace because my boyfriend and all my friends have one!! how can i gain their trust so they'll let me have one?

2006-11-24 04:13:47 · 10 answers · asked by Anonymous

He is in the sixth grade and is interested in the drums, reading, band, and most other things that boys his age like.

2006-11-24 04:09:01 · 5 answers · asked by Anonymous

My mother was adopted from Germany in 1950 by a South African couple. All she has left is her original birth certificate and her mother's name. How do we go about tracking down her biological mother and siblings?

2006-11-24 04:06:30 · 7 answers · asked by Paula879 2

Im trying to find out the year my house was built. It may be Victorian, is there anywhere on the web I can look?

2006-11-24 04:02:29 · 12 answers · asked by Anonymous

2006-11-24 03:48:45 · 9 answers · asked by AMY S 1

My son (30yrs) and his wife do not come over to visit any more and they don't want us at their house either. They have a little boy (our grandson) who is almost two year old now. We have not seen him since he was six months old. His wife does not visit or talk to us any more either. They are mad at us for various things(things we are not even aware of) Our son says they are mad at us and get even more mad because we do not understand why they are mad. Me and my wife have made repeated apologies and have tried to make things right. They seem to have no interest in getting back together. We write letters and send cards to try to stay in touch, but with no avail. Worst of all, we have a 13 yr old daughter still at home who misses her brother very much because he has no contact with her either. We pray for them every day and nothing changes. What should we do??
Miffed in the Midwest

2006-11-24 03:48:09 · 12 answers · asked by dbowles53 1

The daughter of a friend of mine, 13 yo,got a really harsh punishment for her mom, for bad behavior. For 1 month the girl, except for school time, has to be in bed all the time, including weekends and holydays. No TV, computer, etc. Friends just for homework at her bedside. The girl, of course, is allowed to use the bathroom, for the strictly necessary time.
Her mom said she has an electronic device similar to a camera, a kind of sensor that can register when the girl gets up and comes back to bed. So her mom can control her punishment without having to watch the girl 24/7. With such device she can know how many times the girl left her bed and for how much time, and decide if it was reasonable for bathrommneed or not.

I think this punishment is simply cruel and can cause seriuos psychological damages. In my opinion its even child abuse. Is it legal?

2006-11-24 03:36:42 · 20 answers · asked by Anonymous

my younger brother is 7 and he is so ignoring, please help me. he makes me cry, when i ask him to stop he wont. even when my parents ask him he still does. help me. he is doing something right now please help

2006-11-24 03:33:41 · 7 answers · asked by bailey4mail 2

2006-11-24 03:29:51 · 16 answers · asked by Anonymous

Do you all think its worth letting him know or not.He has not really contributed much to my upbringing apart from paying my rent in college(which i have to call and ask for) he has the money. He is so selfish at times he doesnt even know what city i live in he always asks me what city i live in can u imagine??

2006-11-24 03:16:57 · 6 answers · asked by Anonymous

Hi. I am 22 and i have been with my partner for 7 years, we have lived together in rented property for 3 years and we recently bought our first house together.

I think his mum has a problem with me. She is so nice to my face but horrible behind my back. When we first started going out she used to comment on my hair, clothes or make up - i never let it get to me. She has said some horible things about me.

She has recently told all of her family that i have been in hospital having tests and they have discovered i cant have children......It is soooooooo not true, i havent even been in hospital....
When my partner confronted her she denied it all and said she only said i wont ever have kids as i am a career girl. She does it to my partners brothers girlfriends too. She says things like "my god how much weight have you put on, you look pregnant?"

What is her problem???? This is causing arguments between me and my partner too coz i hate her but its his mum.

2006-11-24 02:43:23 · 25 answers · asked by Anonymous

2006-11-24 02:36:17 · 9 answers · asked by Anonymous

The mother of the child in question name is Chelly Quinones,the childs name is Damion Quinonesand they used to live in Elkhart, Indiana.I have not heard from them in 1 month and I am paying child support.

2006-11-24 02:32:17 · 13 answers · asked by paulker63 1

She isn't depressed..she has a part time job she loves..even though she does complain about a younger spanish girl there....but she has always been nasty to me as a child and to my daughter...and she calls her other friends "fat"....it's like she does not like people and I am about at my wits end with her...I am out of work at the moment..so it seems the ball is in her court (she is helping with rent...etc.) and she will say ugly things to me after the kids leave the house..ugly things about my child's friends...I just don't know how to deal with her for much longer...and I am afraid it will permanetly ruin our relationship....so her age may have something to her with her bitterness...but she has been this way for over30 years...what can I do to keep the peace without saying something out of anger???

2006-11-24 02:24:29 · 12 answers · asked by IM 1