When I moved out of my mother's house a few years ago, I went through a stage where I could be free to figure out who I am. I tried different things, liked some and hated others, some I was neutral on.
I have to move back into my mother's house due to financial problems (being broke).
And now they are driving me crazy trying to force me to be the person they want me to be, and not letting me just be myself.
My brother wants to compete with me with everything. If I bought a video game, he got 4. If I installed an inexpensive radio in my truck ($75), HE spent 2,000 dollars on a multimedia DVD, MP3 player, whatever. If I like a certain brand of beer, he has to go out and buy a more expensive brand and make sure I know it by leaving bottle caps and/or bottles out in plain sight.
If I mention that I went to an amusement park, he just HAD to say he went before me, ad nauseum.
Is he just immature or what- I really don't care if he has better than me- I get what I like.
2006-11-24 06:23:08 · 4 answers · asked by mageapprentice 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
Rise above it....he only wants a reaction from you so why give it to him. With the parents......just reassure them you love them and remind them that you are independent.
Just remember you are lucky that you still have the opportunity to move back home lots of others dont have that pleasure, so think were you would be if you couldnt go home to mum and dad.???
Work hard and save like crazy!
2006-11-24 06:29:36 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
sounds like sibling rivalry too me. he might be really insecure, when you left home he might of though that you were betraying him by leaving, or he might have seen it as you breaking new ground for both of you, becoming independent of your parents, but when you had to move back it proved that your parents were right. now he is just trying to find something stable. or maybe he wants you to know how much it hurt him that your bid for independence failed. he might be afraid that the same thing will happen to him, so he has to do better than you. especially if it annoys you and you show it. next time he does a one-better than you try telling him that you are happy than his is better or whatever. if you don't let him bother you he should stop trying to show you up. good luck and bless you
2006-11-24 14:48:05 · answer #2 · answered by nana 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Never mind buying things, plan on getting out of there by saving up and looking for some solid job.
Your parents are playing the famous "you live in my house so I expect you to live up to our expectations".
If you don't want to hear it do something with your life and get out of there.
Your brother has issues. Ignore his stupidity, or really screw him up by complimenting every thing he is getting than walking away. It will mess his head up.
2006-11-24 15:03:53 · answer #3 · answered by John E 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like an obnoxious twirp. Ignore him. Maybe if he ever realizes that you have to actually care to be one-upped by him, he'll quit.
2006-11-24 14:26:03 · answer #4 · answered by desiderio 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋